Go slowly, lots of foreplay, and use some KY. It may hurt a bit but it's definitely not an unbearable pain. Marrying a virgin Christian advice please?
First- Congratulations - and Kudos to your fiance' for staying with her convictions. You will have to be patient- use lots of cuddling, kissing, foreplay, touching,and clitoral stimulation,etc. -until she is relaxed, both mentally and physically -and ready to proceed to the next step. Be prepared with lubricant, condom, etc. - as she may not know what is needed. If she drinks- a glass of wine or champagne may help her relax. The key here is that you have to be able to hold back until she is ready (so handle your needs ahead of time if you need to) Getting her ';hot'; takes finesse on your part. She needs reassurance that you love her -that she turns you on -that you love her body, etc. - so talk to her. (Remember, sex is 90% mental - and women need to experience with all five senses.)
The first penetration may cause some discomfort - but if she is relaxed, lubricated and wanting it- the pain is less. Afterwards, get up and get a warm wet wash cloth for her- and clean her up- and continue to cuddle and kiss. Don't make her feel like - now that it's over, you don't want to touch her. She may not feel like a second go right away - and may be sore the next time - so go easy. Good luck.
My husband and I were both virgins on our wedding night. I'd think that since you've already had sex, you'd know how to be ';gentle enough';. I read the book ';Sheet Music'; about a month before we got married b/c I really had no idea what to expect. It didn't hurt at all. Buy some KY. Take your time with her. Maybe light some candles %26amp; have some smooth music playing (instrumental, like sax). Make sure she's satisfied before you are...
I think she's probably more nervous b/c you're NOT a virgin than she is about being one herself. She may feel like she needs to compete. And one of the reasons a lot of churches %26amp; youth pastors and all give people for waiting till they're married is b/c ';you'll always remember it. It will be an elephant in the room.'; Just make sure she knows that you don't care about anyone else but her. But I wasn't nervous on my wedding night, I was excited!
Everyone always sets themselves up that it's going to hurt and doesn't enjoy the moment. I remember losing my virginity only because it was a special moment. I t was a little painful, but he went slow so it wasn't too bad.
If you guys are really nervous, you might try a couple of drinks first to calm the nerves and relax you both. But take it slow and it will be magical for both of you.
well it is a very precious moment life every one scare.first make her warm by loving her too much.and put some soft cloth near by u n do it very gently n slow for two three time may she get hurt but after that she will enjoy . tc all the best.
nice and easy you both have got to relax or it could turn out bad for both of you. go with the flow and figure out what works the best for yall!
make sure she's relaxed and comfortable, the more tense the more pain
Have a towel under her and a soft cloth nearby to clean any blood that comes out.
Just be gentle and go slow.
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