If you have strayed from God, sometimes you must find Him again in tears. Fast and pray. Confess your faults to God, and 1 John 1:9 tells you that He will be faithful to _both_ forgive you, and to cleanse you from the sins in your life.
Seek Him again. Do not give up. God's angels are just waiting to come and defend you against the Enemy, if you will just press your case, through persistent faith in God, to His throne. ';Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you.'; James 4:8I lost God help!!:[ what do i do? im christian and i lost God any advice from anyone!!?
Although I'm skeptical of your question, I will say that in order to find God is on your knee and in prayer and study His word.I lost God help!!:[ what do i do? im christian and i lost God any advice from anyone!!?
I was raised a Christian. I can't remember if I lost God or if God lost me, but I know I won't forgive him for leaving me because he didn't forgive me.
I am now a Christian that believes in the true gods. I still search for Him but for other reasons.
You can keep looking but I'm sure the Mighty One will find you. Mysterious ways and the like.
Get back into prayer.
Do the sign of the cross and say ';In the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Amen';
Recite The Apostles Creed.
Pray the Lord's Prayer.
Repeat the first step.
Do this first thing in the morning and last thing at night. Really try to focus on the words and mean it.
You will be surprised at how much you will grow closer to God once you start praying this regularly (if you are truly sincere, that is.)
How did you loose him? He's not a set of car keys after all...
Try and remember where the last time you had it. Retrace your steps, then ask if there is a lost and found at that place.
Babydoll, you can stray away from God, but God will never stray away from you. He is always with you. I went through this same thing, but what I realized was that even when I wasnt following Him, He was still there with me. Get back into the Word. Read your Bible every day, and start talking to Him again. He loves you and He wants you to talk to Him. He created you to worship Him. Dont worry darlin', you have NOT lost God. You cant lose God, because He will never leave you. As you get back into the Word, and you start talking to Him more, you will feel closer to Him. You can email me if you need to talk. Love and Prayers%26lt;3
I know what you mean sister. It feels as though God is not listening to you right? God said draw near to me and I will draw near to you. please do not listen to that person who says Mary will lead you back to Jesus. Jesus said 'NO man comes to the Father but by me'; so to get to the Father one must go through Jesus. confess your sins and importantly forgive everyone that has hurt you. I am going to have to do that too. and when you have confessed any unconfessed sin and forgive then you can come before God through his precious Son Jesus and talk to God and ask him to come and meet you right where you are and to wrap his arms around you so you can feel his love in abundance. The Father and His Son Jesus loves you very much and you are precious in his sight. God bless you sister. Jesus said to Ask, Seek and Knock.
You can't lose God if you're a Christian. God is everywhere. You can find God by just calling out to Him.
Lose religion and you will find God.
Thankfully God is looking for you.
Stay in school.
It's what he would want.
Check under the sofa cushions.
I thought I heard him screaming from my trunk! Nope, so I guess he never existed.
You can't loose something that was never there.
Look within!! He is always there 'inside'...
There never was any god for you to lose.
Well then you logically couldn't call yourself a Christian anymore,right?
Find another religion to believe in.Or no religion at all.
If it was that easy for you to lose the supposed God,its not worth believing in if you ask me.
God is never lost.. though we may travel down a wrong road or 3 all you have to do is pray and ask God to be with you, to come into your heart, your life, your soul, and it shall be.
Happy Almost New Year!!
Carrie =)
Call the cops or local ASPCA?
Don't worry, be happy because you have found Hell.
You can never lose GOD!!!
Obviously, you have no real understanding of the Bible nor GOD...
Pray without ceasing
if you ask something from your parents some time they give you immediately some time they take time to give they wait for the right time to give you the same
Similar is our heavenly father is, as our parent takes care for us he takes care of us even where ever we are
We cant lost God He is Omni present.
More over you cant fix the nail by hammering once we have to hammer it again and again.
Thanks for the beautiful question you have asked i like this the most
i wish i could help you more.
I'd recommend praying the rosary. Mary will lead you back to her Son.
http://www.medjugorje.org/rosary.htm
The fifteen promises of Mary to Christians who recite the rosary:
1. Whoever shall faithfully serve me by the recitation of the Rosary shall receive signal graces.
2. I promise my special protection and the greatest graces to all those who shall recite the Rosary.
3. The Rosary shall be a powerful armor against Hell, it will destroy vice, decrease sin, and defeat heresies.
4. It will cause virtue and good works to flourish; it will obtain for souls the abundant mercy of God; it will withdraw the hearts of men from the love of the world and its vanities and will lift them to the desire of eternal things. Oh, that souls would sanctify themselves by this means.
5. The soul which recommends itself to me by the recitation of the Rosary, shall not perish.
6. Whoever shall recite the Rosary devoutly, applying himself to the consideration of its sacred mysteries, shall never be conquered by misfortune. God will not chastise him in His justice, he shall not perish by an unprovided death; if he be just, he shall remain in the grace of God and become worthy of eternal life.
7. Whoever shall have a true devotion for the Rosary shall not die without the Sacraments of the Church.
8. Those who are faithful to recite the Rosary shall have during their life and at their death the light of God and the plenitude of His graces; at the moment of death, they shall participate in the merits of the saints in Paradise.
9. I shall deliver from Purgatory those who have been devoted to the Rosary.
10. The faithful children of the Rosary shall merit a high degree of glory in Heaven.
11. You shall obtain all you ask of me by the recitation of the Rosary.
12. All those who propagate the Holy Rosary shall be aided by me in their necessities.
13. I have obtained from my Divine Son that all the advocates of the Rosary shall have for intercessors the entire Celestial Court during their life and at the hour of death.
14. All who recite the Rosary are my sons, and brothers of my only Son, Jesus Christ.
15. Devotion to my Rosary is a great sign of predestination.
Our Lady has 117 titles. She selected this title at Fatima: ';I am the Lady of the Rosary.';
St. Francis de Sales said the greatest method of praying IS- Pray the Rosary.
St. Thomas Aquinas preached 40 straight days in Rome, Italy on just the Hail Mary.
St. John Vianney, patron of priests, was seldom seen without a rosary in his hand.
';The rosary is the scourge of the devil'; -- Pope Adrian VI
';The rosary is a treasure of graces'; -- Pope Paul V
Padre Pio, the stigmatic priest, said: ';The Rosary is THE WEAPON';
Pope Leo XIII wrote 9 encyclicals on the rosary.
Pope John XXIII spoke 38 times about Our Lady and the Rosary. He prayed 15 decades daily.
St. Louis Marie Grignion de Montfort wrote: ';The rosary is the most powerful weapon to touch the Heart of Jesus, Our Redeemer, who so loves His Mother.';
Pope Pius XII: “There is no surer means of calling down God’s blessings upon the family…than the daily recitation of the Rosary.”
Pope Pius XII: “The Rosary is the compendium of the entire Gospel.”
God bless!
Dave
Friday, January 8, 2010
Christian teens- i'm looking for advice?
So i am a teenage, presbyterian girl in a sort of liberal church, recently i've been struggling with being open- minded and liberal, and conservative a listening to the more conservative interpretation of the bible. I live in a really open minded community and i love that. Some of the really conservative ideas i hear are crazy to me, some make sense. I feel like i should be a stricter Christian and that is partly what i am looking for- to feel more devoted and close to God.
I don't know how much sense that makes to everyone else but i would love some guidance.Christian teens- i'm looking for advice?
I'm a Christian teen too, and I understand your plight. All I can tell you is this: read your Bible and follow its principles. Don't listen to that deluded $mitty or whatever. God will guide you through life. Keep your faith, sister. There are so few of us in this world...Christian teens- i'm looking for advice?
What is up with all the vile answers? Someone announces she's a teen girl, and all the pervs come out of the woodwork.
My advice, not as a Christian (because I'm not), nor as a teen girl (but I was one once) is to be yourself. You must examine what it is that you really want. No one can decide this for you. And remember, life is a journey; you need not decide your entire fate and path in life in one day. Learn about yourself and what it is you want to be.
I suggest really examining how you feel about this. On the one hand you say you want to be a ';stricter Christian'; but on the other hand you say you love the ';really open minded community'; in which you live. These two conflict. You should ask yourself, does being a conservative Christian really bring you closer to your god? Are you trying to fit in with a different crowd? Or does the more stringent Christianity honestly appeal to you? These and more are questions you must answer.
Always remember to be true to yourself.
Good luck :)
Keep thinking godly things. If what you're thinking at any time is not godly, change what you're thinking about. In that way, you'll have a closer relationship with God through Jesus, and He'll draw closer to you.
Blessings
Catholics put tradition over the Word. Protestants put their own understanding above the Word. Liberals take liberties over the Word.
If you want a close walk with Jesus Christ, study His Word and obey it. Read the Word everyday prayerfully inviting God to speak to you through it.
It is good to go to a Church and encourage others and be encouraged. But don't let Church become a crutch, don't depend on other people. If you are looking to others you will be disapointed but keep your eyes on Jesus and His Word.
I know it sounds crazy to take the Word literally sometimes. But the bible does teach the rapture. The greek word used is harpazo. Quantum theory sounds crazy to. The only thing it has going for it is that it is absolutely true. The same with the rapture. May God bless you with wisdom, knowledge and understanding. Stay pure. Greg Laurie said ';Evangelize or fossilize';.
Ephesians 2:8 For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith鈥攁nd this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God鈥?9not by works, so that no one can boast.
1 Thessalonians 4:13 Brothers, we do not want you to be ignorant about those who died, or to grieve like the rest of men, who have no hope. 14We believe that Jesus died and rose again and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have died in him. 15According to the Lord's own word, we tell you that we who are still alive, who are left till the coming of the Lord, will certainly not precede those who have fallen asleep. 16For the Lord himself will come down from heaven, with a loud command, with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet call of God, and the dead in Christ will rise first. 17After that, we who are still alive and are left will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And so we will be with the Lord forever. 18Therefore encourage each other with these words.
Sorry for the rudeness you have been getting. This forum isn't safe today. We have had some pornographic intrusion and some seem particularly prone to attack. Please email me if you would like to discuss this. I am a United Methodist Pastor who is conservative but not fundamentalist. I have also been a youth pastor.
Pastor John
Salvation is an individual reward that comes from our Heavenly Father; it does not happen in groups no matter what religion you come from. Armor yourself by building a good relationship with our Heavenly Father by acquiring accurate knowledge of His truth, and applying this truth in your daily life, and help spread the good news of His Kingdom with others.
just be yourself, the really conservative stuff is actually anti-christian in practice.
here are some ideas: live for yourself and stop living for someone else, let no book mark your words
Ignore ';$mitty'; and ';Tom J'; It's the same person and he's been scribbling rubbish all over Yahoo. I think he's a little bit mentally unwell.
I think you're looking for a sense of order but you don't have to look to the Bible for that. As you get older you won't need so much guidance but as a teenager it's a scary process trying to learn who you are and what to do without someone telling you.
My feeling is that you are probably doing well enough already and you just want someone to reassure you that you're on the right path.
Just pray to God for Guidance in what you should do in your community. Just tell him what your dealing with and he will guide and direct you to be more devoted and close to him.
James 1:27 (New International Version)
27Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.
Liberal thought does the first and not the
second thing in this verse!
Do BOTH and you will be wise!
Sincerely,
Kaboodle
I don't know how much sense that makes to everyone else but i would love some guidance.Christian teens- i'm looking for advice?
I'm a Christian teen too, and I understand your plight. All I can tell you is this: read your Bible and follow its principles. Don't listen to that deluded $mitty or whatever. God will guide you through life. Keep your faith, sister. There are so few of us in this world...Christian teens- i'm looking for advice?
What is up with all the vile answers? Someone announces she's a teen girl, and all the pervs come out of the woodwork.
My advice, not as a Christian (because I'm not), nor as a teen girl (but I was one once) is to be yourself. You must examine what it is that you really want. No one can decide this for you. And remember, life is a journey; you need not decide your entire fate and path in life in one day. Learn about yourself and what it is you want to be.
I suggest really examining how you feel about this. On the one hand you say you want to be a ';stricter Christian'; but on the other hand you say you love the ';really open minded community'; in which you live. These two conflict. You should ask yourself, does being a conservative Christian really bring you closer to your god? Are you trying to fit in with a different crowd? Or does the more stringent Christianity honestly appeal to you? These and more are questions you must answer.
Always remember to be true to yourself.
Good luck :)
Keep thinking godly things. If what you're thinking at any time is not godly, change what you're thinking about. In that way, you'll have a closer relationship with God through Jesus, and He'll draw closer to you.
Blessings
Catholics put tradition over the Word. Protestants put their own understanding above the Word. Liberals take liberties over the Word.
If you want a close walk with Jesus Christ, study His Word and obey it. Read the Word everyday prayerfully inviting God to speak to you through it.
It is good to go to a Church and encourage others and be encouraged. But don't let Church become a crutch, don't depend on other people. If you are looking to others you will be disapointed but keep your eyes on Jesus and His Word.
I know it sounds crazy to take the Word literally sometimes. But the bible does teach the rapture. The greek word used is harpazo. Quantum theory sounds crazy to. The only thing it has going for it is that it is absolutely true. The same with the rapture. May God bless you with wisdom, knowledge and understanding. Stay pure. Greg Laurie said ';Evangelize or fossilize';.
Ephesians 2:8 For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith鈥攁nd this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God鈥?9not by works, so that no one can boast.
1 Thessalonians 4:13 Brothers, we do not want you to be ignorant about those who died, or to grieve like the rest of men, who have no hope. 14We believe that Jesus died and rose again and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have died in him. 15According to the Lord's own word, we tell you that we who are still alive, who are left till the coming of the Lord, will certainly not precede those who have fallen asleep. 16For the Lord himself will come down from heaven, with a loud command, with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet call of God, and the dead in Christ will rise first. 17After that, we who are still alive and are left will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And so we will be with the Lord forever. 18Therefore encourage each other with these words.
Sorry for the rudeness you have been getting. This forum isn't safe today. We have had some pornographic intrusion and some seem particularly prone to attack. Please email me if you would like to discuss this. I am a United Methodist Pastor who is conservative but not fundamentalist. I have also been a youth pastor.
Pastor John
Salvation is an individual reward that comes from our Heavenly Father; it does not happen in groups no matter what religion you come from. Armor yourself by building a good relationship with our Heavenly Father by acquiring accurate knowledge of His truth, and applying this truth in your daily life, and help spread the good news of His Kingdom with others.
just be yourself, the really conservative stuff is actually anti-christian in practice.
here are some ideas: live for yourself and stop living for someone else, let no book mark your words
Ignore ';$mitty'; and ';Tom J'; It's the same person and he's been scribbling rubbish all over Yahoo. I think he's a little bit mentally unwell.
I think you're looking for a sense of order but you don't have to look to the Bible for that. As you get older you won't need so much guidance but as a teenager it's a scary process trying to learn who you are and what to do without someone telling you.
My feeling is that you are probably doing well enough already and you just want someone to reassure you that you're on the right path.
Just pray to God for Guidance in what you should do in your community. Just tell him what your dealing with and he will guide and direct you to be more devoted and close to him.
James 1:27 (New International Version)
27Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.
Liberal thought does the first and not the
second thing in this verse!
Do BOTH and you will be wise!
Sincerely,
Kaboodle
Christian teens- i'm looking for advice?
So i am a teenage, presbyterian girl in a sort of liberal church, recently i've been struggling with being open- minded and liberal, and conservative a listening to the more conservative interpretation of the bible. I live in a really open minded community and i love that. Some of the really conservative ideas i hear are crazy to me, some make sense. I feel like i should be a stricter Christian and that is partly what i am looking for- to feel more devoted and close to God.
I don't know how much sense that makes to everyone else but i would love some guidance.Christian teens- i'm looking for advice?
I'm a Christian teen too, and I understand your plight. All I can tell you is this: read your Bible and follow its principles. Don't listen to that deluded $mitty or whatever. God will guide you through life. Keep your faith, sister. There are so few of us in this world...Christian teens- i'm looking for advice?
What is up with all the vile answers? Someone announces she's a teen girl, and all the pervs come out of the woodwork.
My advice, not as a Christian (because I'm not), nor as a teen girl (but I was one once) is to be yourself. You must examine what it is that you really want. No one can decide this for you. And remember, life is a journey; you need not decide your entire fate and path in life in one day. Learn about yourself and what it is you want to be.
I suggest really examining how you feel about this. On the one hand you say you want to be a ';stricter Christian'; but on the other hand you say you love the ';really open minded community'; in which you live. These two conflict. You should ask yourself, does being a conservative Christian really bring you closer to your god? Are you trying to fit in with a different crowd? Or does the more stringent Christianity honestly appeal to you? These and more are questions you must answer.
Always remember to be true to yourself.
Good luck :)
Keep thinking godly things. If what you're thinking at any time is not godly, change what you're thinking about. In that way, you'll have a closer relationship with God through Jesus, and He'll draw closer to you.
Blessings
Catholics put tradition over the Word. Protestants put their own understanding above the Word. Liberals take liberties over the Word.
If you want a close walk with Jesus Christ, study His Word and obey it. Read the Word everyday prayerfully inviting God to speak to you through it.
It is good to go to a Church and encourage others and be encouraged. But don't let Church become a crutch, don't depend on other people. If you are looking to others you will be disapointed but keep your eyes on Jesus and His Word.
I know it sounds crazy to take the Word literally sometimes. But the bible does teach the rapture. The greek word used is harpazo. Quantum theory sounds crazy to. The only thing it has going for it is that it is absolutely true. The same with the rapture. May God bless you with wisdom, knowledge and understanding. Stay pure. Greg Laurie said ';Evangelize or fossilize';.
Ephesians 2:8 For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith鈥攁nd this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God鈥?9not by works, so that no one can boast.
1 Thessalonians 4:13 Brothers, we do not want you to be ignorant about those who died, or to grieve like the rest of men, who have no hope. 14We believe that Jesus died and rose again and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have died in him. 15According to the Lord's own word, we tell you that we who are still alive, who are left till the coming of the Lord, will certainly not precede those who have fallen asleep. 16For the Lord himself will come down from heaven, with a loud command, with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet call of God, and the dead in Christ will rise first. 17After that, we who are still alive and are left will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And so we will be with the Lord forever. 18Therefore encourage each other with these words.
Sorry for the rudeness you have been getting. This forum isn't safe today. We have had some pornographic intrusion and some seem particularly prone to attack. Please email me if you would like to discuss this. I am a United Methodist Pastor who is conservative but not fundamentalist. I have also been a youth pastor.
Pastor John
Salvation is an individual reward that comes from our Heavenly Father; it does not happen in groups no matter what religion you come from. Armor yourself by building a good relationship with our Heavenly Father by acquiring accurate knowledge of His truth, and applying this truth in your daily life, and help spread the good news of His Kingdom with others.
just be yourself, the really conservative stuff is actually anti-christian in practice.
here are some ideas: live for yourself and stop living for someone else, let no book mark your words
Ignore ';$mitty'; and ';Tom J'; It's the same person and he's been scribbling rubbish all over Yahoo. I think he's a little bit mentally unwell.
I think you're looking for a sense of order but you don't have to look to the Bible for that. As you get older you won't need so much guidance but as a teenager it's a scary process trying to learn who you are and what to do without someone telling you.
My feeling is that you are probably doing well enough already and you just want someone to reassure you that you're on the right path.
Just pray to God for Guidance in what you should do in your community. Just tell him what your dealing with and he will guide and direct you to be more devoted and close to him.
James 1:27 (New International Version)
27Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.
Liberal thought does the first and not the
second thing in this verse!
Do BOTH and you will be wise!
Sincerely,
Kaboodledental cosmetics
I don't know how much sense that makes to everyone else but i would love some guidance.Christian teens- i'm looking for advice?
I'm a Christian teen too, and I understand your plight. All I can tell you is this: read your Bible and follow its principles. Don't listen to that deluded $mitty or whatever. God will guide you through life. Keep your faith, sister. There are so few of us in this world...Christian teens- i'm looking for advice?
What is up with all the vile answers? Someone announces she's a teen girl, and all the pervs come out of the woodwork.
My advice, not as a Christian (because I'm not), nor as a teen girl (but I was one once) is to be yourself. You must examine what it is that you really want. No one can decide this for you. And remember, life is a journey; you need not decide your entire fate and path in life in one day. Learn about yourself and what it is you want to be.
I suggest really examining how you feel about this. On the one hand you say you want to be a ';stricter Christian'; but on the other hand you say you love the ';really open minded community'; in which you live. These two conflict. You should ask yourself, does being a conservative Christian really bring you closer to your god? Are you trying to fit in with a different crowd? Or does the more stringent Christianity honestly appeal to you? These and more are questions you must answer.
Always remember to be true to yourself.
Good luck :)
Keep thinking godly things. If what you're thinking at any time is not godly, change what you're thinking about. In that way, you'll have a closer relationship with God through Jesus, and He'll draw closer to you.
Blessings
Catholics put tradition over the Word. Protestants put their own understanding above the Word. Liberals take liberties over the Word.
If you want a close walk with Jesus Christ, study His Word and obey it. Read the Word everyday prayerfully inviting God to speak to you through it.
It is good to go to a Church and encourage others and be encouraged. But don't let Church become a crutch, don't depend on other people. If you are looking to others you will be disapointed but keep your eyes on Jesus and His Word.
I know it sounds crazy to take the Word literally sometimes. But the bible does teach the rapture. The greek word used is harpazo. Quantum theory sounds crazy to. The only thing it has going for it is that it is absolutely true. The same with the rapture. May God bless you with wisdom, knowledge and understanding. Stay pure. Greg Laurie said ';Evangelize or fossilize';.
Ephesians 2:8 For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith鈥攁nd this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God鈥?9not by works, so that no one can boast.
1 Thessalonians 4:13 Brothers, we do not want you to be ignorant about those who died, or to grieve like the rest of men, who have no hope. 14We believe that Jesus died and rose again and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have died in him. 15According to the Lord's own word, we tell you that we who are still alive, who are left till the coming of the Lord, will certainly not precede those who have fallen asleep. 16For the Lord himself will come down from heaven, with a loud command, with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet call of God, and the dead in Christ will rise first. 17After that, we who are still alive and are left will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And so we will be with the Lord forever. 18Therefore encourage each other with these words.
Sorry for the rudeness you have been getting. This forum isn't safe today. We have had some pornographic intrusion and some seem particularly prone to attack. Please email me if you would like to discuss this. I am a United Methodist Pastor who is conservative but not fundamentalist. I have also been a youth pastor.
Pastor John
Salvation is an individual reward that comes from our Heavenly Father; it does not happen in groups no matter what religion you come from. Armor yourself by building a good relationship with our Heavenly Father by acquiring accurate knowledge of His truth, and applying this truth in your daily life, and help spread the good news of His Kingdom with others.
just be yourself, the really conservative stuff is actually anti-christian in practice.
here are some ideas: live for yourself and stop living for someone else, let no book mark your words
Ignore ';$mitty'; and ';Tom J'; It's the same person and he's been scribbling rubbish all over Yahoo. I think he's a little bit mentally unwell.
I think you're looking for a sense of order but you don't have to look to the Bible for that. As you get older you won't need so much guidance but as a teenager it's a scary process trying to learn who you are and what to do without someone telling you.
My feeling is that you are probably doing well enough already and you just want someone to reassure you that you're on the right path.
Just pray to God for Guidance in what you should do in your community. Just tell him what your dealing with and he will guide and direct you to be more devoted and close to him.
James 1:27 (New International Version)
27Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.
Liberal thought does the first and not the
second thing in this verse!
Do BOTH and you will be wise!
Sincerely,
Kaboodle
If you're a Christian, please help me here??? Advice?
So last school year I had a crush on this girl I liked in my class. We started as acquantinces until we flirted a lot with each other. So I spent many days wondering whether she liked me. I prayed for God to give me a sign if she likes me, and he did! One day, she made it so obvious she liked me! So I was happy, and started thinking we might end up together. But then school ended, and we lost contact with each other. So I now Ive been really confused about all this. I cant seem to figure if he's telling me to move on from her, or wait for her, as I'll probably see her next school year. What should I do?? Im really confused??If you're a Christian, please help me here??? Advice?
Just wait you never know whats going to happen. You might end up together you might not. If not don't beat yourself up there is a reason God didn't want yall to be together.If you're a Christian, please help me here??? Advice?
Why do i have to be a christian to answer this question ?
I'm not christian but, If you know any of her friends, try to get her msn/phone number/Facebook/myspace or whatever.
And keep contact through the summer and give it a shot when school starts again.
Call her. Ask her to go to a movie and see what she has to say. If you don't drive maybe your mom can take you.
If she brushes you off it wasn't meant to be. There will probably be lots of girls come and go in your life until the right one comes along.
';But I say unto you, that whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath commited adultery with her already in his heart.'; Matthew 5:28
REPENT REPENT SINNER%26gt;
I'd suggest go back in time and get her phone number but since you can't do that I'd just recommend you wait and find out, the answer will come with time.
If it is supposed to be, it will be. Just wait!
Why must we be Christian to answer this?
Just wait you never know whats going to happen. You might end up together you might not. If not don't beat yourself up there is a reason God didn't want yall to be together.If you're a Christian, please help me here??? Advice?
Why do i have to be a christian to answer this question ?
I'm not christian but, If you know any of her friends, try to get her msn/phone number/Facebook/myspace or whatever.
And keep contact through the summer and give it a shot when school starts again.
Call her. Ask her to go to a movie and see what she has to say. If you don't drive maybe your mom can take you.
If she brushes you off it wasn't meant to be. There will probably be lots of girls come and go in your life until the right one comes along.
';But I say unto you, that whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath commited adultery with her already in his heart.'; Matthew 5:28
REPENT REPENT SINNER%26gt;
I'd suggest go back in time and get her phone number but since you can't do that I'd just recommend you wait and find out, the answer will come with time.
If it is supposed to be, it will be. Just wait!
Why must we be Christian to answer this?
If you are a Christian, I'll take some advice.?
How can I break through the bondage of my own insecurities and self-perceptions? I know in my head that God loves me through all, that I am a child of His, and that in Him I have His unending strength, but how do I let that actually manifest itself in my life?
I struggle with minor addictions, a negative self-image, and feeling unworthy.If you are a Christian, I'll take some advice.?
I am a Christian, and yet, I do too struggle with feeling like I am someone of worth. I just have to remind myself, Jesus died for ';mankind'; so we can be with Him. If he was willing to bring himself into human form, to live, to die so young, and such a horrible death, for me, I am someone. I have to try my best daily to say that. We all have our own talents and abiliities, and as long as we do as God wants us to, then it helps. My calling is to teach and martial arts. If I do those, and for God, I feel better. Bind the devil from such words that are not of God. Dig deeper into faith, and find those who will lift you up.If you are a Christian, I'll take some advice.?
Learn more about God and Jesus through reading the Bible.
Moses felt unworthy
Paul had to pummel his body and lead it as a slave. ( no real harm). 1 cor. 9:27
Mary of Magdalene was thought to be a prostitute. she probably had some image problems.
They all have one thing in common they keep doing Gods will. It will be work to stop doing bad things but god will send you holy spirit to help you.
You should find a Jehovah's Witness
Depending on the degree of your negative self-image, you might need professional counseling. But regardless of other things, you need to systematically and religiously read your Bible. I suggest the book of Proverbs because it is full of wisdom and having 31 chapters, you can read a chapter each day of the month. Also, you might read some of Joel Osteen's books........this is his specialty and I'm sure it would help you. God bless you.
Well, first thing to know is that you don't have to be worthy to approach our God. He'll meet you where you are.
Second thing, with addictions, well, they're tough. Trust me, I know. All you can do is remember it is a choice. We choose to give in or not. The more we choose not to give in the less we do it.
Third thing is - when you tell yourself people are talking about you, thinking negative things about you, etc. They're not.
Romans 8:35-39 (New International Version)
New International Version (NIV)
Copyright 漏 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society
35Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? 36As it is written:
';For your sake we face death all day long;
we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered.';[a] 37No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. 38For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,[b] neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, 39neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Jesus IS there for you, no matter what.
Surrender to Him by admitting your problems to Him, %26amp; leave it at the foot of the cross, knowing that God WILL help you.
You let the devil run your life, with minor addictions, negativity. That makes you unworthy. Pray, repent, and stand firm on the Word of God, the Bible. Read it and study it, everyday. Then you will change, because God will change you.
Get some Good Teaching CD's from a GODly Teacher.
Then, Learn Who You Are In-Christ by Studying those CD's.
Kenneth Copeland
Fort Worth, Texas
No, I don't work for him.
The Authority of the Believer is a good start!
This will blow you away.
your image should be of Christ, not yourself.
When you learn to be Christlike, people will see Jesus, not you.
2 Corinthians 10';4-6
There is a time for everything under the sun, and it is time for you to just have faith that Jesus is who he says he is and that He will do what He says He will do. In the name of Jesus Amen
well, considering that you've been a Christian your entire life you might consider, just for a moment, that your religious indoctrination might play at least some part in the cultivation of your negative self image. i mean, the basic dogma of your religion is that you are born of sin, sin that caused the often graphically described suffering and death of your god's son and that you must believe in his human blood sacrifice in order not to be damned to eternal torture. if you have internalized these very negative concepts, relate them to yourself, then add that your parents likely re enforced these dreadful concepts daily it's no wonder you have such a poor self image.
I believe in the saying, ';give your best and God will take care of the rest.'; God is not a dispenser of goodies. He is also not a babysitter at our beck and call. Like a good Father he does not want to spoil us. He wants us to be what we can be with as little help from him as much as possible. There is a divine plan for your life. The main objective of that plan is to get you to heaven. Ask God to help you discern what is best for you every step of the way.
If you haven't accepted Christ as your savior. Accept Christ as your savior, admit your a sinner and ask for forgiveness of you sins. If you have then pray.
Listen to this song:
http://youtube.com/watch?v=2JJ2-SzDff8%26amp;m鈥?/a>
Pray for guidance and peace.
I struggle with minor addictions, a negative self-image, and feeling unworthy.If you are a Christian, I'll take some advice.?
I am a Christian, and yet, I do too struggle with feeling like I am someone of worth. I just have to remind myself, Jesus died for ';mankind'; so we can be with Him. If he was willing to bring himself into human form, to live, to die so young, and such a horrible death, for me, I am someone. I have to try my best daily to say that. We all have our own talents and abiliities, and as long as we do as God wants us to, then it helps. My calling is to teach and martial arts. If I do those, and for God, I feel better. Bind the devil from such words that are not of God. Dig deeper into faith, and find those who will lift you up.If you are a Christian, I'll take some advice.?
Learn more about God and Jesus through reading the Bible.
Moses felt unworthy
Paul had to pummel his body and lead it as a slave. ( no real harm). 1 cor. 9:27
Mary of Magdalene was thought to be a prostitute. she probably had some image problems.
They all have one thing in common they keep doing Gods will. It will be work to stop doing bad things but god will send you holy spirit to help you.
You should find a Jehovah's Witness
Depending on the degree of your negative self-image, you might need professional counseling. But regardless of other things, you need to systematically and religiously read your Bible. I suggest the book of Proverbs because it is full of wisdom and having 31 chapters, you can read a chapter each day of the month. Also, you might read some of Joel Osteen's books........this is his specialty and I'm sure it would help you. God bless you.
Well, first thing to know is that you don't have to be worthy to approach our God. He'll meet you where you are.
Second thing, with addictions, well, they're tough. Trust me, I know. All you can do is remember it is a choice. We choose to give in or not. The more we choose not to give in the less we do it.
Third thing is - when you tell yourself people are talking about you, thinking negative things about you, etc. They're not.
Romans 8:35-39 (New International Version)
New International Version (NIV)
Copyright 漏 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society
35Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? 36As it is written:
';For your sake we face death all day long;
we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered.';[a] 37No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. 38For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,[b] neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, 39neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Jesus IS there for you, no matter what.
Surrender to Him by admitting your problems to Him, %26amp; leave it at the foot of the cross, knowing that God WILL help you.
You let the devil run your life, with minor addictions, negativity. That makes you unworthy. Pray, repent, and stand firm on the Word of God, the Bible. Read it and study it, everyday. Then you will change, because God will change you.
Get some Good Teaching CD's from a GODly Teacher.
Then, Learn Who You Are In-Christ by Studying those CD's.
Kenneth Copeland
Fort Worth, Texas
No, I don't work for him.
The Authority of the Believer is a good start!
This will blow you away.
your image should be of Christ, not yourself.
When you learn to be Christlike, people will see Jesus, not you.
2 Corinthians 10';4-6
There is a time for everything under the sun, and it is time for you to just have faith that Jesus is who he says he is and that He will do what He says He will do. In the name of Jesus Amen
well, considering that you've been a Christian your entire life you might consider, just for a moment, that your religious indoctrination might play at least some part in the cultivation of your negative self image. i mean, the basic dogma of your religion is that you are born of sin, sin that caused the often graphically described suffering and death of your god's son and that you must believe in his human blood sacrifice in order not to be damned to eternal torture. if you have internalized these very negative concepts, relate them to yourself, then add that your parents likely re enforced these dreadful concepts daily it's no wonder you have such a poor self image.
I believe in the saying, ';give your best and God will take care of the rest.'; God is not a dispenser of goodies. He is also not a babysitter at our beck and call. Like a good Father he does not want to spoil us. He wants us to be what we can be with as little help from him as much as possible. There is a divine plan for your life. The main objective of that plan is to get you to heaven. Ask God to help you discern what is best for you every step of the way.
If you haven't accepted Christ as your savior. Accept Christ as your savior, admit your a sinner and ask for forgiveness of you sins. If you have then pray.
Listen to this song:
http://youtube.com/watch?v=2JJ2-SzDff8%26amp;m鈥?/a>
Pray for guidance and peace.
I'm a christian girl, and need spiritual advice on this guy I like...?
He and i know each other from highschool, I've always had the biggest crush on him and always used to try to talk to him but my shyness always took over. About two weeks ago we bumped into each other on campus and exchanged numbers. Come to find out he had a big crush on me too and just so happened to have recently dedicated his life to God (plus!). As i speak to him I'm constantly reminded that he is everything I want and I've been praying for but the only problem is... he has an unsaved girlfriend who he seems to be in question about why he's with her because they are constantly fighting. What do i do???I'm a christian girl, and need spiritual advice on this guy I like...?
don't get involved romantically until they've ended their relationshipI'm a christian girl, and need spiritual advice on this guy I like...?
I must confess that yours is a hard problem.First of all,since you and your potential boyfriend are both Christians,are you both the same kind?Are you both Baptist,Methodist,etc;or does that just not matter to you?I mean you can see where Jehova Witness and Catholic would have basic disagreements and you may end up with as many arguments as he and his girlfriend.Barring that problem,let's say you're both on the same page spiritually.Then your obligation for both of you is to see if you can bring this girlfriend into Christ.If she is full-blown atheist and all she does is go around and round with you about it,then the relationship seems to already be a failed one.If,however she is amenable to accepting Christ,then you should encourage her or at least the boyfriend should to become a Christian.After that,if the relationship still fails,you have done everything you possibly could to do the right thing.It's hard but you must endure for the time being....Best Regards
Just be his friend. Don't interfere in there relationship. Give him good advice. Show him that you're not like the other girls even though you like him. He will really respect you down the road. Tell him to talk to his gf about how he feels. Always give positive feedback. If a guy is meant for you it will be regardless. You wouldn't have to steal him or con your way to get him. I have a really nice guy friend. I use to like him back in the day but we never hooked up. But, now I'm married to a great guy and I wouldn't trade him for the world. This is just a test!
Maybe you should just be friends for now. If he and his girlfriend are fighting that much, you'll get your chance.
The fact that he already has a girlfriend is a problem. Relationships should have a foundation of honesty and integrity. You should not sell yourself short by being ';the other girl';. Another red flag is that he is always in conflict with his GF and you should consider that the fighting may be a sign of wrong doing on his end as well and not just hers. I would just be upfront with him if I were you. Tell him how you feel and if he is truly the guy GOD wants in your life, then he would be just for you and there would not be a need to share him!
How long has this guy been saved? Tell him that cheating aint from Jesus....can I get an Amen?
Work your charm, girl! He's going to drop her soon.
As a Christian myself, i'll give you the Christian answer = Give it up to God. (Or Lay it down. You pick what term you want to use:) If you give this to God and seriously ask for His will for your life, you are gonna Love and Adore and have the biggest crush on whatever guy God destened for your life.
To do that, just keep being his friend, help him through this crisis of life and give him honest cousel (such as being unevenly yoked with an unbeliver).
Finally, dont trust in Yahoo for these types of answers, but in the future ask your Pastor or his wife.
Be Encouraged
you wait in the wings and then when it falls apart you go for the kill.
don't get involved romantically until they've ended their relationshipI'm a christian girl, and need spiritual advice on this guy I like...?
I must confess that yours is a hard problem.First of all,since you and your potential boyfriend are both Christians,are you both the same kind?Are you both Baptist,Methodist,etc;or does that just not matter to you?I mean you can see where Jehova Witness and Catholic would have basic disagreements and you may end up with as many arguments as he and his girlfriend.Barring that problem,let's say you're both on the same page spiritually.Then your obligation for both of you is to see if you can bring this girlfriend into Christ.If she is full-blown atheist and all she does is go around and round with you about it,then the relationship seems to already be a failed one.If,however she is amenable to accepting Christ,then you should encourage her or at least the boyfriend should to become a Christian.After that,if the relationship still fails,you have done everything you possibly could to do the right thing.It's hard but you must endure for the time being....Best Regards
Just be his friend. Don't interfere in there relationship. Give him good advice. Show him that you're not like the other girls even though you like him. He will really respect you down the road. Tell him to talk to his gf about how he feels. Always give positive feedback. If a guy is meant for you it will be regardless. You wouldn't have to steal him or con your way to get him. I have a really nice guy friend. I use to like him back in the day but we never hooked up. But, now I'm married to a great guy and I wouldn't trade him for the world. This is just a test!
Maybe you should just be friends for now. If he and his girlfriend are fighting that much, you'll get your chance.
The fact that he already has a girlfriend is a problem. Relationships should have a foundation of honesty and integrity. You should not sell yourself short by being ';the other girl';. Another red flag is that he is always in conflict with his GF and you should consider that the fighting may be a sign of wrong doing on his end as well and not just hers. I would just be upfront with him if I were you. Tell him how you feel and if he is truly the guy GOD wants in your life, then he would be just for you and there would not be a need to share him!
How long has this guy been saved? Tell him that cheating aint from Jesus....can I get an Amen?
Work your charm, girl! He's going to drop her soon.
As a Christian myself, i'll give you the Christian answer = Give it up to God. (Or Lay it down. You pick what term you want to use:) If you give this to God and seriously ask for His will for your life, you are gonna Love and Adore and have the biggest crush on whatever guy God destened for your life.
To do that, just keep being his friend, help him through this crisis of life and give him honest cousel (such as being unevenly yoked with an unbeliver).
Finally, dont trust in Yahoo for these types of answers, but in the future ask your Pastor or his wife.
Be Encouraged
you wait in the wings and then when it falls apart you go for the kill.
Some advice for spirits i dont mean to be a christian?
If this happened in your home you might believe:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oJoCAoLvl鈥?/a>
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ysW2szxEN鈥?/a>
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=29afny8s8鈥?/a>
When and if you get an experience..it will change you.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oJoCAoLvl鈥?/a>
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ysW2szxEN鈥?/a>
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=29afny8s8鈥?/a>
When and if you get an experience..it will change you.
Need Christian help! Personal problem, need advice?
I had been working on the yes on 8 campaign in california, and I'm worried that it is starting to affect me negatively. I am, in all seriousness, becoming sexually aroused at bad times and for bad reasons. Everytime during the protests, I would yell at the gays one of our list .. ie. Adam and Steve ect, I would become slighly aroused. When it first passed, I saw a girl fall down and cry, and what should have been a moment of somber victory.. the girl crying turned me on. I cannot explain it, is there a condition that turns people on when they have a priviledge from god others don't have? I am worried, that maybe I have given way to arrogance, and taken pride in my victory, and this is god's punishment.
Advice? Please, I don't need any straight haters or atheists ridiculing me... I've had enough of those types.Need Christian help! Personal problem, need advice?
No, absolutely there isn't a condition with the symptoms you describe. A ';condition'; implies there's a cookie cutter answer for you, and that someone could come along with a pill for you to take and make it go away. I think there's a different answer here.
First of all, it is possible you have given yourself in to arrogance and pride, but God is not in the business of meting out punishments like this. Becoming aroused at an inappropriate time can lead to discouragement, anger, self-doubt, and may even lead you to sin. God would never, ever do something like that.
I think that you are under attack by the enemy. Mainstream Christianity tells us that there is not an enemy; this is false. A religion that acknowledges God, Jesus, and angels but says that Satan and demons are a problem of the past is living in blissful ignorance.
The enemy wants to wound you at the very core of your being, to stop you from fulfilling the role that God has set out for you. Jn 10:10 says, ';The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy.'; And he does this in a very sneaky way, the same way he deceived Eve with the apple. He doesn't control you, he doesn't try to force you to do his will. He spins little lies that sound like truths.
I don't know much about you or your situation but the lies I hear in your story are:
1. Look at what a terrible person you are, having feelings you shouldn't have. You're not fit to serve God. You're a deviant, perverted.
2. God is punishing you for how terrible you are.
This wound has been allowed to heal over and then been ripped open again, by ';straight haters and atheists ridiculing'; you. The result the Enemy is hoping for, is to take you out of the fight, because the truth is that you are a danger to him.
So, the next step for you is to renounce any agreements you may have made with the Enemy's lies. Then spend some time in quiet prayer. Don't worry about getting rid of these feelings just yet. First, let God speak into your heart truths to displace the lies of Satan.
Then, later, maybe in a few days, ask God to show you what He would have you do next and what the next steps are. If you turn to other humans to help you, you are leaning on us, and however well intentioned we are we may lead you astray.
The best advice anyone can give a brother in Christ is this: Listen to Jesus, then do what he tells you.
Good luck, and let us know how everything turns out.Need Christian help! Personal problem, need advice?
Since you're still a bigot, you obviously haven't had enough ';straight haters'; as you call them, or atheists, ridiculing you.
By the way - are straight people who oppose discrimination ';straight haters'; according to you?
It is inordinate passion, and every person is tempted to sin, when they are attracted of their own lusts, and flattered; then when the lust has imagined or invented the idea, it brings forth sin. We must turn our eyes from seeing of evil, and shut our ears from hearing of it.
FanTASTIC troll
Had me going for a bit lol. Homophobes are actually likely to get aroused by gay people. You lost me at ';the girl crying turned me on'; because it's hard to believe anyone would have 2 strange, unrelated fettishes
Edit it a little and you'll be sweet
8.5/10
You might be into that stuff. Its nothing you can help.
After you confront gays, give yourself some break. Then, duke it out again.
And now I take a drink.
I'd like to believe that this was a stupid joke made by an atheist, but it might not be. Man, we've reached a sad time in history.
Seems to me that your getting aroused at times of adrenaline rush. So maybe its the 'thrill' that turns you on. Some people get turned on by jumping out of planes and stuff. Weird in my opinion, but men are strange creatures. haha I don't think its really anything to be concerned about. Just pray and give it to God, and try to keep your thought process in line. Its hard to control our flesh sometimes, but it IS possible. Everyone goes through these times of trial.
God bless and help you...just trust and obey and you'll get through it.
BUHAHAHAHAHA!
You meant this as a joke right?
You really don't get aroused thinking of the 8,000 plus marriages that your vote may have disintegrated, right?
It sounds like you get aroused from power or seeing people who are in tough situations.It sounds a bit psychopathic, to be honest. Rapists for instance get aroused from having power over others or seeing others lose control.
Still, you can't be serious. Maybe Exodus International could abuse -- cough -- I mean help you with such a ';problem.';
Advice? Please, I don't need any straight haters or atheists ridiculing me... I've had enough of those types.Need Christian help! Personal problem, need advice?
No, absolutely there isn't a condition with the symptoms you describe. A ';condition'; implies there's a cookie cutter answer for you, and that someone could come along with a pill for you to take and make it go away. I think there's a different answer here.
First of all, it is possible you have given yourself in to arrogance and pride, but God is not in the business of meting out punishments like this. Becoming aroused at an inappropriate time can lead to discouragement, anger, self-doubt, and may even lead you to sin. God would never, ever do something like that.
I think that you are under attack by the enemy. Mainstream Christianity tells us that there is not an enemy; this is false. A religion that acknowledges God, Jesus, and angels but says that Satan and demons are a problem of the past is living in blissful ignorance.
The enemy wants to wound you at the very core of your being, to stop you from fulfilling the role that God has set out for you. Jn 10:10 says, ';The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy.'; And he does this in a very sneaky way, the same way he deceived Eve with the apple. He doesn't control you, he doesn't try to force you to do his will. He spins little lies that sound like truths.
I don't know much about you or your situation but the lies I hear in your story are:
1. Look at what a terrible person you are, having feelings you shouldn't have. You're not fit to serve God. You're a deviant, perverted.
2. God is punishing you for how terrible you are.
This wound has been allowed to heal over and then been ripped open again, by ';straight haters and atheists ridiculing'; you. The result the Enemy is hoping for, is to take you out of the fight, because the truth is that you are a danger to him.
So, the next step for you is to renounce any agreements you may have made with the Enemy's lies. Then spend some time in quiet prayer. Don't worry about getting rid of these feelings just yet. First, let God speak into your heart truths to displace the lies of Satan.
Then, later, maybe in a few days, ask God to show you what He would have you do next and what the next steps are. If you turn to other humans to help you, you are leaning on us, and however well intentioned we are we may lead you astray.
The best advice anyone can give a brother in Christ is this: Listen to Jesus, then do what he tells you.
Good luck, and let us know how everything turns out.Need Christian help! Personal problem, need advice?
Since you're still a bigot, you obviously haven't had enough ';straight haters'; as you call them, or atheists, ridiculing you.
By the way - are straight people who oppose discrimination ';straight haters'; according to you?
It is inordinate passion, and every person is tempted to sin, when they are attracted of their own lusts, and flattered; then when the lust has imagined or invented the idea, it brings forth sin. We must turn our eyes from seeing of evil, and shut our ears from hearing of it.
FanTASTIC troll
Had me going for a bit lol. Homophobes are actually likely to get aroused by gay people. You lost me at ';the girl crying turned me on'; because it's hard to believe anyone would have 2 strange, unrelated fettishes
Edit it a little and you'll be sweet
8.5/10
You might be into that stuff. Its nothing you can help.
After you confront gays, give yourself some break. Then, duke it out again.
And now I take a drink.
I'd like to believe that this was a stupid joke made by an atheist, but it might not be. Man, we've reached a sad time in history.
Seems to me that your getting aroused at times of adrenaline rush. So maybe its the 'thrill' that turns you on. Some people get turned on by jumping out of planes and stuff. Weird in my opinion, but men are strange creatures. haha I don't think its really anything to be concerned about. Just pray and give it to God, and try to keep your thought process in line. Its hard to control our flesh sometimes, but it IS possible. Everyone goes through these times of trial.
God bless and help you...just trust and obey and you'll get through it.
BUHAHAHAHAHA!
You meant this as a joke right?
You really don't get aroused thinking of the 8,000 plus marriages that your vote may have disintegrated, right?
It sounds like you get aroused from power or seeing people who are in tough situations.It sounds a bit psychopathic, to be honest. Rapists for instance get aroused from having power over others or seeing others lose control.
Still, you can't be serious. Maybe Exodus International could abuse -- cough -- I mean help you with such a ';problem.';
Christian Guy just married, Need help/advice ';Email buddy';?
I'm a Christian guy that has gotten married two months ago. I married a beautiful girl that is the same age but has been married before. I have many questions and things that I would like to talk to an outsider about that may give me some insight to wifes. Just an email buddy that can offer Christian advice for a maried husband. If interrested let me know.Christian Guy just married, Need help/advice ';Email buddy';?
You can ask advise but a great deal of being married is learning as you go along. I have been married once before my current marriage and I have obviously had more experience in being married then my husband and what I have learned no one could have taught. Just keep that in mind. You are welcome to message me or E-mail me and I will be willing to help where and when I can. (I think you can e-mail me through my profile.)Christian Guy just married, Need help/advice ';Email buddy';?
If you truly are a Christian, you should NOT have married a divorced woman. The bible says remarriage is adultery. If your wife had never married before and her former husband had never married before, they made covenant vows. God sees their marriage as valid and not yours. I'm sorry that is harsh, but it's the truth. Pastors and churches refuse to see the truth regarding marriage, divorce and remarriage.
Joey - who you need insight on is your wife - you need to know specifics of her wants and her needs, no stranger is going to be able to to tell you these things. Communication is one of the cornerstones to marriage, if you have questions, the person you should be talking to is your wife. Get through understanding marriage together - set your own boundaries.
Has to be christian advice? I would go more with practicial advice.
I am a christian married woman i have been married for a month and i would be happy to chat with you can email me at sweezygirljokiajoquan@yahoo.com
I don't think anyone can truely answer your questions as all people are different.
Your wife is different person from any other Christian wife. It is how God made human beings. It is what keeps life interesting.
If you have questions, you should ask your wife. Even if it is as simple as ';why do you do this'; or ';why do you act this way';. Just remember to be sincere in your questions and you will get a sincere answer.
Your wife will provide the best answers, better than any friend can provide.
i am a christian as well. have made my mistakes, but am finally settled into marriage. if you like just drop me a line. ohiojeff2004@yahoo.com love to talk relationship stuff, as i learn something new all the time.
I suggest you visit www.themarriagebed.com they have a lot of info from a christian point of view and they also have a huge forum that you can get on and there are lots of strong Christians to talk to. God Luck, man.
sure(married 7 years)
I would be happy to help, but what you really need is to find an older mentor that you can meet with face to face.
Think your headed in the wrong direction. You need to speak to your WIFE. Not a buddy, not a chat line, not a family member. Only she can express herself. Also since you are a Christian I would think you would know not to get other people involved in your marriage. It is between the both of you and GOD.
I can try my best...
sure I would like to help you out the best i i am also married been married for 6 years so i can help you out you can e-mail me at brenda94710@yahoo.comdental cosmetics
You can ask advise but a great deal of being married is learning as you go along. I have been married once before my current marriage and I have obviously had more experience in being married then my husband and what I have learned no one could have taught. Just keep that in mind. You are welcome to message me or E-mail me and I will be willing to help where and when I can. (I think you can e-mail me through my profile.)Christian Guy just married, Need help/advice ';Email buddy';?
If you truly are a Christian, you should NOT have married a divorced woman. The bible says remarriage is adultery. If your wife had never married before and her former husband had never married before, they made covenant vows. God sees their marriage as valid and not yours. I'm sorry that is harsh, but it's the truth. Pastors and churches refuse to see the truth regarding marriage, divorce and remarriage.
Joey - who you need insight on is your wife - you need to know specifics of her wants and her needs, no stranger is going to be able to to tell you these things. Communication is one of the cornerstones to marriage, if you have questions, the person you should be talking to is your wife. Get through understanding marriage together - set your own boundaries.
Has to be christian advice? I would go more with practicial advice.
I am a christian married woman i have been married for a month and i would be happy to chat with you can email me at sweezygirljokiajoquan@yahoo.com
I don't think anyone can truely answer your questions as all people are different.
Your wife is different person from any other Christian wife. It is how God made human beings. It is what keeps life interesting.
If you have questions, you should ask your wife. Even if it is as simple as ';why do you do this'; or ';why do you act this way';. Just remember to be sincere in your questions and you will get a sincere answer.
Your wife will provide the best answers, better than any friend can provide.
i am a christian as well. have made my mistakes, but am finally settled into marriage. if you like just drop me a line. ohiojeff2004@yahoo.com love to talk relationship stuff, as i learn something new all the time.
I suggest you visit www.themarriagebed.com they have a lot of info from a christian point of view and they also have a huge forum that you can get on and there are lots of strong Christians to talk to. God Luck, man.
sure(married 7 years)
I would be happy to help, but what you really need is to find an older mentor that you can meet with face to face.
Think your headed in the wrong direction. You need to speak to your WIFE. Not a buddy, not a chat line, not a family member. Only she can express herself. Also since you are a Christian I would think you would know not to get other people involved in your marriage. It is between the both of you and GOD.
I can try my best...
sure I would like to help you out the best i i am also married been married for 6 years so i can help you out you can e-mail me at brenda94710@yahoo.com
Christian guy's (only, please) advice?
Alright.. this is going to be kind of long :p Two sundays ago, at my churches youth small group, I was talking to my best friend while people were coming in, and a new guy walked right up to us and introduced himself. Really nice, sweet guy saying he'd just moved here. (-semi long talk about where he moved from, etc :p) we showed him where to go and I didn't see him the rest of the night. last sunday was a bonfire, I went with my friend and her boyfriend, and we saw him there. I was dying to go talk to him, but two (I feel kind bad saying this) but creepy girls were bombarding him. He did 'not' look happy to be there, and I'm kicking myself for not talking to him that sunday, but I think he is kind of interested in me, I would look at him alot, and he'd do the same.. but at one point my friends went to play volleyball, and I watched. and while I was watching I looked over at him and he was looking at me while he walked by, like seriously checking me out. (of course, when I told my friend about this she screamed in excitement :D) I'm trying to figure out what to do next sunday. I'm 'going' to talk to him, -he's still really new and needs friends- but I'm not sure what to do about the girls.. I don't want to act mean and tear him away, I just don't want to get on their bad sides. (btw, when they were talking to him (that whooole day) he would respond, and be polite.. but he 'rarely' looked them in the face.. my guy-friend there (best friend's boyfriend) said that he was 'totally' not interested because he was doing so) so, guys.. I'm a pretty open, not too shy person :D Any ideas what I should do this sunday? Like I said, I really don't want to be mean and pull him away from those girls, but I'll do whatever is necessary :) Thanks you guyss!Christian guy's (only, please) advice?
First off I think that he will thank you for pulling him away from those two girls. really. and if it is as you said, that he kept looking at you and smiling, it means (quite possibly) that he is interested in you. I think that next sunday you should just talk to him alot and if those other two girls talk to him (which they probably will try to do) I am sure that we will be nice and polite, but he will stay close to you... I guess a way of puting it is seeking your protection from them. I think that you have made it obvious that you are interested in him and you should get to know him and keep him close! Good luck and god be with you!Christian guy's (only, please) advice?
You should definately keep talking to him, as for the girls...he doesn't seem interested so it shuold not be a problem getting them out of the picture. Let him decide. I am sure you and him will get along fine.
Introduce yourself and offer to show him around
Shorten it down then ill answer it.
This too much for a straight guy to read.
tl;dr
try talkin to him more..lookin at him from afar will not solve anything...get close and talk to him
i have a great answer but as u can c in my avatar, im not a boy
D:
Hey, I'm a Christian, a guy and I'm 16 XD. Well, I think you should go up to him even if the girls are there and just talk in general to everyone in the group. If he sees your friendly he might want to talk alone. This probably won't be help at all. But anyway I tried XD. Bye x
I'd try to do something fun that stimulates conversation--movies are nice but you just sit there and stay quiet for hours! Something more interactive, like a fun game of tennis, going bike riding together, or even a hike initiates more conversation. He probably felt drawn to you moreso because you weren't one of those leechy, clinging girls. Maybe give him a tour of the neighborhood, help him meet new people and become acquainted with the area.
Good luck! :D Just be cool and calm and not afraid to laugh at yourself if you goof up. Showing him you're human will probably be much more favorable.
It sound to me like he likes you. Walk up to him and introduce yourself. If you like him alot then ask if he has an E-mail or something like that, and if he does ask for it so you can talk to him more often. And as for those creepy girls, don't mind them, he does not just belong to them! Just be cool and if he really is the one God will give you a sign. If not there are plenty of other guys out there. Also be careful with ';Christian guys only'; You will catch some heat from Atheists.
Hope this helps.
theres no rule that you cant talk to him jus because other girls are...remember he came up to you first, he made the first move, he's interested in you even if its only at a friendship level right now...jus talk to him and if he is as interested in you as he seems (with all the eye contact you two have had) then he'll talk to you too and you'll probably hit it off. Treat him as if he was jus a new guy that you want to make feel welcome...dont think too much abt the fact that u like him or that he may like you because that may make you too nervous and you wont act like yourself. Trust mi if you jus talk to him casually then if theres something there it will definatly grow, you'll probably be pleasently surprised :)
hmm well im a Christian girl but hmm i would just approach him just b like hey i havent talked to u in a while so r u still enjoying ur move or sumthing like sound interested in his life and if those girls r with him whisper in his ear and ask him if he wants to get away from them and tell him it seems like it and if he says yes just come up with some lame excuse to walk away
First off I think that he will thank you for pulling him away from those two girls. really. and if it is as you said, that he kept looking at you and smiling, it means (quite possibly) that he is interested in you. I think that next sunday you should just talk to him alot and if those other two girls talk to him (which they probably will try to do) I am sure that we will be nice and polite, but he will stay close to you... I guess a way of puting it is seeking your protection from them. I think that you have made it obvious that you are interested in him and you should get to know him and keep him close! Good luck and god be with you!Christian guy's (only, please) advice?
You should definately keep talking to him, as for the girls...he doesn't seem interested so it shuold not be a problem getting them out of the picture. Let him decide. I am sure you and him will get along fine.
Introduce yourself and offer to show him around
Shorten it down then ill answer it.
This too much for a straight guy to read.
tl;dr
try talkin to him more..lookin at him from afar will not solve anything...get close and talk to him
i have a great answer but as u can c in my avatar, im not a boy
D:
Hey, I'm a Christian, a guy and I'm 16 XD. Well, I think you should go up to him even if the girls are there and just talk in general to everyone in the group. If he sees your friendly he might want to talk alone. This probably won't be help at all. But anyway I tried XD. Bye x
I'd try to do something fun that stimulates conversation--movies are nice but you just sit there and stay quiet for hours! Something more interactive, like a fun game of tennis, going bike riding together, or even a hike initiates more conversation. He probably felt drawn to you moreso because you weren't one of those leechy, clinging girls. Maybe give him a tour of the neighborhood, help him meet new people and become acquainted with the area.
Good luck! :D Just be cool and calm and not afraid to laugh at yourself if you goof up. Showing him you're human will probably be much more favorable.
It sound to me like he likes you. Walk up to him and introduce yourself. If you like him alot then ask if he has an E-mail or something like that, and if he does ask for it so you can talk to him more often. And as for those creepy girls, don't mind them, he does not just belong to them! Just be cool and if he really is the one God will give you a sign. If not there are plenty of other guys out there. Also be careful with ';Christian guys only'; You will catch some heat from Atheists.
Hope this helps.
theres no rule that you cant talk to him jus because other girls are...remember he came up to you first, he made the first move, he's interested in you even if its only at a friendship level right now...jus talk to him and if he is as interested in you as he seems (with all the eye contact you two have had) then he'll talk to you too and you'll probably hit it off. Treat him as if he was jus a new guy that you want to make feel welcome...dont think too much abt the fact that u like him or that he may like you because that may make you too nervous and you wont act like yourself. Trust mi if you jus talk to him casually then if theres something there it will definatly grow, you'll probably be pleasently surprised :)
hmm well im a Christian girl but hmm i would just approach him just b like hey i havent talked to u in a while so r u still enjoying ur move or sumthing like sound interested in his life and if those girls r with him whisper in his ear and ask him if he wants to get away from them and tell him it seems like it and if he says yes just come up with some lame excuse to walk away
Christian/Religious Guys need your advice!! Can you look beyond a woman's past?
I was molested as a kid, and got into drugs and sex pretty young (14)and have recently (about 6 months) started going to church, I had never gone as a kid or anything, I accepted Jesus as my savior, I am going back to college, making new friends, and am in the process of changing my life. Also I've been clean for over two months, no drinking or drugs. But recently 2 guys I were interested in from church both said they liked me but only wanted to be friends b/c I've been with too many men, was a topless dancer, and have done drugs. It seems the only guys who want to date me are partiers or just want sex. So how do I get a nice guy? Whats the point of changing if no one can see who I am today??? I thoght christianity was all about forgiveness??? Christian/Religious Guys need your advice!! Can you look beyond a woman's past?
Yes, and so can God. When satan reminds you of your past, remind him of his future...which is specified in Revelation:
Rev 20:10 And the devil, who deceived them, was thrown into the lake of burning sulfur, where the beast and the false prophet had been thrown. They will be tormented day and night for ever and ever.
Jenna, Christianity IS all about forgiveness....you just met a couple of shortsighted Bob-better-than-thous....you deserve better....God has it in mind for you:
Jer 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,'; declares the LORD, ';plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
You said you're in college, but don't state your age....that's OK, I'm 50 and have kids nearly college age....I'm going to speak to you as if you were MY DAUGHTER:
The FIRST thing I want you to know is that you ain't done nothin' I ain't....except I'm a guy and never tried topless dancing, but as for your laundry list of other skeletons in your closet, I promise you I've outdone you in sex, drugs, alcohol and many other things I'm prudent enough NOT to post in a public domain.....I'm also a murderer. If you want details you can email me, I'm not posting information like that on Yahoo.
The SECOND thing I want you to know is Jesus is NOT concerned with your past: Psa 103:12 As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us.
If you read the Bible cover to cover (I've done it several times), you can see that if you went to Heaven and kicked out ALL the prostitutes, drug dealers, liars, murderers, and cheats....There would be NO ONE LEFT but God. By His grace, I have been clean for about 23 years and I am married to the best wife I could hope for.
When I MET my wife and we started getting serious, I spent an entire Saturday afternoon telling her all the nasty things I'd ever done, and she responded with the scripture I now give you:
Rom 5:20 Moreover the law entered, that the offence might abound. But where sin abounded, grace did much more abound:
Even Jesus stated that those who have been forgiven little, love little, but those who have been forgiven much, love much:
Luk 7:47 Wherefore I say unto thee, Her sins, which are many, are forgiven; for she loved much: but to whom little is forgiven, the same loveth little.
Stay in school, study hard, be encouraged in your Christian walk, forget those 2 guys, and PRAY about a guy in your future. DON'T be afraid to try another church...God has good plans for you. Real men love God, and don't expect their women's clothes off until the honeymoon.
Edit: Candi_k7 also gave you a wonderful answer.Christian/Religious Guys need your advice!! Can you look beyond a woman's past?
Jenna, congrats on accepting Jesus as your Savior! Welcome to the family. The problem with change is it takes others (who know your past) to believe the change. Let God lead you. If He has a special someone, that guy will love you for who you ARE and not hold the past against you. God bless! :o)
Yes I can. The girl I'm seeing right now was molested as a kid, got into drugs, ran away from home, was a prostitute for a while. That's all in the past and we have a great relationship right now. You are a good person and someday the right guy will see you for who you are and not what you were. Peace be with you my friend.
I almost forgot. She's had an abortion and she votes democrat.
Maybe that's just those guys personal preference, for a virgin or a close to virgin woman. I'm more concerned with attraction and chemistry; if a woman has a bad past, I would just like to be secure that she is not doing those things anymore.
You're right, of course. But given your history, you owe it to yourself to get tested for AIDS/STDs.
My wife and I BOTH did that.
That should put any guys at ease who are truly interested in you, not just your sex parts. God bless you.
I am VERY forgiving, Jenna, for the very simple reason that there is NOTHING that you have done that I haven't done already, long ago.
It would take one Hell of a woman to make ME a ';Nice Guy';, though.
Wow, what a couple of jerks. Just be patient. God is Love, and it will come your way.
Hi I am not a guy but I share your experiences..I was much older when I came to Christ than you are now. But like you I was molested as a young girl and was into drugs and I was an alcoholic before I was 17 I had also been with countless guys before I was 18. I did however met my husband before I became a Christian. You can overcome this first of all do not give into the temptation to return to your former life..keep living for God and make him your priority. Remember this scripture always ';Seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things will be given to you as well'; even though this passage is talking about food and clothes, I do believe it applies to everything we desire. Remember that you are a new creation, your sins have been forgiven, you do not need to tell everyone about your past unless your are sharing your testimony or something. You have had enough experience with sex to not have to be focused on getting a guy right now anyway, focus on your spiritual growth and everything will fall in place in its time. If you ever need anyone to talk to look me up and e-mail me. Also remember these SELF RIGHTEOUS boys that call themselves Christians but sit back and judge you are not imitators of Christ and you do not need to waste your time. Peace
Here is my advice [I looked beyond my wife's past and excepted her for who she is, not for what she did] : The first thing you need to do is to Pray to God for your soul mate! God will send him to you, he will be someone who is interested in you, not what you can do for or to them. This means that he is probably not going to someone who you may be 'interested in', try to look beyond their 'good looks' or lack thereof and ask them a lot of questions about themselves, get to know them, if this is the one that God has sent you then he will be a Godly man, kind and forgiving towards you, and not judgmental. He will also want to become your friend first. This is something that most do not do, and this is the reason for most of the divorces. They failed to become friends first, so after the first flush of passion faded, they had nothing in common to talk about and to build upon for their future, because that future is a conscious choice that both of you must make in order to have a happy marriage that will last a lifetime. It is the choice of whether to love or not to love the other. Love is not something that you 'fall into' it is always a conscious choice. He will also listen to you when you wish to talk and will not 'tune you out', but he will be interested in your opinions even if they do not coincide with his.
Jenna:
First of all as to you question: YES I can look beyond a girls past.
You see the bible says this:
';For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.';
Jesus Christ came and died on the cross for this very reason.
Your past is that...past.
The bible tells us this:
';If anyone be found in Christ he is a new creature, old things are cast away, behold all things become new.';
When the Pharasees wanted to stone the woman caught in the act of adultery, they brought her to Christ. She asked forgivness and Christ forgave her.
He said to the Parasees this:
';Let him who is without sin cast the first stone.';
When he looked up, all her accuses were gone.
You are forgiven and made new through our Savior Jesus Christ.
You are loved and perfect.
Those guys sould read and then practice what the bible teachs rather than just siting in church on Sunday and acting Christian.
God promices to grant us the desires of our hearts.
Continue to glorify the Lord with your life and He will bring you the RIGHT man into your life.
I totally understand where you are coming from.
Just so you know, I speak from experience.
Before I came to Christ, I lived a life filled with drugs, booze, crime and parties.
I lived with 3 exotic dancers.
I have been to prison.
But guess what, Jesus forgave me.
He saw past my past and saw His creation.
The bible does not say that it is worse to have danced topless than it is to be a glutton or a thief or a liar. Sin is sin...period.
You Jenna are forgiven!!!!!
You are NEW and those guys are in need of your prayers.
Keep a smile on your face and if you ever need a word of encoragement or a friend...you can email me anytime.
You are my sister in Christ and I'll be here for you.
Yes, and so can God. When satan reminds you of your past, remind him of his future...which is specified in Revelation:
Rev 20:10 And the devil, who deceived them, was thrown into the lake of burning sulfur, where the beast and the false prophet had been thrown. They will be tormented day and night for ever and ever.
Jenna, Christianity IS all about forgiveness....you just met a couple of shortsighted Bob-better-than-thous....you deserve better....God has it in mind for you:
Jer 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,'; declares the LORD, ';plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
You said you're in college, but don't state your age....that's OK, I'm 50 and have kids nearly college age....I'm going to speak to you as if you were MY DAUGHTER:
The FIRST thing I want you to know is that you ain't done nothin' I ain't....except I'm a guy and never tried topless dancing, but as for your laundry list of other skeletons in your closet, I promise you I've outdone you in sex, drugs, alcohol and many other things I'm prudent enough NOT to post in a public domain.....I'm also a murderer. If you want details you can email me, I'm not posting information like that on Yahoo.
The SECOND thing I want you to know is Jesus is NOT concerned with your past: Psa 103:12 As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us.
If you read the Bible cover to cover (I've done it several times), you can see that if you went to Heaven and kicked out ALL the prostitutes, drug dealers, liars, murderers, and cheats....There would be NO ONE LEFT but God. By His grace, I have been clean for about 23 years and I am married to the best wife I could hope for.
When I MET my wife and we started getting serious, I spent an entire Saturday afternoon telling her all the nasty things I'd ever done, and she responded with the scripture I now give you:
Rom 5:20 Moreover the law entered, that the offence might abound. But where sin abounded, grace did much more abound:
Even Jesus stated that those who have been forgiven little, love little, but those who have been forgiven much, love much:
Luk 7:47 Wherefore I say unto thee, Her sins, which are many, are forgiven; for she loved much: but to whom little is forgiven, the same loveth little.
Stay in school, study hard, be encouraged in your Christian walk, forget those 2 guys, and PRAY about a guy in your future. DON'T be afraid to try another church...God has good plans for you. Real men love God, and don't expect their women's clothes off until the honeymoon.
Edit: Candi_k7 also gave you a wonderful answer.Christian/Religious Guys need your advice!! Can you look beyond a woman's past?
Jenna, congrats on accepting Jesus as your Savior! Welcome to the family. The problem with change is it takes others (who know your past) to believe the change. Let God lead you. If He has a special someone, that guy will love you for who you ARE and not hold the past against you. God bless! :o)
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Yes I can. The girl I'm seeing right now was molested as a kid, got into drugs, ran away from home, was a prostitute for a while. That's all in the past and we have a great relationship right now. You are a good person and someday the right guy will see you for who you are and not what you were. Peace be with you my friend.
I almost forgot. She's had an abortion and she votes democrat.
Maybe that's just those guys personal preference, for a virgin or a close to virgin woman. I'm more concerned with attraction and chemistry; if a woman has a bad past, I would just like to be secure that she is not doing those things anymore.
You're right, of course. But given your history, you owe it to yourself to get tested for AIDS/STDs.
My wife and I BOTH did that.
That should put any guys at ease who are truly interested in you, not just your sex parts. God bless you.
I am VERY forgiving, Jenna, for the very simple reason that there is NOTHING that you have done that I haven't done already, long ago.
It would take one Hell of a woman to make ME a ';Nice Guy';, though.
Wow, what a couple of jerks. Just be patient. God is Love, and it will come your way.
Hi I am not a guy but I share your experiences..I was much older when I came to Christ than you are now. But like you I was molested as a young girl and was into drugs and I was an alcoholic before I was 17 I had also been with countless guys before I was 18. I did however met my husband before I became a Christian. You can overcome this first of all do not give into the temptation to return to your former life..keep living for God and make him your priority. Remember this scripture always ';Seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things will be given to you as well'; even though this passage is talking about food and clothes, I do believe it applies to everything we desire. Remember that you are a new creation, your sins have been forgiven, you do not need to tell everyone about your past unless your are sharing your testimony or something. You have had enough experience with sex to not have to be focused on getting a guy right now anyway, focus on your spiritual growth and everything will fall in place in its time. If you ever need anyone to talk to look me up and e-mail me. Also remember these SELF RIGHTEOUS boys that call themselves Christians but sit back and judge you are not imitators of Christ and you do not need to waste your time. Peace
Here is my advice [I looked beyond my wife's past and excepted her for who she is, not for what she did] : The first thing you need to do is to Pray to God for your soul mate! God will send him to you, he will be someone who is interested in you, not what you can do for or to them. This means that he is probably not going to someone who you may be 'interested in', try to look beyond their 'good looks' or lack thereof and ask them a lot of questions about themselves, get to know them, if this is the one that God has sent you then he will be a Godly man, kind and forgiving towards you, and not judgmental. He will also want to become your friend first. This is something that most do not do, and this is the reason for most of the divorces. They failed to become friends first, so after the first flush of passion faded, they had nothing in common to talk about and to build upon for their future, because that future is a conscious choice that both of you must make in order to have a happy marriage that will last a lifetime. It is the choice of whether to love or not to love the other. Love is not something that you 'fall into' it is always a conscious choice. He will also listen to you when you wish to talk and will not 'tune you out', but he will be interested in your opinions even if they do not coincide with his.
Jenna:
First of all as to you question: YES I can look beyond a girls past.
You see the bible says this:
';For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.';
Jesus Christ came and died on the cross for this very reason.
Your past is that...past.
The bible tells us this:
';If anyone be found in Christ he is a new creature, old things are cast away, behold all things become new.';
When the Pharasees wanted to stone the woman caught in the act of adultery, they brought her to Christ. She asked forgivness and Christ forgave her.
He said to the Parasees this:
';Let him who is without sin cast the first stone.';
When he looked up, all her accuses were gone.
You are forgiven and made new through our Savior Jesus Christ.
You are loved and perfect.
Those guys sould read and then practice what the bible teachs rather than just siting in church on Sunday and acting Christian.
God promices to grant us the desires of our hearts.
Continue to glorify the Lord with your life and He will bring you the RIGHT man into your life.
I totally understand where you are coming from.
Just so you know, I speak from experience.
Before I came to Christ, I lived a life filled with drugs, booze, crime and parties.
I lived with 3 exotic dancers.
I have been to prison.
But guess what, Jesus forgave me.
He saw past my past and saw His creation.
The bible does not say that it is worse to have danced topless than it is to be a glutton or a thief or a liar. Sin is sin...period.
You Jenna are forgiven!!!!!
You are NEW and those guys are in need of your prayers.
Keep a smile on your face and if you ever need a word of encoragement or a friend...you can email me anytime.
You are my sister in Christ and I'll be here for you.
Christian dating with some problems.Advice Please?
Earlier in the day,my boyfriend texted me yesterday and he said that a girl that is close to his grandma said that I cheated on him,he said she thinks she is hating.I dont know this girl,and she keeps buggin him about it,and its getting to his head.
Later on on the middle of the night last night he called me because he said something was bothering him and it on his mind.What happened was that the same girl and him were in the room,and they were getting ready for a party earlier that day, she asked if he can put lotion on her.He admitted,it was just her legs.So then he leaves,and then this girl strips naked and goes in the room and kisses him.He said he didn't do anything,and i want to believe him and said he was call me later today to talk more about this,i couldnt handle the thought yesterday.We are both saved christians,WE DONT HAVE SEX,and we know thats till marriage,and I want to handle this the right way without buggin out,but I dont know how.Christian dating with some problems.Advice Please?
He made a big mistake putting lotion on her legs. Remember in the Old Testament, Joseph fled from Potiphar's wife. I don't think you can trust him. I'd give him his walking papers if he can't convince you that it was a one-time lapse in judgement, apologize and promise to never be in the same room alone with her again. Christian dating with some problems.Advice Please?
Calm down. If your boyfriend is worthy of your trust, then accept his explanation. If you don't trust him, dump him.
It sounds to me like one of two things happened here:
1. Jealous girl tries to con boy into sleeping with her. When he refuses her advances, she spreads rumors about his girlfriend.
2. Boy cheats on girlfriend and lies about it.
You must decide which one is more likely, based on what you know about your boyfriend.
Pray for wisdom and powers of discernment. You bf was tempted but he says nothing else happened. Even Jesus Christ was tempted! No one is immune from temptation. Give this matter lots of prayer, lots of thought, and some time.
You shouldn't dump your boyfriend too hastily.
This is not God's plan for you. My advice? Say Goodbye...
Shortcakes,
Good for you and youcommitmentnt to stay pure. This situation would be much more difficult to handle had you had an intimate relationship with him.
This must be so upsetting for you. Without knowing him, it's hard to make a firm judgment call, but I gotta say, it doesn't sound good.
If I were you, I would see if he were willing to have nothing more to do with this girl. The Bible tells us to flee when this kind of thing happens.
If he insists that he should still be her friend or even continue to talk her etc.. I would move on. Also, if you would find out that he lied to you and something happened between them, still move on. Temptation will always be a part of a person's life. You don't want to make a lifetime commitmentnt to someone who is going to break your heart over and over.
It's also possible that in case he gets caught, he's got the ';but I thought you had cheated on me, and that's why I did it';.
Later on on the middle of the night last night he called me because he said something was bothering him and it on his mind.What happened was that the same girl and him were in the room,and they were getting ready for a party earlier that day, she asked if he can put lotion on her.He admitted,it was just her legs.So then he leaves,and then this girl strips naked and goes in the room and kisses him.He said he didn't do anything,and i want to believe him and said he was call me later today to talk more about this,i couldnt handle the thought yesterday.We are both saved christians,WE DONT HAVE SEX,and we know thats till marriage,and I want to handle this the right way without buggin out,but I dont know how.Christian dating with some problems.Advice Please?
He made a big mistake putting lotion on her legs. Remember in the Old Testament, Joseph fled from Potiphar's wife. I don't think you can trust him. I'd give him his walking papers if he can't convince you that it was a one-time lapse in judgement, apologize and promise to never be in the same room alone with her again. Christian dating with some problems.Advice Please?
Calm down. If your boyfriend is worthy of your trust, then accept his explanation. If you don't trust him, dump him.
It sounds to me like one of two things happened here:
1. Jealous girl tries to con boy into sleeping with her. When he refuses her advances, she spreads rumors about his girlfriend.
2. Boy cheats on girlfriend and lies about it.
You must decide which one is more likely, based on what you know about your boyfriend.
Pray for wisdom and powers of discernment. You bf was tempted but he says nothing else happened. Even Jesus Christ was tempted! No one is immune from temptation. Give this matter lots of prayer, lots of thought, and some time.
You shouldn't dump your boyfriend too hastily.
This is not God's plan for you. My advice? Say Goodbye...
Shortcakes,
Good for you and youcommitmentnt to stay pure. This situation would be much more difficult to handle had you had an intimate relationship with him.
This must be so upsetting for you. Without knowing him, it's hard to make a firm judgment call, but I gotta say, it doesn't sound good.
If I were you, I would see if he were willing to have nothing more to do with this girl. The Bible tells us to flee when this kind of thing happens.
If he insists that he should still be her friend or even continue to talk her etc.. I would move on. Also, if you would find out that he lied to you and something happened between them, still move on. Temptation will always be a part of a person's life. You don't want to make a lifetime commitmentnt to someone who is going to break your heart over and over.
It's also possible that in case he gets caught, he's got the ';but I thought you had cheated on me, and that's why I did it';.
I am a christian, dating a mormon.. i need some advice about a few things.?
Ok well first off i am a single mom who has already been divorced.. and now raising my 11 month old son.. i am christian, and was raised that way. i do believe it's good to raise your children in your religon.. but i don't want him to think any other religon is wrong, that's for him to decide when he grows up.. ok so that's a little about me.. now i am dating a guy who is mormon.. and he has no problem dating me, or kissing me, any of those things.. even eventually getting romantically involved. but my question is.. is this all ok, i mean if i ever got married to a mormon, i would never become mormon, and i wouldn't raise my son that way. how would all of that work.. i have asked him about the way things work about marrying someone who isn't mormon, and he told me, it doesn't matter what the person is, mormon or not, if you love them, then people will except that you are both different. if we ever had kids. what religon would they be. i am not against his beliefs.I am a christian, dating a mormon.. i need some advice about a few things.?
You are getting some rational advice above, but, in matters of religion, esp. between a Mormon and a non-Mormon, there is nothing but hardship ahead for you both. I know of no successful Mormon and non-Mormon marriages, when both parties are deeply religious. Either you will have to convert or he will if you expect this to last.
My advice to you is to have some very frank discussions about the differences between your belief systems.
YOU need to do more research about Mormonism.
Start here:
Mormonism Summary:
http://www.carm.org/lds/nutshell.htm
Is Mormonism Christian?:
http://www.carm.org/lds/lds_christian.ht鈥?/a>
Doctrinal Writings of Mormon Leaders:
http://www.carm.org/lds/lds_doctrines.ht鈥?/a>
More details for those wanting to go deeper:
http://www.carm.org/mormon.htm
http://www.mormonchallenge.com/ref_compa鈥?/a>
http://www.mrm.org/I am a christian, dating a mormon.. i need some advice about a few things.?
He is right. If two people love one another then it should not matter. Even so love conquers all and you will work things out.
As for his Mormon family, they will get over it! Your kids can be whatever they choose to be, teaching them about Jesus Christ is all that matters.
When I married my husband he was not Mormon, he was getting baptized the following week. I do not know if i would marry him if he wasn't LDS, but it seems that your man doesn't mind!
It is very dangerous for a Christian to marry someone who has not made a heart and life commitment to Jesus Christ as Savior and Lord. To be ready for marriage spiritually means, first of all, that both parties involved have accepted Christ and eagerly intend to make Christ the Head of their home. To consider marriage without the possibility of spiritual agreement is to invite argument and unhappiness into the future household.
I would not guarantee that with becoming a Christian, the whole problem of marriage and the home is automatically solved. But I do say that complete fulfillment in marriage can never be realized outside of the life of Christ. ... I would advise every couple planning to establish a home to first come to a complete agreement on their religious faith. Amos 3:3 states: ';Can two walk together, except they be agreed?';
God ordained marriage to be a ';perfect triangle';鈥擥od, you, and your spouse. The closer each marriage partner lives to God, the closer each will live to the other. Such closeness is impossible when one spouse does not have a personal relationship with God. This is the reason the Bible says we should not be unequally yoked; read 2 Corinthians 6:14-15. The apostle Paul applies this principle in the case of widows when he writes, ';But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord'; (1 Corinthians 7:39b).
Spiritual unity is a very important part of marriage鈥攁nd if it is missing, your happiness will not be complete. This is one reason why the Bible warns, ';Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common?'; (2 Corinthians 6:14). I can't help but feel, however, that you are actually facing an even deeper issue鈥攁nd that is your own relationship with God. Perhaps you believe in God; you may even be a member of your church. But have you ever asked Christ to come into your life and committed yourself without reserve to Him? My prayer is that you will do so today.
Then pray for your boyfriend and ask God to bring him to Christ also. Life's greatest joy comes from walking with Christ鈥攁nd that joy is multiplied when a husband and wife walk together with Him.
One footnote, you say that it will be for your son to decide when gets older what faith is right for him. Well, faith is a personal decision that each of us has to make; but God has given you, the parent, the responsibility of teaching your child the ways of God. ';And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these commands that I am giving you today. Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up. Tie them to your hands and wear them on your forehead as reminders. Write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates'; (Deuteronomy 6:6-9). Clearly, God says parents are to see to it that children learn the Word of God in the home first and then in the church. May this be your desire as you to seek to raise your son.
Mormons are not judgemental but do hold to there faith firm I am one.
I was the same as you but on the revese side of the spectrum.
My wife was Mormon before me. For me to be with her it required mcuh change.
I had to stop drinking and smoking and all manners of unChristlike behavior to be married in the temple and to be with her before she would marry me. How can you fully trust a person if they are not obeying the commandments of God?
It was a hard change and she waited and endured much. It was worth it. We are very happy. For a relationship to sucessfull youi and your husband or partner need to be one in the same purpose. One cannot serve God and the other servce satan or have his or foot halfway in the door.
Mormon precepts are very good to live by and keep the adversary out of your life. If his family does not accept or help you then they are not being Christians. But I highly doubt that will be then case unless you do things that are very compromising to a relationship or family. They want you to learn and know the truth thats it.
Have you read the book of Mormon%26gt;?
Do you seek truth?
It is a promise in the book of Mormon that he who reads fully and asks in the name of Christ if the church and book are true that God will manifest the truth to the reader through the power of the holy ghost.
Once you know that it will set you two on the same path.
If you are really a christian then you know that divorce does not exist.So your relation with another man is fornication and adultery so you are damned.
If you decided to get a divorce then you are not acting like a christian. But you still claim that you are to question your relation with a mormon. So either religion is important for you or it is not. Either you are confused or you are hypocritical. That's a familiar pattern with christians that have a ';cafeteria'; approach to religion. They take what they want and ignore the rest.
Mays I suggest you drop religion all together and just enjoy a normal life ?
Wow, where to start... well first of all lip service Christianity is the same as no Christianity. Judging by what you wrote it sounds like to me all you have is religion. Religion will get you know where with GOD. GOD seeks a relationship with you and all of humanity. This can only be achieved through JESUS CHRIST HIS SON Jn 3:16-19 \ Rom 10:9-10. You said that you don't want to think any other religion is wrong.... the bible says that ONLY thru the name of JESUS can ';ANYONE'; be saved. What does that tell you about other religions? As for Mormonism... it is not Christianity. It is a cult. On the outside it appears Christian, but when you begin to dig deeper you see how much their doctrines differ from what the bible teaches. Look, here is the bottom line, you can do what you want, you are an adult... but my advice is to come to GOD on your knees and ask JESUS to come into your heart forgiving all your sins. Then seek HIS will in everything that you do and he will guide you. GOD has the perfect husband just waiting for you. Unfortunately satan has the perfect counterfeit waiting for you as well. You will not no the difference unless you first give your life to GOD by excepting JESUS as your Savior.
~GOD BLESS YOU AND LEAD YOU INTO HIS PERFECT WILL FOR YOUR LIFE AS YOU TRUST HIM MORE AND MORE, AMEN AND SO BE IT~
I have been married for 33 years to a mormon. He is fine with me not converting, I was raised Southern Baptist, but no longer go to church. However, the missionaries and Home Teachers still visit and try to convert me, they want me to join the Relief Society, teach Primary, etc. They are great people, take care of their own, but I have no interest in joining their church. The church will try to pressure you into converting, they will tell you that you won't be able to be with your husband in Heaven if you are not sealed in the Temple, and you cannot do that if you are not a member of their church. No matter how many times I tell them I am not interested, they still have not given up on me.
...If you are a true believer in Christ, if you've trusted in Him alone as your savior, what are you doing fooling around with some guy who's in a cult?
...Observe 2 Corinthians 6:14-15:
...14 Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?
...15 Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?
**************************************鈥?br>
...There is no verse that calls you to missionary dating. If you stick with this bird, you are headed for a life of uncertainty and misery. It will stunt your spiritual growth, and you'll be disobeying God's word.
...BREAK IT OFF, GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN.
You may want to talk about it....if he's really into his religion, he may not be willing to marry you if you won't change to his.
cant you see what religion is doing to you?............you cant even socialize with someone who isnt your religion..........let go of christianity you will be much happier
it's complicated.
When you marry a mormon, you marry the mormon religion. If you ever try to stay away from it, you will inevitably pull him away from it, and his family will inevitably think you are the devil. Mormons are taught that ';there are two churches only: the church of the Lamb (the Mormon Church), and the church of the devil (all other churches; or, a more apologetic response: all that goes against the mormon church).
I wish you good luck, but if the family is ';way into their religion';, you will have a VERY hard time.
The Bible says that we need to be ';equally yoked'; meaning that we need to be at a equal spiritual state.
But it's hard.
He's probably a great guy and all but here's couple of things:
You want him to love you right?
See if he sacrifices for you
See if he give you grace
See if he give you freedom
See if he will be obedient to God and the Bible
This is the love God demonstrated when he died on the cross, right?
These things would lead you both to uncover truth and you would be a great motivator for him to see.
How strong is his belief? Would he follow an elders directive, because if he doesn't he could be shunned . Could he handle that ? Could he handle being shunned by his family? Or would he put his belief on the back burner? I think you both should sit down with church elders and lay your cards on the table. I believe that one of you would have to compromise your belief and I can't see him doing it in view of his family.You would not be married in the morman church if you didn't become one.A lot depends on where you live . Is there a strong morman presence where you live? That will surely affect the situation. All I can do is wish you luck.
wow, quite the dilemma. it sounds like this isn't much of an issue for him, but his family might be a different story. is he going to stand up for you to his family if they say things against you? it's great to raise your son learning about different faiths being as acceptable as his own, thank you for that. my son's best friend is christian/jewish. his parents have been happily married for more than 20 years. i attended the boy's bar mitzvah where his christian father read hebrew from the koran (i think that's what is it please excuse my ignorance) and so did his jewish mother. this boy sometimes goes to church with his father. so it can work out. personally i think it raises a well rounded individual who you can be very proud of. i and my kids are pagan but are exposed to and learn about many other religions, my spouse (their step father) is atheist. his father is catholic, his mother christian. they have never ever said one thing bad about my religion, as i have never said one bad thing about theirs.
just take things slowly and you'll know in your heart if it will work out : )
They are two contrasting different religions. Not everyone in Mormonism knows the deep tenants of their faith, as with Christians. Listen to what others say about not being unequally yoked to non-believers. Check out the link below for a great audio discussing some of the basic beliefs of Mormonism, and you'll find much of it quite scary. If you'd like, post a message on my blog w/ your email addy and I'll give you a few more pieces of info regarding the matter.
oh yeh, as wordman says above, true Christianity is not a religion: my mistake
theres is no god
no past life @#$% either!!!
no heaven an hell too!!!!
no fortune tellers no horoscope @#$% either!!!
no adam an eve crap!!!
no ghosts!!!
no fairies!!!
and no one can '; read '; your mind @#$% either!!!
pls get a life :)
thank you an have a nice day :)
First of all, Mormor belief is not all that dissimilar from Christian belief. In fact, they pretty much coincide with each other. The best thing to do in a situatio like that is to pray to God for understanding and guidance. Only He can give you the answers you seek. However, I will say this much. If a religion or belief does not coincide with what the Bible teaches the Lord tells us to rebuke it as a false teaching. As long as you both keep God in your life and in your heart He will help make it work for you. Just make sure that you stay open to receiving the word of God....
You are getting some rational advice above, but, in matters of religion, esp. between a Mormon and a non-Mormon, there is nothing but hardship ahead for you both. I know of no successful Mormon and non-Mormon marriages, when both parties are deeply religious. Either you will have to convert or he will if you expect this to last.
My advice to you is to have some very frank discussions about the differences between your belief systems.
YOU need to do more research about Mormonism.
Start here:
Mormonism Summary:
http://www.carm.org/lds/nutshell.htm
Is Mormonism Christian?:
http://www.carm.org/lds/lds_christian.ht鈥?/a>
Doctrinal Writings of Mormon Leaders:
http://www.carm.org/lds/lds_doctrines.ht鈥?/a>
More details for those wanting to go deeper:
http://www.carm.org/mormon.htm
http://www.mormonchallenge.com/ref_compa鈥?/a>
http://www.mrm.org/I am a christian, dating a mormon.. i need some advice about a few things.?
He is right. If two people love one another then it should not matter. Even so love conquers all and you will work things out.
As for his Mormon family, they will get over it! Your kids can be whatever they choose to be, teaching them about Jesus Christ is all that matters.
When I married my husband he was not Mormon, he was getting baptized the following week. I do not know if i would marry him if he wasn't LDS, but it seems that your man doesn't mind!
It is very dangerous for a Christian to marry someone who has not made a heart and life commitment to Jesus Christ as Savior and Lord. To be ready for marriage spiritually means, first of all, that both parties involved have accepted Christ and eagerly intend to make Christ the Head of their home. To consider marriage without the possibility of spiritual agreement is to invite argument and unhappiness into the future household.
I would not guarantee that with becoming a Christian, the whole problem of marriage and the home is automatically solved. But I do say that complete fulfillment in marriage can never be realized outside of the life of Christ. ... I would advise every couple planning to establish a home to first come to a complete agreement on their religious faith. Amos 3:3 states: ';Can two walk together, except they be agreed?';
God ordained marriage to be a ';perfect triangle';鈥擥od, you, and your spouse. The closer each marriage partner lives to God, the closer each will live to the other. Such closeness is impossible when one spouse does not have a personal relationship with God. This is the reason the Bible says we should not be unequally yoked; read 2 Corinthians 6:14-15. The apostle Paul applies this principle in the case of widows when he writes, ';But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord'; (1 Corinthians 7:39b).
Spiritual unity is a very important part of marriage鈥攁nd if it is missing, your happiness will not be complete. This is one reason why the Bible warns, ';Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common?'; (2 Corinthians 6:14). I can't help but feel, however, that you are actually facing an even deeper issue鈥攁nd that is your own relationship with God. Perhaps you believe in God; you may even be a member of your church. But have you ever asked Christ to come into your life and committed yourself without reserve to Him? My prayer is that you will do so today.
Then pray for your boyfriend and ask God to bring him to Christ also. Life's greatest joy comes from walking with Christ鈥攁nd that joy is multiplied when a husband and wife walk together with Him.
One footnote, you say that it will be for your son to decide when gets older what faith is right for him. Well, faith is a personal decision that each of us has to make; but God has given you, the parent, the responsibility of teaching your child the ways of God. ';And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these commands that I am giving you today. Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up. Tie them to your hands and wear them on your forehead as reminders. Write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates'; (Deuteronomy 6:6-9). Clearly, God says parents are to see to it that children learn the Word of God in the home first and then in the church. May this be your desire as you to seek to raise your son.
Mormons are not judgemental but do hold to there faith firm I am one.
I was the same as you but on the revese side of the spectrum.
My wife was Mormon before me. For me to be with her it required mcuh change.
I had to stop drinking and smoking and all manners of unChristlike behavior to be married in the temple and to be with her before she would marry me. How can you fully trust a person if they are not obeying the commandments of God?
It was a hard change and she waited and endured much. It was worth it. We are very happy. For a relationship to sucessfull youi and your husband or partner need to be one in the same purpose. One cannot serve God and the other servce satan or have his or foot halfway in the door.
Mormon precepts are very good to live by and keep the adversary out of your life. If his family does not accept or help you then they are not being Christians. But I highly doubt that will be then case unless you do things that are very compromising to a relationship or family. They want you to learn and know the truth thats it.
Have you read the book of Mormon%26gt;?
Do you seek truth?
It is a promise in the book of Mormon that he who reads fully and asks in the name of Christ if the church and book are true that God will manifest the truth to the reader through the power of the holy ghost.
Once you know that it will set you two on the same path.
If you are really a christian then you know that divorce does not exist.So your relation with another man is fornication and adultery so you are damned.
If you decided to get a divorce then you are not acting like a christian. But you still claim that you are to question your relation with a mormon. So either religion is important for you or it is not. Either you are confused or you are hypocritical. That's a familiar pattern with christians that have a ';cafeteria'; approach to religion. They take what they want and ignore the rest.
Mays I suggest you drop religion all together and just enjoy a normal life ?
Wow, where to start... well first of all lip service Christianity is the same as no Christianity. Judging by what you wrote it sounds like to me all you have is religion. Religion will get you know where with GOD. GOD seeks a relationship with you and all of humanity. This can only be achieved through JESUS CHRIST HIS SON Jn 3:16-19 \ Rom 10:9-10. You said that you don't want to think any other religion is wrong.... the bible says that ONLY thru the name of JESUS can ';ANYONE'; be saved. What does that tell you about other religions? As for Mormonism... it is not Christianity. It is a cult. On the outside it appears Christian, but when you begin to dig deeper you see how much their doctrines differ from what the bible teaches. Look, here is the bottom line, you can do what you want, you are an adult... but my advice is to come to GOD on your knees and ask JESUS to come into your heart forgiving all your sins. Then seek HIS will in everything that you do and he will guide you. GOD has the perfect husband just waiting for you. Unfortunately satan has the perfect counterfeit waiting for you as well. You will not no the difference unless you first give your life to GOD by excepting JESUS as your Savior.
~GOD BLESS YOU AND LEAD YOU INTO HIS PERFECT WILL FOR YOUR LIFE AS YOU TRUST HIM MORE AND MORE, AMEN AND SO BE IT~
I have been married for 33 years to a mormon. He is fine with me not converting, I was raised Southern Baptist, but no longer go to church. However, the missionaries and Home Teachers still visit and try to convert me, they want me to join the Relief Society, teach Primary, etc. They are great people, take care of their own, but I have no interest in joining their church. The church will try to pressure you into converting, they will tell you that you won't be able to be with your husband in Heaven if you are not sealed in the Temple, and you cannot do that if you are not a member of their church. No matter how many times I tell them I am not interested, they still have not given up on me.
...If you are a true believer in Christ, if you've trusted in Him alone as your savior, what are you doing fooling around with some guy who's in a cult?
...Observe 2 Corinthians 6:14-15:
...14 Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?
...15 Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?
**************************************鈥?br>
...There is no verse that calls you to missionary dating. If you stick with this bird, you are headed for a life of uncertainty and misery. It will stunt your spiritual growth, and you'll be disobeying God's word.
...BREAK IT OFF, GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN.
You may want to talk about it....if he's really into his religion, he may not be willing to marry you if you won't change to his.
cant you see what religion is doing to you?............you cant even socialize with someone who isnt your religion..........let go of christianity you will be much happier
it's complicated.
When you marry a mormon, you marry the mormon religion. If you ever try to stay away from it, you will inevitably pull him away from it, and his family will inevitably think you are the devil. Mormons are taught that ';there are two churches only: the church of the Lamb (the Mormon Church), and the church of the devil (all other churches; or, a more apologetic response: all that goes against the mormon church).
I wish you good luck, but if the family is ';way into their religion';, you will have a VERY hard time.
The Bible says that we need to be ';equally yoked'; meaning that we need to be at a equal spiritual state.
But it's hard.
He's probably a great guy and all but here's couple of things:
You want him to love you right?
See if he sacrifices for you
See if he give you grace
See if he give you freedom
See if he will be obedient to God and the Bible
This is the love God demonstrated when he died on the cross, right?
These things would lead you both to uncover truth and you would be a great motivator for him to see.
How strong is his belief? Would he follow an elders directive, because if he doesn't he could be shunned . Could he handle that ? Could he handle being shunned by his family? Or would he put his belief on the back burner? I think you both should sit down with church elders and lay your cards on the table. I believe that one of you would have to compromise your belief and I can't see him doing it in view of his family.You would not be married in the morman church if you didn't become one.A lot depends on where you live . Is there a strong morman presence where you live? That will surely affect the situation. All I can do is wish you luck.
wow, quite the dilemma. it sounds like this isn't much of an issue for him, but his family might be a different story. is he going to stand up for you to his family if they say things against you? it's great to raise your son learning about different faiths being as acceptable as his own, thank you for that. my son's best friend is christian/jewish. his parents have been happily married for more than 20 years. i attended the boy's bar mitzvah where his christian father read hebrew from the koran (i think that's what is it please excuse my ignorance) and so did his jewish mother. this boy sometimes goes to church with his father. so it can work out. personally i think it raises a well rounded individual who you can be very proud of. i and my kids are pagan but are exposed to and learn about many other religions, my spouse (their step father) is atheist. his father is catholic, his mother christian. they have never ever said one thing bad about my religion, as i have never said one bad thing about theirs.
just take things slowly and you'll know in your heart if it will work out : )
They are two contrasting different religions. Not everyone in Mormonism knows the deep tenants of their faith, as with Christians. Listen to what others say about not being unequally yoked to non-believers. Check out the link below for a great audio discussing some of the basic beliefs of Mormonism, and you'll find much of it quite scary. If you'd like, post a message on my blog w/ your email addy and I'll give you a few more pieces of info regarding the matter.
oh yeh, as wordman says above, true Christianity is not a religion: my mistake
theres is no god
no past life @#$% either!!!
no heaven an hell too!!!!
no fortune tellers no horoscope @#$% either!!!
no adam an eve crap!!!
no ghosts!!!
no fairies!!!
and no one can '; read '; your mind @#$% either!!!
pls get a life :)
thank you an have a nice day :)
First of all, Mormor belief is not all that dissimilar from Christian belief. In fact, they pretty much coincide with each other. The best thing to do in a situatio like that is to pray to God for understanding and guidance. Only He can give you the answers you seek. However, I will say this much. If a religion or belief does not coincide with what the Bible teaches the Lord tells us to rebuke it as a false teaching. As long as you both keep God in your life and in your heart He will help make it work for you. Just make sure that you stay open to receiving the word of God....
Help?need advice on how to talk to girl?(Prefer Christian answers)?
OK,I am a 14 year old Christian boy.I sorta have a crush o this girl at my church.I never see her without her friends.How do I go up and talk to this girl(Im afraid to)Help?need advice on how to talk to girl?(Prefer Christian answers)?
what does ';christian'; have to do with this? you think every religion has its own way of talking up girls?
just go up to her and say hi, talk about church, your surroundings, finish off by asking her outHelp?need advice on how to talk to girl?(Prefer Christian answers)?
hmm...do any of your friends know her friends, you could find a way to hang out with her in a group setting, if you have some good friends, they could help you out, being shy and trying to ask a girl out is a tough situation...I know
Just go talk to her. There is nothing to be afraid of. Talk about what was said in church that day.
talk about God
what does ';christian'; have to do with this? you think every religion has its own way of talking up girls?
just go up to her and say hi, talk about church, your surroundings, finish off by asking her outHelp?need advice on how to talk to girl?(Prefer Christian answers)?
hmm...do any of your friends know her friends, you could find a way to hang out with her in a group setting, if you have some good friends, they could help you out, being shy and trying to ask a girl out is a tough situation...I know
Just go talk to her. There is nothing to be afraid of. Talk about what was said in church that day.
talk about God
Actually I admire people who are truly Christian and live their faith from the advice and words of Jesus...?
but sadly, there are many many so-called Christians giving the entire group a bad reputation...
Comments?Actually I admire people who are truly Christian and live their faith from the advice and words of Jesus...?
I have often wondered, that persons who make a boast of professing the Christian religion, namely, love, joy, peace, temperance, and charity to all men, should quarrel with such rancorous animosity, and display daily towards one another such bitter hatred, that this, rather than the virtues they claim, is the readiest criterion of their faith. Matters have long since come to such a pass, that one can only pronounce a man Christian, Turk, Jew, or Heathen, by his general appearance and attire, by his frequenting this or that place of worship, or employing the phraseology of a particular sect鈥攁s for manner of life, it is in all cases the same.
Baruch Spinoza, Preface to the Theologico-Political Treatise (1677)Actually I admire people who are truly Christian and live their faith from the advice and words of Jesus...?
I have to agree with that. There are many people who call themselves Christian, but their behavior says otherwise. Unfortunately, they seem to be the ones with the loudest voices.
I am a Christian. Meaning I have a relationship with Jesus. It is sad that people use something so good for their own profits and distort the truth. The TV airways are full of them; Hin with is mansion in Malibu, the mega millionaires Crouch, etc. I think it is because so many people are in need, spiritually, that they fall for these fast talkers and don't know the Bible good enough to spot a fraud. If they just read the Bible before they listened to these false profits maybe they can see the lies. I pray before I read the Bible so I can determine what God wants to tell me and not the teaching of a man on TV wearing a $5000.00 suit.
On any given day, you could observe any Christian doing or saying something that is just wrong. It doesn't mean that is their normal character. We all sin intermittently. God convicts our hearts and we repent and make restitution in whatever way we need to. What you're talking about would have to be a lifestyle for the person. In that case, they may not be a Christian, or they may be a new Christian, who God is working on (change isn't instant, usually, though it can be). You know in any church service there are many people who play church that are not really believers. They do this for political reasons, or to be seen, or personal reasons....the point is you do not become a Christian by association. The true church is not a building, or an organization. It is the body of believers all over the world, unified by the Holy Spirit and the blood of Jesus, adopted by the Father in Heaven. Only God knows who is who and He tells us to not be concerned that the goats have mixed into the flocks of My sheep.....He will separate them on the Day of Judgement. I look at it like this; they may be coming to church services for the wrong reason, they may not be Christians at all, but, as long as they are among us, they just might hear the Lord speak to them and receive Jesus as Savior. God loves us all and waits for the unbeliever to seek Him out, so I think their chances are better in the church. Now, because of this, we all see people with the label ';Christian'; living life like they aren't.....because they really aren't. Please don't judge a group by an individual, God doesn't. The shame and bad reputation needs to be put on the individual, not the group.
I like penguins and all the penguins that will slaughter all you brain washed christians when the Penguin crusade happens.
Is this even a question?
That is so true. Many people say they are saved, but don';t live their life pleasing the Lord. When God saved me, He changed me. I became a new person. I have no desire for the sin in this world. He put a new song in my heart. One that wants to lift up His Holy name. I want to tell others how much Jesus loves them, and He will save them. I put my Faith, and Trust, in the Lord. He is the one who leads, and guides my life.
Humans are not perfect and will make mistakes.
If someone owned up to theirs, I forgive and move on. In general, people choose to fight, point fingers and cause drama instead of thinking for themselves - religion or not.
Who are you to judge anyone?
It's like that with all groups.
I agree with you. There are many wonderful Christians. Than you have the bigoted fundies.
I agree.
how nice of you
and how true a statement.
It is sad how the many ruin it for the few.
You are right. I think that Christians, in general, do try to speak out against those who are not practicing what Jesus taught. We are supposed to correct each other and help each other in our faith.
God Bless.
You do not have to follow the mob and adopt their mentality. Jesus never did. Christianity is a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and not a group relationship. Fellowship with other Christians is vital, but salvation and spiritual growth are dependent on a one-on-one relationship with God, who is Jesus. You are allowed to think for yourself and you are allowed to speak directly to God.
Throughout history people have judged whole groups of people because of the actions of a few. This is true for many different things. It is prejudice. Examples are (all Muslims bad because of the acts of a few, all Christians, all blacks, all whites, all Koreans, all Chinese, all Germans, all men, all women, all teenagers, all children, all old people, all northerners, all southerners all etc) any category you can think of is judged this way by people who are prejudice.
There are millions of people in the world that are hipocrites!! They say one thing and do another. They believe one way and act another. It doesn't have anything to do with being a ';christian';.
Actually, if the whole world would live according to JESUS' words, it would be a perfect place. Yes, sadly there are way to many bearers of the name ';Christian'; that don't live up to it. But hey, when there are a few that try to bear this name as worthily as they should, they seem like angels! It is rather hard though, especially when everyone around you lives like the devil....but I am trying, and most people think I'm weird :-) but the Bible says that when someone wants to make a difference, you have TO BE A LITTLE DIFFERENT FROM THE REST!! JESUS SAVES!!
Words of jesus barely carried any intelligence. Any philosopher would speak better than him.
Here's some True FACTS about christians:
hell was created by christians - so shall they go there, to burn in their hell!
christians have KILLED more people in the history of humanity than any other group.
christians have persecuted millions of ';non-believers'; just because they DIDN'T believe in ';christianity!
christians are by far the most brain-washed - brain-dead believers in the world today!
so...........................
do you admire them now???
Here's the Solution for christianity and religion:
Create a Private, Personal, Direct, Divine Relationship with Our Creator and save your Soul from religion's and atheist's beliefs.
Love and Believe in Our Creator;
Love and Believe in Yourself.
Only with Our Creator's Love and Peace will we be Truly Free!
Without God, there is No Love; Without religion, there are No Wars!
';religion is Spiritual fraud';; ';religion is the Worse invention of humanity'; - Jesus Christ, Buddha and any one else with Spiritual intelligence.
atheists = all the people in religion = all the ignorant fundamentalists = all the cults/superstitionsdental cosmetics
Comments?Actually I admire people who are truly Christian and live their faith from the advice and words of Jesus...?
I have often wondered, that persons who make a boast of professing the Christian religion, namely, love, joy, peace, temperance, and charity to all men, should quarrel with such rancorous animosity, and display daily towards one another such bitter hatred, that this, rather than the virtues they claim, is the readiest criterion of their faith. Matters have long since come to such a pass, that one can only pronounce a man Christian, Turk, Jew, or Heathen, by his general appearance and attire, by his frequenting this or that place of worship, or employing the phraseology of a particular sect鈥攁s for manner of life, it is in all cases the same.
Baruch Spinoza, Preface to the Theologico-Political Treatise (1677)Actually I admire people who are truly Christian and live their faith from the advice and words of Jesus...?
I have to agree with that. There are many people who call themselves Christian, but their behavior says otherwise. Unfortunately, they seem to be the ones with the loudest voices.
I am a Christian. Meaning I have a relationship with Jesus. It is sad that people use something so good for their own profits and distort the truth. The TV airways are full of them; Hin with is mansion in Malibu, the mega millionaires Crouch, etc. I think it is because so many people are in need, spiritually, that they fall for these fast talkers and don't know the Bible good enough to spot a fraud. If they just read the Bible before they listened to these false profits maybe they can see the lies. I pray before I read the Bible so I can determine what God wants to tell me and not the teaching of a man on TV wearing a $5000.00 suit.
On any given day, you could observe any Christian doing or saying something that is just wrong. It doesn't mean that is their normal character. We all sin intermittently. God convicts our hearts and we repent and make restitution in whatever way we need to. What you're talking about would have to be a lifestyle for the person. In that case, they may not be a Christian, or they may be a new Christian, who God is working on (change isn't instant, usually, though it can be). You know in any church service there are many people who play church that are not really believers. They do this for political reasons, or to be seen, or personal reasons....the point is you do not become a Christian by association. The true church is not a building, or an organization. It is the body of believers all over the world, unified by the Holy Spirit and the blood of Jesus, adopted by the Father in Heaven. Only God knows who is who and He tells us to not be concerned that the goats have mixed into the flocks of My sheep.....He will separate them on the Day of Judgement. I look at it like this; they may be coming to church services for the wrong reason, they may not be Christians at all, but, as long as they are among us, they just might hear the Lord speak to them and receive Jesus as Savior. God loves us all and waits for the unbeliever to seek Him out, so I think their chances are better in the church. Now, because of this, we all see people with the label ';Christian'; living life like they aren't.....because they really aren't. Please don't judge a group by an individual, God doesn't. The shame and bad reputation needs to be put on the individual, not the group.
I like penguins and all the penguins that will slaughter all you brain washed christians when the Penguin crusade happens.
Is this even a question?
That is so true. Many people say they are saved, but don';t live their life pleasing the Lord. When God saved me, He changed me. I became a new person. I have no desire for the sin in this world. He put a new song in my heart. One that wants to lift up His Holy name. I want to tell others how much Jesus loves them, and He will save them. I put my Faith, and Trust, in the Lord. He is the one who leads, and guides my life.
Humans are not perfect and will make mistakes.
If someone owned up to theirs, I forgive and move on. In general, people choose to fight, point fingers and cause drama instead of thinking for themselves - religion or not.
Who are you to judge anyone?
It's like that with all groups.
I agree with you. There are many wonderful Christians. Than you have the bigoted fundies.
I agree.
how nice of you
and how true a statement.
It is sad how the many ruin it for the few.
You are right. I think that Christians, in general, do try to speak out against those who are not practicing what Jesus taught. We are supposed to correct each other and help each other in our faith.
God Bless.
You do not have to follow the mob and adopt their mentality. Jesus never did. Christianity is a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and not a group relationship. Fellowship with other Christians is vital, but salvation and spiritual growth are dependent on a one-on-one relationship with God, who is Jesus. You are allowed to think for yourself and you are allowed to speak directly to God.
Throughout history people have judged whole groups of people because of the actions of a few. This is true for many different things. It is prejudice. Examples are (all Muslims bad because of the acts of a few, all Christians, all blacks, all whites, all Koreans, all Chinese, all Germans, all men, all women, all teenagers, all children, all old people, all northerners, all southerners all etc) any category you can think of is judged this way by people who are prejudice.
There are millions of people in the world that are hipocrites!! They say one thing and do another. They believe one way and act another. It doesn't have anything to do with being a ';christian';.
Actually, if the whole world would live according to JESUS' words, it would be a perfect place. Yes, sadly there are way to many bearers of the name ';Christian'; that don't live up to it. But hey, when there are a few that try to bear this name as worthily as they should, they seem like angels! It is rather hard though, especially when everyone around you lives like the devil....but I am trying, and most people think I'm weird :-) but the Bible says that when someone wants to make a difference, you have TO BE A LITTLE DIFFERENT FROM THE REST!! JESUS SAVES!!
Words of jesus barely carried any intelligence. Any philosopher would speak better than him.
Here's some True FACTS about christians:
hell was created by christians - so shall they go there, to burn in their hell!
christians have KILLED more people in the history of humanity than any other group.
christians have persecuted millions of ';non-believers'; just because they DIDN'T believe in ';christianity!
christians are by far the most brain-washed - brain-dead believers in the world today!
so...........................
do you admire them now???
Here's the Solution for christianity and religion:
Create a Private, Personal, Direct, Divine Relationship with Our Creator and save your Soul from religion's and atheist's beliefs.
Love and Believe in Our Creator;
Love and Believe in Yourself.
Only with Our Creator's Love and Peace will we be Truly Free!
Without God, there is No Love; Without religion, there are No Wars!
';religion is Spiritual fraud';; ';religion is the Worse invention of humanity'; - Jesus Christ, Buddha and any one else with Spiritual intelligence.
atheists = all the people in religion = all the ignorant fundamentalists = all the cults/superstitions
Advice for an atheist child of Christian parents?
Long story short, I am an agnostic atheist who hates religion but who has not made her hatred clear except in very few places which I thought were protected from my parents' eyes. No dice.
I'm a legal adult in my state and country (can't drink yet, so I just chug root beer) and am currently attending college while living at home. My mother happened to indirectly find out that I'm an atheist and hate Christianity, and, uh, she isn't happy.
Unlike my father, who's rationally asked me to present a list of things I consider contradictory to the idea of a personal, loving god, my mother has flown into several fits and has demanded that I present her with the books and websites that ';brainwashed'; me into an atheistic mindset. Once I produced the ';guilty parties';, she cried and told me I was misguided, stupid, too young to make a choice, and that once I die, I will, quote, ';Split Hell wide open';. Since I rely on her for transportation (we're fairly poor and besides tutoring, I have little money for a car), she's threatened to stop letting me go to the local community college.
It's been a week since I've been ';outed';, and things are only getting worse. My question to everyone is, what should I do? Should I continue considering the evidence (or lack thereof) for and against various beliefs, or should I give in and pretend to believe in god?
(Note: I'm being quite serious, so please help.)Advice for an atheist child of Christian parents?
So, you came to the conclusion to be an atheist in a week, right? I mean, since you obviously didn't take any time to consider it or take it into your life, you don't expect them to take any time to consider it and begin to accept it, so it must be you didn't take any time... or is it maybe that you have unrealistic expectations on your parents?
First, get over your prejudice of hating Christianity. It's a prejudice and it's putting more walls up and that's one thing YOU can control. Your own prejudices. You don't have to believe it. You don't have to agree with it. You don't have to like it. But if you flat out hate it, then you're closing doors and then acting surprised when your parents can't communicate with you.
Second, explain to your mother the most gentle version of Agnostic Atheism. Which is that you do not deny there is a God, but do not believe there is enough proof to definitely say there is one. In other words, keep the glimmer of hope open for her. Tell her that your belief or disbelief in God is part of your spiritual journey, and that she is WELCOME to share her beliefs with you but that you have to go on your own pace.
Third, compromise. Tell her that as long as you live in her house, you will abide by her rules. That as long as you are going to college, you will read whatever books she wants you to read. But that if she can't drive you to college anymore, you'll try to find a way there on the bus, and she'll miss out on that opportunity to try and explain her beliefs to you more.
Fourth, go to your dad. Tell him your fears of not being able to continue in college. In that list of ';why I don't believe'; include that you're watching your mother since she professes to believe in God, and that her cutting all support for you would prove that God does not love, or at the least that God's followers don't love like they should. Give him time to work quietly behind the scenes.
Fifth, if your mom starts confronting you or drawing you in a fight, refuse to fight. leave the room. Go for a walk. Go study. Whatever. But don't engage in conversations that are just fights. You'll only cause more hurt and more troubles.
Honestly? I wish you luck, but I think you should back off so long as you live in their house. They pay your rent. Your food. The paper to wipe your backside. Even if you completely disagree, you owe them to follow their rules and beliefs while you are in their house. If it bothers you that much, move out. Drop from school and get a job and move out. I'll tell you, I don't agree with my MIL's beliefs, but when we go to visit we go to her church out of respect for her letting us stay there just for a few days.
Add: Hopefully you haven't thumbsdowned me yet, so you can see this bit of an add-on. There's a book called ';Getting to Yes: The Art of Negotiation.'; Watch youtubes and read everything you can about ';Confrontational Communication.'; You have to try and recognize when you can stand your ground and when you've got to readjust things so that you can win, while also striving to help HER win too. Compromising is easier, both lose a bit and win a bit (ie, you get the drive to school, she gets to see you're trying to understand her God.) But it's a short-term situation. The most important thing is to keep drawing circles that draws her in, because if you don't you're going to prove to her that atheists are unreasonable egotistical jerks... which you and I BOTH know isn't true. But you're going to have to prove that to her.
My point of view is you're not going to BE there in 3 years, more than likely. This is a very short period of your life. Use a compromise, or try to figure out how you both can win, and minimize the hurt feelings, walls, and anger if at all possible. Your mother and you sound alike, both convinced your own point of view is right. Don't permanently scar your relationship for a viewpoint.Advice for an atheist child of Christian parents?
That was sort of my point. I have friends who have come out to their parents, as wiccan, gay, bisexual, atheist, whatever... and expect instant acceptance without remembering it took them years to get to that point. You have to give your family time to adjust to it. :)
I would suggest believing (or not believing) in what you want to. It's your life, and only you, not even your parent have control over that. You could tell your mother to stop nagging you and let you be you, but that's Your decision. Suggest following your own path and not conforming to what our parents want you to.
Your parents can't force religion down your throat. Your parent need to cut their losses and move on. They can't save everyone and I know that it hurts when you can't save your own child, but it is your choice and you have to pay the price!
God bless!
Dang. Your mom is a real book burner. That's horrible she would threaten to take you out of college because you don't believe the same thing as her. Just say you don't want to talk about it when she brings it up. You might have tried that though. Your mom is a real nut.
I guess I could understand why she would wig out so much though, since she thinks you're going to go to Hell for all eternity. That's some sad brainwashing.
stick to the status quo will give you the benefits and respect of your parents. (which i would do if you really needed them)
OR
you can stand by your belief, and don't let others put you down. but I do advise you to listen to your parents if they want to calmly talk to you about some things.
I consider religious people to be ';religiously insane';. To the extent that they exert power over you, it's best to humor them in their delusions. There is no point in being a ';martyr for atheism';. Do what you need to do to finish school, get out on your own, and then you'll be free.
Give in and pretend. They are too deluded to deal with otherwise. Once you're on your own, tell them whatever you belive and they will have to deal with it,
You say you are an adult - so get a job and get your own place and move out, - feed, shelter and clothe yourself - and don't feel sorry for yourself or anyone else.
don't give in man, stay true to atheism
tell her that jesus doesn't want anyone to believe in him by force or intimidation.
I've been in your shoes, or at least similar ones.
I ditched Christianity when I was 14, but my dad didn't find out until I was 20. I didn't let on for the longest time because I thought he'd react similar to your mum and kick me out of the house. I pretended to be Christian and everything for the longest time because I knew it was worth it to go to college. Once I graduated I would be financially secure and able to stand on my own. Right now I depend on my dad for my education. He payed for my future and in return I helped around the house and acted like his perfect little Christian daughter. It seemed like a fair trade for me.
Luckily things didn't blow up when he accidentally found out about my lack of Christianity. I'm sorry about your parents. I hope in time they'll come to accept your beliefs/opinions. For now things may be better in the long run to pretend to be Christian until you graduate.
Whichever choice you choose, good luck!
Wow- I can only imagine what it must be like. You are old enough to be living on your own. Can you get a job and go to school at the same time? If you are still at home and if you rely on your parents for transportation, well, you just have to grin and bare it. You are dependent on them and are living in their house. It may be time for you to be out on your own.
dear i have some questions for u
why dont u believe in god?
do u want to believe in him?
if its a cse that u want to believe in him PRAYER conqures all pray and im sure god will hepl
if u dont want to belieev there is nothing anyone can do to change ur mind.our mind is the strongest assest of the human body.only a miracle could help u in this case.
to reduce ur praents anger towards u and u are sure u dont want to believe just pretend
but my advise would be-believe in god hes d most high
Uh, wow.
I'm glad my parents are both atheists.
I wouldn't pretend to believe in God. You would never feel comfortable around your mother again. Just let her know that you're not able to change your mind, that being an atheist is just a part of who you are. Or heck, don't even talk about it again--if she brings it up, be clipped with her about it (in the typical ';I don't want to talk about it'; manner). I don't discuss religion unless necessary.
I would let them get over their delusion. It's painful at first, but eventually they will accept the fact that you chose your belief and that the bottom line is that you are their son.
Imagine how my dad's father was when I told him I was a Jew.
He wouldn't speak to me for 3 years because he's used to cracking *N* jokes off the back porch, and is racist as hell.
It took a lot for him to overcome his prejudice and accept family.
A sign of true strength is to ';stick to your guns';. Don't let others force you to believe something. But, still, you should also respect others' choice to follow what they believe. Your mother may never stop trying to convert you, but just remember, she does love you and is the only mother you have. I also hope you understand that there are Christians out there who aren't going to try to force you to believe in God or tell you you're doomed to go to Hell. Try to keep a relationship, however stained, with your mother. You'll regret it for the rest of your life if you lose that.
Okay, tell your mother the truth. Tell her that you don't understand it and with all of those science classes you've been taking, can't really believe it. You could also talk to your father who is being more civil about it. Tell him that you don't understand why a murderer and someone who cheats on a test go to the same heaven if they accept Jesus. Ask him if Moses got into heaven, even though he murdered an Egyptian. Ask him what the moral is of Onan's story. (He is sleeping with his dead brother's wife and decides to ejaculate on the ground instead of in her, so God killed him. Not because he was sleeping with her, but because he wouldn't impregnate her.)
well she is taking personal offense to it because you are her child and you state that you hate christianity. do you really hate the whole religion or just don't believe in it? maybe if you could show her that you respect her beliefs, even though you don't share them then she might warm up to accepting yours.
other than that if she doesn't want to accept your choices then you you'll have to just suck it up and take care of yourself and all your needs.. hopefully she will get over it.
Looking at the problem from a purely moral-ethical viewpoint, I would not give in. However, your mother's control over your transportation complicates the situation, as she controls something you need. In this case, although my instincts do not agree, I advocate you to not mention this and try to keep your mother's mind off the topic. If she insists on making you Christian, pretend to return to Christianity.
Although this may not be the most ethical decision, it may be the only practical decision.
I suggest you do as your father requests, and present to him a list of your thoughts. If you explain your concerns, you just might bring up ideas that he also has in his heart. You can discuss them together. Some people (like your mother) don't know how to respond to opposition because their faith feels threatened when questioned. Maybe, you're not truly an atheist, who is a nonbeliever, but an agnostic, who questions. Anyway, only you decide how you will live, and believe, and what is most important to you.
I'm sorry.
My parents are both Christian, but rather.. relaxed about religion and didn't mind (too much XD)
Remind them that it doesn't make you a bad person, and hmm, give it a little more time as well, some things like that can freak people out, but hopefully they will remember that they loved you before when they didn't know, and it's not like you changed..
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How did they find out?
Seriously, if you're mother is your only source of transportation, you might want to back off a little. Agree to go to church with her once and awhile. Say grace at meals. In the meantime, hook up with some fellow atheists (or even kindly disposed theists) at college and see if they are willing to provide transportation instead of your mother.
It's hard relying on people who disagree with you. Unfortunately, you are dependent on them, and they can sometimes set the rules for you. Seek outside help, like I said, and, in the meantime, lay low.
Sh*t. That's sounds awful.
My mom wasn't too happy when I told her either. To this day she still tells me that I'm going to hell and she is still praying for my soul. Just keep reminding her in a CALM manner, that it is your life, and taking you out of school will only hurt you in the long run. There is no easy fix for parents like that, they hold strict beliefs. It takes time.
If things don't calm down in a few months. Try your best to move out. Or pretend to believe in god for a while.
I'm sorry this is happening to you. It's disappointing when parents try to control the belief systems of their children and it's a hard task to try to stay strong in that situation.
I don't think you should pretend to believe in something you don't. That kind of thing can be so damaging to you.
This might sound a bit screwy -- but you MIGHT want to talk to your mother's clergyman. But ONLY do that if he's a reasonable person. He might be able to tell your mother that she can't and shouldn't force her believes onto another person. However, if you sense that he (or she) will make it worse, leave him out of the equation.
If your father is more reasonable, maybe you can ask him to intercede.
Ask your mother if she feels she is living up to her Christian standards when she tries to control and threaten you.
Or, just try to avoid the subject with her as much as you possibly can.
Not all problems do have resolutions, though. You may just be stuck with this until you can find a way to get out of the family home.
Continue being an athiest. There is nothing worse than pretending to be something you are not. The only reason your mother is mad is in my opinion because you failed to recover some things she knew to give to your kids. She wanted your kids to be christians because im guessing everyone in your family is christian? So your just the odd one out.
If your mom cant accept you for who you are then (i know you wont like to hear this) you should just ignore her and live your life without her in it.
';or should I give in and pretend to believe in god? ';
Put it to your mother this way, you don't beleive in God, and you're sorry that's what you believe, but it IS what you believe. And frankly, if God exists, he would probably be MORE upset with you lying to your parents and church, and forcing yourself to believe in him, rather than just following what your heart tells you.
Whatever you do, live a good life, be a good person, and IF there's a God at the end of everything and he'll still send you to hell, you probably would have gone there anyways believing in him or not.
This is very disturbing. I think you need to maybe present this a little better, but this is still hard because christians can be very close minded to anything that contradicts their belief.
If it is not possible to sway them on justifying your atheists beliefs maybe try swaying them on their own beliefs and morals. Such as ';hate the sin not the sinner'; and so on. Why should your education suffer because you believe something different to them? As parents wouldn't you want the best for me and my education?
And no I would never give in and say you believe, this is very very wrong and you have to stay strong
This happened to me, although my parents were not this bad about it. They forced me into daily bible studies and prayer, got my old preacher to talk to me and give me a book The Case for Christ, things like that. A while later, it died down. I guess she assumed I converted back to Christianity because she's always telling me about people she knows that have problems that I should pray about.
My advice is to apologize to them for upsetting them, tell them you've considered the facts and you've been reading the bible and you've come to the conclusion that you were wrong and you have re-accepted Jesus into your heart. Say something like that, but not too suddenly. Make it believeable. They're not likely to give in until they think you're a Christian, and it's no use risking your future over this. It'll blow over once they believe you've changed. Just be more careful what they know in the future.
I'm sorry for your situation and what your childhood was probably like.
Your parents are right, listen to them. God is real and does exist. you have been subjected to propaganda.
I'm a legal adult in my state and country (can't drink yet, so I just chug root beer) and am currently attending college while living at home. My mother happened to indirectly find out that I'm an atheist and hate Christianity, and, uh, she isn't happy.
Unlike my father, who's rationally asked me to present a list of things I consider contradictory to the idea of a personal, loving god, my mother has flown into several fits and has demanded that I present her with the books and websites that ';brainwashed'; me into an atheistic mindset. Once I produced the ';guilty parties';, she cried and told me I was misguided, stupid, too young to make a choice, and that once I die, I will, quote, ';Split Hell wide open';. Since I rely on her for transportation (we're fairly poor and besides tutoring, I have little money for a car), she's threatened to stop letting me go to the local community college.
It's been a week since I've been ';outed';, and things are only getting worse. My question to everyone is, what should I do? Should I continue considering the evidence (or lack thereof) for and against various beliefs, or should I give in and pretend to believe in god?
(Note: I'm being quite serious, so please help.)Advice for an atheist child of Christian parents?
So, you came to the conclusion to be an atheist in a week, right? I mean, since you obviously didn't take any time to consider it or take it into your life, you don't expect them to take any time to consider it and begin to accept it, so it must be you didn't take any time... or is it maybe that you have unrealistic expectations on your parents?
First, get over your prejudice of hating Christianity. It's a prejudice and it's putting more walls up and that's one thing YOU can control. Your own prejudices. You don't have to believe it. You don't have to agree with it. You don't have to like it. But if you flat out hate it, then you're closing doors and then acting surprised when your parents can't communicate with you.
Second, explain to your mother the most gentle version of Agnostic Atheism. Which is that you do not deny there is a God, but do not believe there is enough proof to definitely say there is one. In other words, keep the glimmer of hope open for her. Tell her that your belief or disbelief in God is part of your spiritual journey, and that she is WELCOME to share her beliefs with you but that you have to go on your own pace.
Third, compromise. Tell her that as long as you live in her house, you will abide by her rules. That as long as you are going to college, you will read whatever books she wants you to read. But that if she can't drive you to college anymore, you'll try to find a way there on the bus, and she'll miss out on that opportunity to try and explain her beliefs to you more.
Fourth, go to your dad. Tell him your fears of not being able to continue in college. In that list of ';why I don't believe'; include that you're watching your mother since she professes to believe in God, and that her cutting all support for you would prove that God does not love, or at the least that God's followers don't love like they should. Give him time to work quietly behind the scenes.
Fifth, if your mom starts confronting you or drawing you in a fight, refuse to fight. leave the room. Go for a walk. Go study. Whatever. But don't engage in conversations that are just fights. You'll only cause more hurt and more troubles.
Honestly? I wish you luck, but I think you should back off so long as you live in their house. They pay your rent. Your food. The paper to wipe your backside. Even if you completely disagree, you owe them to follow their rules and beliefs while you are in their house. If it bothers you that much, move out. Drop from school and get a job and move out. I'll tell you, I don't agree with my MIL's beliefs, but when we go to visit we go to her church out of respect for her letting us stay there just for a few days.
Add: Hopefully you haven't thumbsdowned me yet, so you can see this bit of an add-on. There's a book called ';Getting to Yes: The Art of Negotiation.'; Watch youtubes and read everything you can about ';Confrontational Communication.'; You have to try and recognize when you can stand your ground and when you've got to readjust things so that you can win, while also striving to help HER win too. Compromising is easier, both lose a bit and win a bit (ie, you get the drive to school, she gets to see you're trying to understand her God.) But it's a short-term situation. The most important thing is to keep drawing circles that draws her in, because if you don't you're going to prove to her that atheists are unreasonable egotistical jerks... which you and I BOTH know isn't true. But you're going to have to prove that to her.
My point of view is you're not going to BE there in 3 years, more than likely. This is a very short period of your life. Use a compromise, or try to figure out how you both can win, and minimize the hurt feelings, walls, and anger if at all possible. Your mother and you sound alike, both convinced your own point of view is right. Don't permanently scar your relationship for a viewpoint.Advice for an atheist child of Christian parents?
That was sort of my point. I have friends who have come out to their parents, as wiccan, gay, bisexual, atheist, whatever... and expect instant acceptance without remembering it took them years to get to that point. You have to give your family time to adjust to it. :)
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I would suggest believing (or not believing) in what you want to. It's your life, and only you, not even your parent have control over that. You could tell your mother to stop nagging you and let you be you, but that's Your decision. Suggest following your own path and not conforming to what our parents want you to.
Your parents can't force religion down your throat. Your parent need to cut their losses and move on. They can't save everyone and I know that it hurts when you can't save your own child, but it is your choice and you have to pay the price!
God bless!
Dang. Your mom is a real book burner. That's horrible she would threaten to take you out of college because you don't believe the same thing as her. Just say you don't want to talk about it when she brings it up. You might have tried that though. Your mom is a real nut.
I guess I could understand why she would wig out so much though, since she thinks you're going to go to Hell for all eternity. That's some sad brainwashing.
stick to the status quo will give you the benefits and respect of your parents. (which i would do if you really needed them)
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you can stand by your belief, and don't let others put you down. but I do advise you to listen to your parents if they want to calmly talk to you about some things.
I consider religious people to be ';religiously insane';. To the extent that they exert power over you, it's best to humor them in their delusions. There is no point in being a ';martyr for atheism';. Do what you need to do to finish school, get out on your own, and then you'll be free.
Give in and pretend. They are too deluded to deal with otherwise. Once you're on your own, tell them whatever you belive and they will have to deal with it,
You say you are an adult - so get a job and get your own place and move out, - feed, shelter and clothe yourself - and don't feel sorry for yourself or anyone else.
don't give in man, stay true to atheism
tell her that jesus doesn't want anyone to believe in him by force or intimidation.
I've been in your shoes, or at least similar ones.
I ditched Christianity when I was 14, but my dad didn't find out until I was 20. I didn't let on for the longest time because I thought he'd react similar to your mum and kick me out of the house. I pretended to be Christian and everything for the longest time because I knew it was worth it to go to college. Once I graduated I would be financially secure and able to stand on my own. Right now I depend on my dad for my education. He payed for my future and in return I helped around the house and acted like his perfect little Christian daughter. It seemed like a fair trade for me.
Luckily things didn't blow up when he accidentally found out about my lack of Christianity. I'm sorry about your parents. I hope in time they'll come to accept your beliefs/opinions. For now things may be better in the long run to pretend to be Christian until you graduate.
Whichever choice you choose, good luck!
Wow- I can only imagine what it must be like. You are old enough to be living on your own. Can you get a job and go to school at the same time? If you are still at home and if you rely on your parents for transportation, well, you just have to grin and bare it. You are dependent on them and are living in their house. It may be time for you to be out on your own.
dear i have some questions for u
why dont u believe in god?
do u want to believe in him?
if its a cse that u want to believe in him PRAYER conqures all pray and im sure god will hepl
if u dont want to belieev there is nothing anyone can do to change ur mind.our mind is the strongest assest of the human body.only a miracle could help u in this case.
to reduce ur praents anger towards u and u are sure u dont want to believe just pretend
but my advise would be-believe in god hes d most high
Uh, wow.
I'm glad my parents are both atheists.
I wouldn't pretend to believe in God. You would never feel comfortable around your mother again. Just let her know that you're not able to change your mind, that being an atheist is just a part of who you are. Or heck, don't even talk about it again--if she brings it up, be clipped with her about it (in the typical ';I don't want to talk about it'; manner). I don't discuss religion unless necessary.
I would let them get over their delusion. It's painful at first, but eventually they will accept the fact that you chose your belief and that the bottom line is that you are their son.
Imagine how my dad's father was when I told him I was a Jew.
He wouldn't speak to me for 3 years because he's used to cracking *N* jokes off the back porch, and is racist as hell.
It took a lot for him to overcome his prejudice and accept family.
A sign of true strength is to ';stick to your guns';. Don't let others force you to believe something. But, still, you should also respect others' choice to follow what they believe. Your mother may never stop trying to convert you, but just remember, she does love you and is the only mother you have. I also hope you understand that there are Christians out there who aren't going to try to force you to believe in God or tell you you're doomed to go to Hell. Try to keep a relationship, however stained, with your mother. You'll regret it for the rest of your life if you lose that.
Okay, tell your mother the truth. Tell her that you don't understand it and with all of those science classes you've been taking, can't really believe it. You could also talk to your father who is being more civil about it. Tell him that you don't understand why a murderer and someone who cheats on a test go to the same heaven if they accept Jesus. Ask him if Moses got into heaven, even though he murdered an Egyptian. Ask him what the moral is of Onan's story. (He is sleeping with his dead brother's wife and decides to ejaculate on the ground instead of in her, so God killed him. Not because he was sleeping with her, but because he wouldn't impregnate her.)
well she is taking personal offense to it because you are her child and you state that you hate christianity. do you really hate the whole religion or just don't believe in it? maybe if you could show her that you respect her beliefs, even though you don't share them then she might warm up to accepting yours.
other than that if she doesn't want to accept your choices then you you'll have to just suck it up and take care of yourself and all your needs.. hopefully she will get over it.
Looking at the problem from a purely moral-ethical viewpoint, I would not give in. However, your mother's control over your transportation complicates the situation, as she controls something you need. In this case, although my instincts do not agree, I advocate you to not mention this and try to keep your mother's mind off the topic. If she insists on making you Christian, pretend to return to Christianity.
Although this may not be the most ethical decision, it may be the only practical decision.
I suggest you do as your father requests, and present to him a list of your thoughts. If you explain your concerns, you just might bring up ideas that he also has in his heart. You can discuss them together. Some people (like your mother) don't know how to respond to opposition because their faith feels threatened when questioned. Maybe, you're not truly an atheist, who is a nonbeliever, but an agnostic, who questions. Anyway, only you decide how you will live, and believe, and what is most important to you.
I'm sorry.
My parents are both Christian, but rather.. relaxed about religion and didn't mind (too much XD)
Remind them that it doesn't make you a bad person, and hmm, give it a little more time as well, some things like that can freak people out, but hopefully they will remember that they loved you before when they didn't know, and it's not like you changed..
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How did they find out?
Seriously, if you're mother is your only source of transportation, you might want to back off a little. Agree to go to church with her once and awhile. Say grace at meals. In the meantime, hook up with some fellow atheists (or even kindly disposed theists) at college and see if they are willing to provide transportation instead of your mother.
It's hard relying on people who disagree with you. Unfortunately, you are dependent on them, and they can sometimes set the rules for you. Seek outside help, like I said, and, in the meantime, lay low.
Sh*t. That's sounds awful.
My mom wasn't too happy when I told her either. To this day she still tells me that I'm going to hell and she is still praying for my soul. Just keep reminding her in a CALM manner, that it is your life, and taking you out of school will only hurt you in the long run. There is no easy fix for parents like that, they hold strict beliefs. It takes time.
If things don't calm down in a few months. Try your best to move out. Or pretend to believe in god for a while.
I'm sorry this is happening to you. It's disappointing when parents try to control the belief systems of their children and it's a hard task to try to stay strong in that situation.
I don't think you should pretend to believe in something you don't. That kind of thing can be so damaging to you.
This might sound a bit screwy -- but you MIGHT want to talk to your mother's clergyman. But ONLY do that if he's a reasonable person. He might be able to tell your mother that she can't and shouldn't force her believes onto another person. However, if you sense that he (or she) will make it worse, leave him out of the equation.
If your father is more reasonable, maybe you can ask him to intercede.
Ask your mother if she feels she is living up to her Christian standards when she tries to control and threaten you.
Or, just try to avoid the subject with her as much as you possibly can.
Not all problems do have resolutions, though. You may just be stuck with this until you can find a way to get out of the family home.
Continue being an athiest. There is nothing worse than pretending to be something you are not. The only reason your mother is mad is in my opinion because you failed to recover some things she knew to give to your kids. She wanted your kids to be christians because im guessing everyone in your family is christian? So your just the odd one out.
If your mom cant accept you for who you are then (i know you wont like to hear this) you should just ignore her and live your life without her in it.
';or should I give in and pretend to believe in god? ';
Put it to your mother this way, you don't beleive in God, and you're sorry that's what you believe, but it IS what you believe. And frankly, if God exists, he would probably be MORE upset with you lying to your parents and church, and forcing yourself to believe in him, rather than just following what your heart tells you.
Whatever you do, live a good life, be a good person, and IF there's a God at the end of everything and he'll still send you to hell, you probably would have gone there anyways believing in him or not.
This is very disturbing. I think you need to maybe present this a little better, but this is still hard because christians can be very close minded to anything that contradicts their belief.
If it is not possible to sway them on justifying your atheists beliefs maybe try swaying them on their own beliefs and morals. Such as ';hate the sin not the sinner'; and so on. Why should your education suffer because you believe something different to them? As parents wouldn't you want the best for me and my education?
And no I would never give in and say you believe, this is very very wrong and you have to stay strong
This happened to me, although my parents were not this bad about it. They forced me into daily bible studies and prayer, got my old preacher to talk to me and give me a book The Case for Christ, things like that. A while later, it died down. I guess she assumed I converted back to Christianity because she's always telling me about people she knows that have problems that I should pray about.
My advice is to apologize to them for upsetting them, tell them you've considered the facts and you've been reading the bible and you've come to the conclusion that you were wrong and you have re-accepted Jesus into your heart. Say something like that, but not too suddenly. Make it believeable. They're not likely to give in until they think you're a Christian, and it's no use risking your future over this. It'll blow over once they believe you've changed. Just be more careful what they know in the future.
I'm sorry for your situation and what your childhood was probably like.
Your parents are right, listen to them. God is real and does exist. you have been subjected to propaganda.
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