How to to talk to this Christian girl at my church.I have a crush on her and im afraid to go and talk to her.also,she is almost always with her friends so that just makes it harder.CHRISTIAN ANSWERS ONLY!!!! I am a 14 year ol boy and need advice on.....?
Just talk to her like a friend.
You don't want to rush anything.
If she starts crushin in you then
make your move.CHRISTIAN ANSWERS ONLY!!!! I am a 14 year ol boy and need advice on.....?
Just do and introduce yourself and say hi. If you are to nervous, write her a letter.
Friday, April 30, 2010
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I suggest a boat with a plug, sail out into the ocean and pull that plug baby!!!Pls i need and advice ,i know a man for six months now,i am muslim he is christian,i am older than him,?
gOOD luck, your lost
Hummingbirattlesnake wantsto meet Christian girlies.yet finding these arrogant crazy ol stinkers>>Advice!?
Time'';s runing out, I'm giving up hope. Think aboutit They are worst then on TV. OK a part of this is my attitude but I just dounknowHummingbirattlesnake wantsto meet Christian girlies.yet finding these arrogant crazy ol stinkers%26gt;%26gt;Advice!?
Yes, it's your attitude.
Yes, it's your attitude.
Need some advice. How would you approach the strict Christian parents of a teenage girl about allowing her?
to participate in a youth boxing league?
I've not asked them yet. If they say no when I do, I will not push the issue. The girl is 15, and she really wants to do this. She's not as much worried about her parents being opposed to the boxing part of it (though that is a concern) as she is about how they will react to her having to wear shorts or sweat pants. She's asked me to speak to them for her. I've agreed, but warned her that I will not argue with her parents' decision. I've got only one shot at this. I'd like to go into the conversation with some idea of what to say to convince them. Any ideas would be appreciated, as I'd love to see this girl do something she obviously enjoys very much. Thanks.Need some advice. How would you approach the strict Christian parents of a teenage girl about allowing her?
There should be a way to compromise. She is not the only young lady who has experienced this problem, and many others have come up with solutions.
There is an entire fashion industry devoted to supplying modest athletic wear for orthodox women. A pair of loose culottes would be modest but still allow her the range of movement she needs to box. Check out the link below for examples.Need some advice. How would you approach the strict Christian parents of a teenage girl about allowing her?
Still it's a butt out matter. A girl, at 15, is still under the close care of her family. They are entirely responsible for her unbringing and her well-being.
Tell the parents that the girl really wants to do boxing. That's it basically, and that as parents, you feel they should support their daughter's commitment to the sport. If they are opposed to the clothes she is going to wear, you really can't do anything against that, since most strict Christian parents are immovable.
I would ask if they have the money for dr. lawyers and ear specialists. plastic surgey and male sex change the last one is a joke...
parents have o look at it all when the girl is 18 and could pay for all the afore mentioned then she could destroy her temple. as long as it is my dime no way... if her concern is shorts I think she is not thinking clearly...
If she's 15, she'd be better served to do it herself. If you can't stand up to your parents at 15, when can you?
If you have to, bring up the self-defense aspect, and camaraderie.
I'm sure that a compromise can be reached and I hope that the parents wouldn't be so narrow minded, they can protect and care about their daughter without hindering her in an unnecessary way.
show them pictures of wrestling singlets. maybe they might think shorts aren't that bad.
here are some good ones
http://www.singlets.com/
Just frame it as an opportunity to box for god.
whats wrong with sports... go up to her parents and ask them if thier daugter can join the Mike Tyson boxing club.
Boxing causes brain damage.
Don't. Getting punched in the nose is a bad idea. Been there, done that, it's overrated.
She needs to be a warrior for Jesus if she wants to fight. There are plenty of devils to fight. Everything that young girls want to do is not necessarily good for them. Who pays the doctor bills if she gets hurt and has to go to the hospital? Who takes care of her if she gets hurt. These are things to consider. You're asking her parents to take on the medical bills, etc. She doesn't need to make a spectacle of herself in a boxing ring. As to approaching her parents, ask them to pray about their daughter participating in a youth boxing league. Be respectful. Approach them and say, ';could you please pray about allowing (girl's name) to participate in a youth boxing league.'; Then tell them details about the league. Where it is, who is participating, what the girls will wear, etc.
I took my sons to a Christian Karate club when they were young. It was mostly Christian. It was a good wittness format also.
Perhaps ask them to pray about it, and not give an answer right away. That would put them on the spot and would likley say no. But with prayer, they will get a chance to hear from the daughter in a private way. I wish you Gods Grace as sports does so much for esteem and health.
Most important thing you can do is support her in what may be her anguish over being compelled to comply with her parent's wishes she not box.
Let's face it, it's not just christian parents, or strict christian parents who might object to their daughter participating in a boxing league.
You sound like you'll be just fine- don't subborn a root of bitterness in this girl please.
I'd stress the positives that this experience would give her. She'd definitely keep fit, which is a huge plus--and it will channel a lot of that negative teen energy.
I don't know much about boxing, but I DO know about martial arts. Martial arts really give kids a discipline that is wonderful, imposed both externally and internally. They learn to accept someone else's authority, to give respect, etc. My son had been in karate for about 2 months when I asked him to take out the trash. He answered, ';Yes, ma'am,'; and then we both stopped, reeled a little, looked at each other and said together, ';WHOA.'; Because he called me Ma'am. THAT was a first, and it came directly from karate.
I ended up taking karate, too, and can't say enough about it. Ironically enough--especially since I'm answering this post!--I no longer take martial arts....for religious reasons. Because of my particular brand of a particular religion, I don't wear pants, and I don't touch men. Both of these are issues in a sport like boxing or martial arts. Still, I'm trying to figure out a way to work around these prohibitions, because I found the whole experience to be so good for both me %26amp; my kids.
So--I think you're right to accept their decision, no matter what. But you should stress the positives--the physical fitness, the channeling of energy in a POSITIVE way, and above all, the incredible discipline.
Well, I have no idea, but My son is into boxing, he has already preached his first sermon in church, and he has taught his 15 year old sister some boxing lessons, I put up a punching bag for them to hit, and taught them some stuff, the best I could tell you is suggest that it's good to know self defense, and make sure that you and your friend mention that they won't use it to bully anybody, and will only use it in emergency self defense.
I can't see what's wrong with wearing shorts or sweat pants. Unless they belong to a weird branch of Christianity where it's skirts only for women and even swimsuits are out of the question (I can't imagine why sweat pants should be objectionable).
I would first find out what particular denomination the parents subscribe too, they don't sound like a mainstream christian ones. That will give you a better idea what arguments they might find acceptable.
PS. OK, if they have no problems with shorts or baggy pants and the daughter thinks they mainly will have problems with clothing not the sport as such, I would not anticipate too much problems. Also the daughter must have been exposed to the sport in order to be enthusiastic about it, so they can't have been too strict about it. Maybe it will have to do more with the time commitment required and her grades in school. With all the childhood/youth obesity press, that may be an angle to pursue, also self defense for girls might be of value.
I would not do this. It is one thing for parents to keep too close a hand on an 19- or 21-year-old, but a girl, at 15, is still under the close care of her family. They are entirely responsible for her unbringing and her well-being.
Some branches of evangelical and fundamentalist Christianity, such as many Independent Baptists, do insist on modest but attractive and feminine dresses for girls. Sweat pants, while not immodest in the same sense, are often viewed as non-feminine. I would think they would view boxing in the same non-feminine light.
A 15-year-old does not always make the best decisions for herself. Wise parents do not expect to place the same restrictions on a 15-year-old as they would on a 12-year-old, but still we have to assume, and encourage the teen to respect, that her parents know better than she does what's best for her.
You say ';you'; would love to see this girl do something she obviously enjoys very much. But ';you'; are not her parents. My daughter would enjoy very much to not take piano lessons and spend her afternoons watching TV.
Which is better for her in the long run 鈥?her teenage view or her parents' older and wiser view? We require piano just as much as we require math.
If they are abusing her, you have the duty to call social services. If not, you have the duty to stay out of what is strictly a family matter.
If you truly want her to stand up and ';be her own woman'; then you would encourage her to approach her parents herself. If you are just asserting peer pressure on her, you are her problem, not her solution.
I've not asked them yet. If they say no when I do, I will not push the issue. The girl is 15, and she really wants to do this. She's not as much worried about her parents being opposed to the boxing part of it (though that is a concern) as she is about how they will react to her having to wear shorts or sweat pants. She's asked me to speak to them for her. I've agreed, but warned her that I will not argue with her parents' decision. I've got only one shot at this. I'd like to go into the conversation with some idea of what to say to convince them. Any ideas would be appreciated, as I'd love to see this girl do something she obviously enjoys very much. Thanks.Need some advice. How would you approach the strict Christian parents of a teenage girl about allowing her?
There should be a way to compromise. She is not the only young lady who has experienced this problem, and many others have come up with solutions.
There is an entire fashion industry devoted to supplying modest athletic wear for orthodox women. A pair of loose culottes would be modest but still allow her the range of movement she needs to box. Check out the link below for examples.Need some advice. How would you approach the strict Christian parents of a teenage girl about allowing her?
Still it's a butt out matter. A girl, at 15, is still under the close care of her family. They are entirely responsible for her unbringing and her well-being.
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Tell the parents that the girl really wants to do boxing. That's it basically, and that as parents, you feel they should support their daughter's commitment to the sport. If they are opposed to the clothes she is going to wear, you really can't do anything against that, since most strict Christian parents are immovable.
I would ask if they have the money for dr. lawyers and ear specialists. plastic surgey and male sex change the last one is a joke...
parents have o look at it all when the girl is 18 and could pay for all the afore mentioned then she could destroy her temple. as long as it is my dime no way... if her concern is shorts I think she is not thinking clearly...
If she's 15, she'd be better served to do it herself. If you can't stand up to your parents at 15, when can you?
If you have to, bring up the self-defense aspect, and camaraderie.
I'm sure that a compromise can be reached and I hope that the parents wouldn't be so narrow minded, they can protect and care about their daughter without hindering her in an unnecessary way.
show them pictures of wrestling singlets. maybe they might think shorts aren't that bad.
here are some good ones
http://www.singlets.com/
Just frame it as an opportunity to box for god.
whats wrong with sports... go up to her parents and ask them if thier daugter can join the Mike Tyson boxing club.
Boxing causes brain damage.
Don't. Getting punched in the nose is a bad idea. Been there, done that, it's overrated.
She needs to be a warrior for Jesus if she wants to fight. There are plenty of devils to fight. Everything that young girls want to do is not necessarily good for them. Who pays the doctor bills if she gets hurt and has to go to the hospital? Who takes care of her if she gets hurt. These are things to consider. You're asking her parents to take on the medical bills, etc. She doesn't need to make a spectacle of herself in a boxing ring. As to approaching her parents, ask them to pray about their daughter participating in a youth boxing league. Be respectful. Approach them and say, ';could you please pray about allowing (girl's name) to participate in a youth boxing league.'; Then tell them details about the league. Where it is, who is participating, what the girls will wear, etc.
I took my sons to a Christian Karate club when they were young. It was mostly Christian. It was a good wittness format also.
Perhaps ask them to pray about it, and not give an answer right away. That would put them on the spot and would likley say no. But with prayer, they will get a chance to hear from the daughter in a private way. I wish you Gods Grace as sports does so much for esteem and health.
Most important thing you can do is support her in what may be her anguish over being compelled to comply with her parent's wishes she not box.
Let's face it, it's not just christian parents, or strict christian parents who might object to their daughter participating in a boxing league.
You sound like you'll be just fine- don't subborn a root of bitterness in this girl please.
I'd stress the positives that this experience would give her. She'd definitely keep fit, which is a huge plus--and it will channel a lot of that negative teen energy.
I don't know much about boxing, but I DO know about martial arts. Martial arts really give kids a discipline that is wonderful, imposed both externally and internally. They learn to accept someone else's authority, to give respect, etc. My son had been in karate for about 2 months when I asked him to take out the trash. He answered, ';Yes, ma'am,'; and then we both stopped, reeled a little, looked at each other and said together, ';WHOA.'; Because he called me Ma'am. THAT was a first, and it came directly from karate.
I ended up taking karate, too, and can't say enough about it. Ironically enough--especially since I'm answering this post!--I no longer take martial arts....for religious reasons. Because of my particular brand of a particular religion, I don't wear pants, and I don't touch men. Both of these are issues in a sport like boxing or martial arts. Still, I'm trying to figure out a way to work around these prohibitions, because I found the whole experience to be so good for both me %26amp; my kids.
So--I think you're right to accept their decision, no matter what. But you should stress the positives--the physical fitness, the channeling of energy in a POSITIVE way, and above all, the incredible discipline.
Well, I have no idea, but My son is into boxing, he has already preached his first sermon in church, and he has taught his 15 year old sister some boxing lessons, I put up a punching bag for them to hit, and taught them some stuff, the best I could tell you is suggest that it's good to know self defense, and make sure that you and your friend mention that they won't use it to bully anybody, and will only use it in emergency self defense.
I can't see what's wrong with wearing shorts or sweat pants. Unless they belong to a weird branch of Christianity where it's skirts only for women and even swimsuits are out of the question (I can't imagine why sweat pants should be objectionable).
I would first find out what particular denomination the parents subscribe too, they don't sound like a mainstream christian ones. That will give you a better idea what arguments they might find acceptable.
PS. OK, if they have no problems with shorts or baggy pants and the daughter thinks they mainly will have problems with clothing not the sport as such, I would not anticipate too much problems. Also the daughter must have been exposed to the sport in order to be enthusiastic about it, so they can't have been too strict about it. Maybe it will have to do more with the time commitment required and her grades in school. With all the childhood/youth obesity press, that may be an angle to pursue, also self defense for girls might be of value.
I would not do this. It is one thing for parents to keep too close a hand on an 19- or 21-year-old, but a girl, at 15, is still under the close care of her family. They are entirely responsible for her unbringing and her well-being.
Some branches of evangelical and fundamentalist Christianity, such as many Independent Baptists, do insist on modest but attractive and feminine dresses for girls. Sweat pants, while not immodest in the same sense, are often viewed as non-feminine. I would think they would view boxing in the same non-feminine light.
A 15-year-old does not always make the best decisions for herself. Wise parents do not expect to place the same restrictions on a 15-year-old as they would on a 12-year-old, but still we have to assume, and encourage the teen to respect, that her parents know better than she does what's best for her.
You say ';you'; would love to see this girl do something she obviously enjoys very much. But ';you'; are not her parents. My daughter would enjoy very much to not take piano lessons and spend her afternoons watching TV.
Which is better for her in the long run 鈥?her teenage view or her parents' older and wiser view? We require piano just as much as we require math.
If they are abusing her, you have the duty to call social services. If not, you have the duty to stay out of what is strictly a family matter.
If you truly want her to stand up and ';be her own woman'; then you would encourage her to approach her parents herself. If you are just asserting peer pressure on her, you are her problem, not her solution.
I need advice on what to say to my christian friend who knows the bible but wants to leave her husband.?
She knows what the bible says about divorce but she's sick of her marriage. She's coming up with all kinds of excuses why she can't take it any more. She's not being abused in any way, he is a good christian man as well. She left church and started dating an old flame. They have two kids and she's hurting them just like her mother hurt her. She's hard headed and can be cold hearted when she's afraid of being hurt. What biblical advice can I give her that will make her listen and realize she's being selfish. she also used to do drugs and this guy she's hanging with does drugs, so I'm afraid she's going back to that lifestyle. I'm the last one in church she's speaking to. Help. I've listened long enough I need to step up and say something profound.I need advice on what to say to my christian friend who knows the bible but wants to leave her husband.?
I went through something similar, and no one could tell me anything. I hope for her husband and her children's sake she turns around. Pray for her. There is so much power in prayer. The Lord doesn't want her to ruin her marriage. When you get married the 2 become 1 in the flesh. I wouldn't want to be the one standing before the Lord Almighty on judgment day explaining why I threw my family away. Maybe you should say that. If she hasn't completely quenched the Spirit, they may still have a chance. But it wont be easy, especially if she is back on drugs. Good Luck and God Bless. I'll keep you guys in my prayers!I need advice on what to say to my christian friend who knows the bible but wants to leave her husband.?
This one is not a simple matter and I would not presume to know what is right in this case. However, there are some forms of hurt that are not mended on earth and those marriages should not be continued. Hearts need love and purity, and without that you simply have two miserable people who pray for death. Do not worry about you saying something profound, just speak the truth of the matter, and let God handle the rest on His timetable.
your friend is huge idiot as well as anyone who follows the bible and looks it up for emotional advice on relationships in the 21th century! why does jesus care about anyone being in a dead end marriage where everyone is super unhappy??? if she doent love the guy, let her get a divorece , everyone will hurt more if they stay together!
One word, PRAY. She's choosing to do these things and she cannot be forced to turn back. But the Lord is more than able to touch and heal her heart and help her to overcome her problems. And it is the Lord alone who is able to convict her of her sin. So prayer is essential. She must have some deep wounds and only Jesus can heal them.
All you can truly do is pray for your friend. The Bible also teaches ( not that she cares) that a woman has no right to leave her husband. But since this is a non-Bible believing generation I doubt this will matter to her at all. Just keep praying to God that his will be done.
If she is cheating, the marriage is already over. She doesn't need an excuse.
Only she can change herself.
pray 4 her and her husband.
e x c u s e s
she has 2 kids O_O
i feel bad for the kids
Here are several verses about adultery:
Exd 20:14 ';Do not commit adultery.
Deu 5:18 '; `Do not commit adultery
Pro 6:32 But the man who commits adultery is an utter fool, for he destroys his own soul.
Jer 23:14 But now I see that the prophets of Jerusalem are even worse! They commit adultery, and they love dishonesty. They encourage those who are doing evil instead of turning them away from their sins. These prophets are as wicked as the people of Sodom and Gomorrah once were.';
Eze 16:38 I will punish you for your murder and adultery. I will cover you with blood in my jealous fury.
Mat 5:32 But I say that a man who divorces his wife, unless she has been unfaithful, causes her to commit adultery. And anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
Mat 15:19 For from the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, all other sexual immorality, theft, lying, and slander
Mat 19:18 ';Which ones?'; the man asked. And Jesus replied: '; `Do not murder. Do not commit adultery. Do not steal. Do not testify falsely.
Mar 7:21 For from within, out of a person's heart, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder,
Mar 7:22 adultery, greed, wickedness, deceit, eagerness for lustful pleasure, envy, slander, pride, and foolishness.
Mar 7:23 All these vile things come from within; they are what defile you and make you unacceptable to God.';
Mar 10:12 And if a woman divorces her husband and remarries, she commits adultery.';
Mar 10:19 But as for your question, you know the commandments: `Do not murder. Do not commit adultery. Do not steal. Do not testify falsely. Do not cheat. Honor your father and mother.'*
Luk 18:20 But as for your question, you know the commandments: `Do not commit adultery. Do not murder. Do not steal. Do not testify falsely. Honor your father and mother.'* ';
Rom 7:3 So while her husband is alive, she would be committing adultery if she married another man. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law and does not commit adultery when she remarries.
Rom 13:13 We should be decent and true in everything we do, so that everyone can approve of our behavior. Don't participate in wild parties and getting drunk, or in adultery and immoral living, or in fighting and jealousy.
Hbr 13:4 Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.
2Pe 2:14 They commit adultery with their eyes, and their lust is never satisfied. They make a game of luring unstable people into sin. They train themselves to be greedy; they are doomed and cursed.
I went through something similar, and no one could tell me anything. I hope for her husband and her children's sake she turns around. Pray for her. There is so much power in prayer. The Lord doesn't want her to ruin her marriage. When you get married the 2 become 1 in the flesh. I wouldn't want to be the one standing before the Lord Almighty on judgment day explaining why I threw my family away. Maybe you should say that. If she hasn't completely quenched the Spirit, they may still have a chance. But it wont be easy, especially if she is back on drugs. Good Luck and God Bless. I'll keep you guys in my prayers!I need advice on what to say to my christian friend who knows the bible but wants to leave her husband.?
This one is not a simple matter and I would not presume to know what is right in this case. However, there are some forms of hurt that are not mended on earth and those marriages should not be continued. Hearts need love and purity, and without that you simply have two miserable people who pray for death. Do not worry about you saying something profound, just speak the truth of the matter, and let God handle the rest on His timetable.
your friend is huge idiot as well as anyone who follows the bible and looks it up for emotional advice on relationships in the 21th century! why does jesus care about anyone being in a dead end marriage where everyone is super unhappy??? if she doent love the guy, let her get a divorece , everyone will hurt more if they stay together!
One word, PRAY. She's choosing to do these things and she cannot be forced to turn back. But the Lord is more than able to touch and heal her heart and help her to overcome her problems. And it is the Lord alone who is able to convict her of her sin. So prayer is essential. She must have some deep wounds and only Jesus can heal them.
All you can truly do is pray for your friend. The Bible also teaches ( not that she cares) that a woman has no right to leave her husband. But since this is a non-Bible believing generation I doubt this will matter to her at all. Just keep praying to God that his will be done.
If she is cheating, the marriage is already over. She doesn't need an excuse.
Only she can change herself.
pray 4 her and her husband.
e x c u s e s
she has 2 kids O_O
i feel bad for the kids
Here are several verses about adultery:
Exd 20:14 ';Do not commit adultery.
Deu 5:18 '; `Do not commit adultery
Pro 6:32 But the man who commits adultery is an utter fool, for he destroys his own soul.
Jer 23:14 But now I see that the prophets of Jerusalem are even worse! They commit adultery, and they love dishonesty. They encourage those who are doing evil instead of turning them away from their sins. These prophets are as wicked as the people of Sodom and Gomorrah once were.';
Eze 16:38 I will punish you for your murder and adultery. I will cover you with blood in my jealous fury.
Mat 5:32 But I say that a man who divorces his wife, unless she has been unfaithful, causes her to commit adultery. And anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
Mat 15:19 For from the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, all other sexual immorality, theft, lying, and slander
Mat 19:18 ';Which ones?'; the man asked. And Jesus replied: '; `Do not murder. Do not commit adultery. Do not steal. Do not testify falsely.
Mar 7:21 For from within, out of a person's heart, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder,
Mar 7:22 adultery, greed, wickedness, deceit, eagerness for lustful pleasure, envy, slander, pride, and foolishness.
Mar 7:23 All these vile things come from within; they are what defile you and make you unacceptable to God.';
Mar 10:12 And if a woman divorces her husband and remarries, she commits adultery.';
Mar 10:19 But as for your question, you know the commandments: `Do not murder. Do not commit adultery. Do not steal. Do not testify falsely. Do not cheat. Honor your father and mother.'*
Luk 18:20 But as for your question, you know the commandments: `Do not commit adultery. Do not murder. Do not steal. Do not testify falsely. Honor your father and mother.'* ';
Rom 7:3 So while her husband is alive, she would be committing adultery if she married another man. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law and does not commit adultery when she remarries.
Rom 13:13 We should be decent and true in everything we do, so that everyone can approve of our behavior. Don't participate in wild parties and getting drunk, or in adultery and immoral living, or in fighting and jealousy.
Hbr 13:4 Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.
2Pe 2:14 They commit adultery with their eyes, and their lust is never satisfied. They make a game of luring unstable people into sin. They train themselves to be greedy; they are doomed and cursed.
Whats your advice on this if you're a christian?
Well, I was saved and accepted christ into my life about 2 years ago and I was baptized a few months later. I have been in and out of church since that time. I am now in a period where I am not going to church and havent been for about 6 months, I have been drinking about every other weekend and doing things I know are wrong. I feel a heavy sense of guilt and I am questioning my faith. I am not sure what to do, I feel bad and guilty about it and dont want to be judged. I live in a new area so the old church I went to is not close enough to go too. Im not sure what I should do to make me feel whole again like im on the right track, I worry that if I were to die today I would not go to heaven cause I have strayed so far away. What are your honest opinions on this? Please any advice?Whats your advice on this if you're a christian?
If you truly are saved, you will never lose your salvation. That said, you can lose close fellowship with the Lord, which obviously you have. The guilt you feel is conviction from the Holy Spirit. However, Satan is the one that wants you to continue in your guilt. You don't have to do that. Christ wants to welcome you back into close fellowship. The only thing that will truly make you feel whole again, is come back to the Cross. Church attendance can help in that you should have other Christians around you to support you, but only Christ can truly heal you. God is waiting to ';give you back the faith'; you lost. However, you do have to come to Him with open hands and obey what He says. You may not be an alcoholic but you are using drink as an escape. As it says in scripture ';do not get drunk on wine, but be filled with the Holy Spirit';. You are allowed your worldly friends to influence you. What you need to do is find a church near your home and begin to fill yourself with His word , each and every day. God loves you, and always will, and He is waiting for you to return home.Whats your advice on this if you're a christian?
You need not travel to be with God if God is within you.
All Christians stray from the path set by Christ. You cannot be perfect.
If you are questioning your faith then that is good - nothing should be beyond question. Ask these questions, and find the answers that make sense to you. If your faith is true, you will find your way back there. Be honest to yourself, and there is nothing more that any person or god can ask of you.
Good luck.
Peace and blessings to you :)
I dont have much advice sorry but maybe start hanging out with some new people-Christian or not Christian-but who dont party and do other things?
If you mean feeling guilty like in a bad feeling then dont feel that way because feeling conviction for sin is from God but feeling guiltys not from God and in my opinion is a useless feeling
Maybe start doing volunteer work with elderly people or homeless people etc and then you'll maybe have less time on your hands to party and mature and get different perspectives
Don't feel guilty about something you chose to do. If it was what you wanted to do do not feel guilt. Follow any faith you want as long as it makes you happy. Do not let the beliefs of others and the fear of hell scare you into faith. Just forget your fear of death and the afterlife and just live with your husband happily.
There are times in everyones life when they question their faith. No one is perfect. We all do things that make us feel guilty. I think you should try and find another church in your area. Your faith will strengthen as you begin to renew your relationship with God. As for you being judged, the only judge you need to worry about right now is yourself. Ask yourself if you are doing what feels right. If you feel guilt then you need to repent. God loves you and forgives all that you do. God Bless! +?+
Either make it 'right' or hold on tight, for it will be a bumpy ride. You sound like the persona of a person who wants God's protection without paying homage.
It will not be pretty..............
fix it now.
God did not move away from you, you moved away from God.
Jesus is alive and well in AA meetings. Everywhere in the Big Book of AA, you will find quotes in italics. That's Jesus being quoted. Go to a meeting and look for his words in AA's teachings. It works, and your church will now make more sense.
Alice says it is easy to get drunk, it is easy to break things, it is not easy to live a Christian or other faith based lifestyle.
I assume you are Catholic, if so, go to Confession. If you feel guilty, it will make you feel better. The Priest doesn't judge. Pray twice a day to Our Lady, it will help you stay away from the drink and remain pure.
Jesus is still their where he has always been, Jesus really does love you. You should make a commitment to yourself, and set some goals and plans make a start. Jesus is waiting '; Come back to your first love, Come back home where you belong.-Jesus
Find someone who's going through similar circumstances and befriend them and work on these things together.
It worked for me tremendously.
Christians just love their guilt and spiritual terrorism but that's how they were able to control the masses (and get paid)
This is why I love Buddhism :-)
Sorry to tell you this; there is no such thing as being ';saved';. If there was then you would not feel guilty about how you have been living. You have to work at your salvation all your life.
If you feel bad about it, stop drinking and hittin the bong and doing the dirty, and go to church
Live your life, not the life the bible tells you to. Drink wisely. Have sex. Do what makes you happy
If you're over 21, I see no problem with this.
Just the way you expressed your conversion, I rather suspect you did not go through a dicipleship training class. Just like newborn babies, who need guidance, %26amp; training, so do new Christians. The classes must be available.......and if not. .....go to a Berean Book store and ask the owner or clerk for things relating to new believers training.
Do stay reading Psalms, Proverbs, and the New Testament on a regular basis, and meditate on remembering it. It does come in to play as years go by.
If you accepted Christ......under stand what turning to Him means, and understand Romans 10:9.......then you are simply in a state of disobedience, yet still saved.
You know to do right.........so begin to do it again.
Obey God and leave all the consequences to HIM
Hebrews 13:5 says ';I will never leave, nor forsake you';
Your best bet would be to find a good Bible based church in your area. God is a God of restoration and reconciliation.
Many times I have strayed from the path, but God is a forgiving God and after repentance (asking God for forgiveness and turning away from the lifestyle), ask God to restore you.
I've been a Christian for a few years, and during my time of being a believer, I have walked away from Christ, got heavy into the drug scene, sex, stealing, even satanic stuff, but upon repentance God forgave me, filled me with that ';Holy Ghost Fire'; and even delivered me from all that, including heroin addiction!!!
In the book of Ephesians, it says that we are saved by grace, for it is the gift of God, not that of works, lest any man should boast.
God isn't going to begin a work and not finish it. Christ isn't done with you, until you quit sucking air.....God bless you, hon.
Start praising the Lord and singing songs of Praise to Him. Tell the Lord you love Him. It is because you have not found a church yet that your spirit man is crying out for you to find a church. When you do not attend church you can get in to a bad habit of not wanting to go. Because the flesh takes over and will speak to you about how you do not need to go to church.
But see you have a gift that they need, and you need their gifts. You need to read the bible whether you feel like it or not.
Because the world wants you to follow them.
Romans 12:1 says we are to renew our minds daily with the word of God.
Psalms 1 says not to sit down and hang out with mockers and sinners gather. Because they will rub off on you.
Jesus has been looking for you, and He has come to get you to come back.
Won't you begin to repent today and ask forgiveness. He will lead you to the right church and soon you will have new friends, and fun in your life again.
God Bless and remember God loves you so very much.:)
“Draw Close to God”
To maintain our sense of urgency, we need to stay close to Jehovah. Never forget that Satan is doing all in his power to destroy our good relationship with Jehovah. Satan would have us believe that the end will never come and that there is no point in preaching the good news or living by Bible standards. But he “is a liar and the father of the lie.” (John 8:44) We must be determined to “oppose the Devil.” Our relationship with Jehovah is something that we should never take for granted. The Bible lovingly urges us: “Draw close to God, and he will draw close to you.” (James 4:7, 8) How can you draw closer to Jehovah?
Prayerful meditation is vital. When life’s pressures seem overwhelming, pour out your heart to Jehovah. The more specific you are, the easier it will be to see his answer to your requests. The answer may not always be exactly what you had in mind, but if your desire is to honor him and to maintain integrity, he will provide the help you need so that you can endure successfully. (1 John 5:14) As you see his direction in your life, you will draw closer to him. Reading about and reflecting on Jehovah’s qualities and ways, as revealed in the Bible, are also essential. Such meditation helps you to know him better; it stirs your heart and deepens your love for him. (Psalm 19:14) And that love, more than anything else, will help you to resist temptation and keep on the watch.—1 John 5:3.
20 To keep close to Jehovah, it is also important that we stay close to our fellow believers.
I think you should stop worrying about a non-existent God and do what makes you happy.
you and your family are gonna go to hell.
its tough to stay faithful in a secular world. I really cant say what you should do besides repent an pray on it.
Anonymous sex and lots of it.prescription cream
If you truly are saved, you will never lose your salvation. That said, you can lose close fellowship with the Lord, which obviously you have. The guilt you feel is conviction from the Holy Spirit. However, Satan is the one that wants you to continue in your guilt. You don't have to do that. Christ wants to welcome you back into close fellowship. The only thing that will truly make you feel whole again, is come back to the Cross. Church attendance can help in that you should have other Christians around you to support you, but only Christ can truly heal you. God is waiting to ';give you back the faith'; you lost. However, you do have to come to Him with open hands and obey what He says. You may not be an alcoholic but you are using drink as an escape. As it says in scripture ';do not get drunk on wine, but be filled with the Holy Spirit';. You are allowed your worldly friends to influence you. What you need to do is find a church near your home and begin to fill yourself with His word , each and every day. God loves you, and always will, and He is waiting for you to return home.Whats your advice on this if you're a christian?
You need not travel to be with God if God is within you.
All Christians stray from the path set by Christ. You cannot be perfect.
If you are questioning your faith then that is good - nothing should be beyond question. Ask these questions, and find the answers that make sense to you. If your faith is true, you will find your way back there. Be honest to yourself, and there is nothing more that any person or god can ask of you.
Good luck.
Peace and blessings to you :)
I dont have much advice sorry but maybe start hanging out with some new people-Christian or not Christian-but who dont party and do other things?
If you mean feeling guilty like in a bad feeling then dont feel that way because feeling conviction for sin is from God but feeling guiltys not from God and in my opinion is a useless feeling
Maybe start doing volunteer work with elderly people or homeless people etc and then you'll maybe have less time on your hands to party and mature and get different perspectives
Don't feel guilty about something you chose to do. If it was what you wanted to do do not feel guilt. Follow any faith you want as long as it makes you happy. Do not let the beliefs of others and the fear of hell scare you into faith. Just forget your fear of death and the afterlife and just live with your husband happily.
There are times in everyones life when they question their faith. No one is perfect. We all do things that make us feel guilty. I think you should try and find another church in your area. Your faith will strengthen as you begin to renew your relationship with God. As for you being judged, the only judge you need to worry about right now is yourself. Ask yourself if you are doing what feels right. If you feel guilt then you need to repent. God loves you and forgives all that you do. God Bless! +?+
Either make it 'right' or hold on tight, for it will be a bumpy ride. You sound like the persona of a person who wants God's protection without paying homage.
It will not be pretty..............
fix it now.
God did not move away from you, you moved away from God.
Jesus is alive and well in AA meetings. Everywhere in the Big Book of AA, you will find quotes in italics. That's Jesus being quoted. Go to a meeting and look for his words in AA's teachings. It works, and your church will now make more sense.
Alice says it is easy to get drunk, it is easy to break things, it is not easy to live a Christian or other faith based lifestyle.
I assume you are Catholic, if so, go to Confession. If you feel guilty, it will make you feel better. The Priest doesn't judge. Pray twice a day to Our Lady, it will help you stay away from the drink and remain pure.
Jesus is still their where he has always been, Jesus really does love you. You should make a commitment to yourself, and set some goals and plans make a start. Jesus is waiting '; Come back to your first love, Come back home where you belong.-Jesus
Find someone who's going through similar circumstances and befriend them and work on these things together.
It worked for me tremendously.
Christians just love their guilt and spiritual terrorism but that's how they were able to control the masses (and get paid)
This is why I love Buddhism :-)
Sorry to tell you this; there is no such thing as being ';saved';. If there was then you would not feel guilty about how you have been living. You have to work at your salvation all your life.
If you feel bad about it, stop drinking and hittin the bong and doing the dirty, and go to church
Live your life, not the life the bible tells you to. Drink wisely. Have sex. Do what makes you happy
If you're over 21, I see no problem with this.
Just the way you expressed your conversion, I rather suspect you did not go through a dicipleship training class. Just like newborn babies, who need guidance, %26amp; training, so do new Christians. The classes must be available.......and if not. .....go to a Berean Book store and ask the owner or clerk for things relating to new believers training.
Do stay reading Psalms, Proverbs, and the New Testament on a regular basis, and meditate on remembering it. It does come in to play as years go by.
If you accepted Christ......under stand what turning to Him means, and understand Romans 10:9.......then you are simply in a state of disobedience, yet still saved.
You know to do right.........so begin to do it again.
Obey God and leave all the consequences to HIM
Hebrews 13:5 says ';I will never leave, nor forsake you';
Your best bet would be to find a good Bible based church in your area. God is a God of restoration and reconciliation.
Many times I have strayed from the path, but God is a forgiving God and after repentance (asking God for forgiveness and turning away from the lifestyle), ask God to restore you.
I've been a Christian for a few years, and during my time of being a believer, I have walked away from Christ, got heavy into the drug scene, sex, stealing, even satanic stuff, but upon repentance God forgave me, filled me with that ';Holy Ghost Fire'; and even delivered me from all that, including heroin addiction!!!
In the book of Ephesians, it says that we are saved by grace, for it is the gift of God, not that of works, lest any man should boast.
God isn't going to begin a work and not finish it. Christ isn't done with you, until you quit sucking air.....God bless you, hon.
Start praising the Lord and singing songs of Praise to Him. Tell the Lord you love Him. It is because you have not found a church yet that your spirit man is crying out for you to find a church. When you do not attend church you can get in to a bad habit of not wanting to go. Because the flesh takes over and will speak to you about how you do not need to go to church.
But see you have a gift that they need, and you need their gifts. You need to read the bible whether you feel like it or not.
Because the world wants you to follow them.
Romans 12:1 says we are to renew our minds daily with the word of God.
Psalms 1 says not to sit down and hang out with mockers and sinners gather. Because they will rub off on you.
Jesus has been looking for you, and He has come to get you to come back.
Won't you begin to repent today and ask forgiveness. He will lead you to the right church and soon you will have new friends, and fun in your life again.
God Bless and remember God loves you so very much.:)
“Draw Close to God”
To maintain our sense of urgency, we need to stay close to Jehovah. Never forget that Satan is doing all in his power to destroy our good relationship with Jehovah. Satan would have us believe that the end will never come and that there is no point in preaching the good news or living by Bible standards. But he “is a liar and the father of the lie.” (John 8:44) We must be determined to “oppose the Devil.” Our relationship with Jehovah is something that we should never take for granted. The Bible lovingly urges us: “Draw close to God, and he will draw close to you.” (James 4:7, 8) How can you draw closer to Jehovah?
Prayerful meditation is vital. When life’s pressures seem overwhelming, pour out your heart to Jehovah. The more specific you are, the easier it will be to see his answer to your requests. The answer may not always be exactly what you had in mind, but if your desire is to honor him and to maintain integrity, he will provide the help you need so that you can endure successfully. (1 John 5:14) As you see his direction in your life, you will draw closer to him. Reading about and reflecting on Jehovah’s qualities and ways, as revealed in the Bible, are also essential. Such meditation helps you to know him better; it stirs your heart and deepens your love for him. (Psalm 19:14) And that love, more than anything else, will help you to resist temptation and keep on the watch.—1 John 5:3.
20 To keep close to Jehovah, it is also important that we stay close to our fellow believers.
I think you should stop worrying about a non-existent God and do what makes you happy.
you and your family are gonna go to hell.
its tough to stay faithful in a secular world. I really cant say what you should do besides repent an pray on it.
Anonymous sex and lots of it.
Have any advice or good sources of information on Christian dating? I need help now. ?
I am well over 30 and dating. It was my Christian women friends who said, ';why not?';. No, I dont follow them blindly...but I do respect their input and believe it is important to fellowship and get good Christian counsel. Anyhow, now that I have met someone through my church--it has become rather complicated. Seems that every couple we meet has one member that is pushing for marriage and the other is just trying to figure out what to do. These are all nice people and devoted service oriented Christians. But none of them can make up their minds on the issues of meeting (is it God ordained and if so, what do we look for?), dating, marriage, sex and the rest of it. I'd like to tell myself that life expectancy wasnt so long when the bible was written and therefore, its different when you have an annulment over age 35....but noah lived to be like 600 or something and he had only one wife.....You should know that every one of these people wants a God Blessed commited marriage...not one of them would shy away if they were sure.....but since we already have a past and since we are all sinners anyhow....how are we supposed to know what to do? We have prayed together in small groups and me and my guy pray all the time. Is dating just strictly off limits for those that are divorced? widowed? or otherwise single over 35? help. Have any advice or good sources of information on Christian dating? I need help now. ?
If both of you focus your eyes on Jesus, you should be fine. Discuss frankly with each other about each other's expectation in life and not be blinded by love at cloud 9. Establish spiritual intimacy before the physical touch. Only Jesus makes both man %26amp; women complete, not the two of them. Have any advice or good sources of information on Christian dating? I need help now. ?
You've become mired in the false statements and desires of those past who have changed the original texts of the Bible to suit their needs. What you see in print today is a far cry from the original first century scripts.
Life only has the meaning you give it.
You are over the age of 35, that is a good thing when it comes to dating. After a certain amount of time, your experience whether good or bad can help guide you through the youthful lusts and experiences. My thoughts are this, are you completely over your previous relationships, or is this one an extension of that? If so, slow it down and ask God for good counsel before you continue any further with her. Two, before you got with her, was there a signal within you that said that she was worth marrying? Dating's plan is truly a preparation for marriage, never get with no one that you cannot forsee yourself being engaged to for a lifetime. Next, bring healing to that women as you are, because good relationships stand when the man first stands for a woman that is hurting. It is funny that no relationship whould exist if that were not true, pray for and over her. Last, make sure you continue to walk with God first, being steadfast as his mouthpiece in this relationship.
God hates divorce, but if you two have come to an agreement then move on. Otherwise, sit back and align yourself with God.
I hope this helps
If both of you focus your eyes on Jesus, you should be fine. Discuss frankly with each other about each other's expectation in life and not be blinded by love at cloud 9. Establish spiritual intimacy before the physical touch. Only Jesus makes both man %26amp; women complete, not the two of them. Have any advice or good sources of information on Christian dating? I need help now. ?
You've become mired in the false statements and desires of those past who have changed the original texts of the Bible to suit their needs. What you see in print today is a far cry from the original first century scripts.
Life only has the meaning you give it.
You are over the age of 35, that is a good thing when it comes to dating. After a certain amount of time, your experience whether good or bad can help guide you through the youthful lusts and experiences. My thoughts are this, are you completely over your previous relationships, or is this one an extension of that? If so, slow it down and ask God for good counsel before you continue any further with her. Two, before you got with her, was there a signal within you that said that she was worth marrying? Dating's plan is truly a preparation for marriage, never get with no one that you cannot forsee yourself being engaged to for a lifetime. Next, bring healing to that women as you are, because good relationships stand when the man first stands for a woman that is hurting. It is funny that no relationship whould exist if that were not true, pray for and over her. Last, make sure you continue to walk with God first, being steadfast as his mouthpiece in this relationship.
God hates divorce, but if you two have come to an agreement then move on. Otherwise, sit back and align yourself with God.
I hope this helps
CHRISTIAN ANSWERS ONLY!!!! I am a 14 year ol boy and need advice on.....?
How to to talk to this Christian girl at my church.I have a crush on her and im afraid to go and talk to her.also,she is almost always with her friends so that just makes it harder.CHRISTIAN ANSWERS ONLY!!!! I am a 14 year ol boy and need advice on.....?
oh hunny i was there. but it was easier for me cause the guy i liked made the first move but it wasnt planed. and we had friends that were friends. but there was another guy i liked for a long time i felt that i wasnt good enough for him. he would play mind games with me and never do anything. i say just be straight with her. start up a friendship with her. if your church has a party or something ask her to go with u. or to sit with u. u never know what will happen. the first guy i told u about well after lets see seven years we are now married for two years and have a baby boy. i am not saying that u will marry her. but just keep your head up and dont give up and u know the best thing u can do is pray about it. and ask god to show u the best way to go about it so u dont get hurt and she doesnt. i would pray about it and give it time. and for her friends i dont know about that i was weird all my friends were guys. so if u think girls are bad try walking up to a girl with at least six to ten other boy your age. that u know like the girl. i would pick the girls. just take it easy and be your self. u dont want to change and her like the new u and u not like the new u. just pray. well good luck hunny hope things go great for u.CHRISTIAN ANSWERS ONLY!!!! I am a 14 year ol boy and need advice on.....?
If you are into Christian music, perhaps you could begin approaching her by asking for her opinion on a certain recording artist. Make eye contact, listen intently at her response and let her know how much you value her opinion.
If that works in your favor, maybe ask to sit with her and her friends during the service. Best to surround yourself with friends as well, they can provide moral support.
take her to the side, and start talking perhaps ask for her msn, then get to know her better after a week or two, u can ask her face to face, so that u catch her facial expression.........to movies
and take it on from there
Why are you afraid to talk to her? Because she's a Christian? To talk to her is no different than talking to a non-Christian girl. Are you not a Christian?
God forbid SATAN is on Yahoo answers right now.
talk to her, and quit with the question, you sound like a spoiled little brat!!!!!!!!! like mom mom mom
oh hunny i was there. but it was easier for me cause the guy i liked made the first move but it wasnt planed. and we had friends that were friends. but there was another guy i liked for a long time i felt that i wasnt good enough for him. he would play mind games with me and never do anything. i say just be straight with her. start up a friendship with her. if your church has a party or something ask her to go with u. or to sit with u. u never know what will happen. the first guy i told u about well after lets see seven years we are now married for two years and have a baby boy. i am not saying that u will marry her. but just keep your head up and dont give up and u know the best thing u can do is pray about it. and ask god to show u the best way to go about it so u dont get hurt and she doesnt. i would pray about it and give it time. and for her friends i dont know about that i was weird all my friends were guys. so if u think girls are bad try walking up to a girl with at least six to ten other boy your age. that u know like the girl. i would pick the girls. just take it easy and be your self. u dont want to change and her like the new u and u not like the new u. just pray. well good luck hunny hope things go great for u.CHRISTIAN ANSWERS ONLY!!!! I am a 14 year ol boy and need advice on.....?
If you are into Christian music, perhaps you could begin approaching her by asking for her opinion on a certain recording artist. Make eye contact, listen intently at her response and let her know how much you value her opinion.
If that works in your favor, maybe ask to sit with her and her friends during the service. Best to surround yourself with friends as well, they can provide moral support.
take her to the side, and start talking perhaps ask for her msn, then get to know her better after a week or two, u can ask her face to face, so that u catch her facial expression.........to movies
and take it on from there
Why are you afraid to talk to her? Because she's a Christian? To talk to her is no different than talking to a non-Christian girl. Are you not a Christian?
God forbid SATAN is on Yahoo answers right now.
talk to her, and quit with the question, you sound like a spoiled little brat!!!!!!!!! like mom mom mom
Help: Advice for how to handle my ';radical'; Christian son?
My wife and I sent our boy to a Christian College specifically to avoid him falling under the influence of PC liberals. Now it turns out that some of the Christians he has met at school are just as bad. All he cares about now is helping the poor and he has been pressuring my wife and I to give more to the poor. He says it is against Jesus for us to have several different homes and a boat while so many poor people go hungry. I was always taught that Jesus only wants us to work hard and that he makes sure we get rewarded for our effort. Why should I help lazy people who don't work. That's communism, which I know is against Jesus. I just wanted my son to become a respectable Christian man, not some radical. He says he won't even try to make money and anything my wife and I leave him he will give to the poor. And I know at his school, he is with a group that spends a lot of time going into the bad parts of the city where my wife and I do not want him to go.Help: Advice for how to handle my ';radical'; Christian son?
It's funny--this troll is actually representing the reality of Christian conservatives quite wellHelp: Advice for how to handle my ';radical'; Christian son?
Cut him off. It sounds to me like your kid has no concept of the value of money. What you worked for is yours to do with as you please. It would sure be nice to give it away and have a greater impact on humanity as a whole rather than for yourself and your material goods, but that's YOUR decision to make, not your son's. If he wants to give away what's his, let him /work/ for his money and then do with it as he pleases. Maybe once he has to feed, clothe, and shelter himself he'll have a better appreciation of receiving just value for one's hard work. That's his right as an adult.
I'd say he is the second coming of Jesus. Great he has finally comeback. All these Xians are going to be glad to hear this. I think he is supposed to save the world or something.
Sorry, but i really think your boy is very much right! You send him to a christian school and now he is a good christian you just think he is radical?????
Is this hypocrisy or what???????????!!!!!!!!!!
Tell him it's all a bunch of lies and that christianity is just made up.
Your son is turning into a saint. How old is your son? I understand the part of not wanting him to get hurt in the bad part of the city as any father and mother would care but does he go with others and adults as a group to help the poor? While he may be harsh on you what he says is true as far as that it is good to be poor. Jesus chose to be poor - he rode into the city on a donkey and told his disciples to give up what they have. That does not mean to have things and have money is wrong but it is what you do with them and always to remember never to idolize them. Look at the lives of Blessed Mother Teresa of Calcutta or St.Francis of Assisi who renounced everything for the poor and the sick. God Bless Your Son %26amp; your family.
It's funny--this troll is actually representing the reality of Christian conservatives quite wellHelp: Advice for how to handle my ';radical'; Christian son?
Cut him off. It sounds to me like your kid has no concept of the value of money. What you worked for is yours to do with as you please. It would sure be nice to give it away and have a greater impact on humanity as a whole rather than for yourself and your material goods, but that's YOUR decision to make, not your son's. If he wants to give away what's his, let him /work/ for his money and then do with it as he pleases. Maybe once he has to feed, clothe, and shelter himself he'll have a better appreciation of receiving just value for one's hard work. That's his right as an adult.
I'd say he is the second coming of Jesus. Great he has finally comeback. All these Xians are going to be glad to hear this. I think he is supposed to save the world or something.
Sorry, but i really think your boy is very much right! You send him to a christian school and now he is a good christian you just think he is radical?????
Is this hypocrisy or what???????????!!!!!!!!!!
Tell him it's all a bunch of lies and that christianity is just made up.
Your son is turning into a saint. How old is your son? I understand the part of not wanting him to get hurt in the bad part of the city as any father and mother would care but does he go with others and adults as a group to help the poor? While he may be harsh on you what he says is true as far as that it is good to be poor. Jesus chose to be poor - he rode into the city on a donkey and told his disciples to give up what they have. That does not mean to have things and have money is wrong but it is what you do with them and always to remember never to idolize them. Look at the lives of Blessed Mother Teresa of Calcutta or St.Francis of Assisi who renounced everything for the poor and the sick. God Bless Your Son %26amp; your family.
I need some Christian advice?
i go to a private christian school but it is way to much pressure on me. the teachers aren't very good and i have a lot of homework and quizzes. i have like 8 quizzes a week and it is so stressful. test are frequent. i hate it there im miserable. ive thrown up a lot on the mornings just because of stress and anxiety. i cry all the time at school its so embarrassing. my best friend moved so i don't really have anyone. it seems like everyone else doesn't find it stressful. i think i really might be depressed here. but there is public school that im thinking about switching to. the only problem is they have a lot of bullying problem and there are lots of fights. and the classrooms are bigger. I don't know what to do it seems like every single school sucks. i just need some christian advice because no one gives me good advice. they all say its going to be ok its going to get better but i hasn't. i sometimes stop breathing. i don't have time for after school activities because of the homework and studying and i get lack of sleep from having to study half the night for all these pointless test and quizszes. where should i go to school? i feel so alone like no one understands me.I need some Christian advice?
You need to find another form of education that works for you. You will not receive a good education when it is physically making you ill with the stress involved. I am assuming your parents are concerned about your education as they are probably the ones footing the bills for this. You need to talk to them. This is not okay and you shouldn't have to go through this. You shouldn't go to the public school either. I wouldn't send my kids there, that's for sure! Pray to your Heavenly Father for help. Tell your parents you would like to do an on-line homeschooling program. You spend a couple hours a day doing your work and you can find programs where your parents don't have to be involved as much if they are busy. Programs very and there are a lot of good ones out there. Good luck to you and God bless you.I need some Christian advice?
sounds like you need to tell your parents. and to switch to a public school. ive never been to catholic school, but ive heard that they put more pressure on you there than they do at public school. look in the area for a public school -- not ALL public schools are bad; i go to one and i dont have fights all the time -- and just make sure you're happy.
First, what do your parents think about this?
You will have quizzes and tests at the public school too.
You said you have anxiety and stress. All teens have anxiety and stress but if you are feeling depressed but need to be talking to a counsellor. I went through depression and it's not usually something that you just snap out of. Ask your parents to take you to a dr. Talk to that dr and tell him about feeling depressed and ask him to send you to someone you can talk to. I'm not saying you need drugs. I never went on drugs for my depression. But I did have someone to talk to and I did learn some breathing techniques to keep me calmer.
Our children's pastor's wife was having a really hard time dealing with anxiety. She worried so much she exhausted me! LOL One day while talking to the senior pastor about how she was worrying about something he stopped her and asked if she has read her bible or prayed yet that day. Sheepishly she said no. He handed her his bible told her to sit and he'd be back in 30 mins. He told her to just open the bible read for 15 minutes and then pray for 15 minutes. Those instructions totally changed her life! Now, before she even gets out of bed she opens her bible and starts to read. Then she prays. She used to think she needed to be dressed for the day,to do those things. Which meant she need to exercise, take a shower, get dressed, eat breakfast, do her hair, her make up, etc. But the time she was done it was time to leave for the office. Now, she reads first and she is much calmer. In fact one morning I came into the office expecting her to be in a tizzy because of VBS and she was sitting there laughing and calming having her hot chocolate. I commented to her husband about how calmer she had been lately and he told me why she was calmer. He said twice he has come home to pick her up at lunch and she was all wired up and he looked at her and asked her what she had read in her bible that day and she admitted she hadn't read her bible. He sat down on the couch and told her he'd be willing to wait and sent her back to read and pray. He says it makes that much of a difference in her life. So, I said all that to ask you this. How is your relationship with your creator? Have to talked to him, really talked to him lately and have you been listening to His words for you? Be anxious for nothing the bible says. God will provide for you.
If you are still struggling perhaps you need extra help. Is there an older student who can be a study helper for you? Don't blame the teachers. Try to figure out why you just aren't getting it. Try to be friendly to one person in your classroom. Remember, it will take time but just put the Love of God on that person and make them feel very special, slowly you'll find that person warming up to your friendship and it will be reciprocated. Wow, I just wrote a novel. I'm praying for you, see you in heaven. Amy on the Farm
You need to find another form of education that works for you. You will not receive a good education when it is physically making you ill with the stress involved. I am assuming your parents are concerned about your education as they are probably the ones footing the bills for this. You need to talk to them. This is not okay and you shouldn't have to go through this. You shouldn't go to the public school either. I wouldn't send my kids there, that's for sure! Pray to your Heavenly Father for help. Tell your parents you would like to do an on-line homeschooling program. You spend a couple hours a day doing your work and you can find programs where your parents don't have to be involved as much if they are busy. Programs very and there are a lot of good ones out there. Good luck to you and God bless you.I need some Christian advice?
sounds like you need to tell your parents. and to switch to a public school. ive never been to catholic school, but ive heard that they put more pressure on you there than they do at public school. look in the area for a public school -- not ALL public schools are bad; i go to one and i dont have fights all the time -- and just make sure you're happy.
First, what do your parents think about this?
You will have quizzes and tests at the public school too.
You said you have anxiety and stress. All teens have anxiety and stress but if you are feeling depressed but need to be talking to a counsellor. I went through depression and it's not usually something that you just snap out of. Ask your parents to take you to a dr. Talk to that dr and tell him about feeling depressed and ask him to send you to someone you can talk to. I'm not saying you need drugs. I never went on drugs for my depression. But I did have someone to talk to and I did learn some breathing techniques to keep me calmer.
Our children's pastor's wife was having a really hard time dealing with anxiety. She worried so much she exhausted me! LOL One day while talking to the senior pastor about how she was worrying about something he stopped her and asked if she has read her bible or prayed yet that day. Sheepishly she said no. He handed her his bible told her to sit and he'd be back in 30 mins. He told her to just open the bible read for 15 minutes and then pray for 15 minutes. Those instructions totally changed her life! Now, before she even gets out of bed she opens her bible and starts to read. Then she prays. She used to think she needed to be dressed for the day,to do those things. Which meant she need to exercise, take a shower, get dressed, eat breakfast, do her hair, her make up, etc. But the time she was done it was time to leave for the office. Now, she reads first and she is much calmer. In fact one morning I came into the office expecting her to be in a tizzy because of VBS and she was sitting there laughing and calming having her hot chocolate. I commented to her husband about how calmer she had been lately and he told me why she was calmer. He said twice he has come home to pick her up at lunch and she was all wired up and he looked at her and asked her what she had read in her bible that day and she admitted she hadn't read her bible. He sat down on the couch and told her he'd be willing to wait and sent her back to read and pray. He says it makes that much of a difference in her life. So, I said all that to ask you this. How is your relationship with your creator? Have to talked to him, really talked to him lately and have you been listening to His words for you? Be anxious for nothing the bible says. God will provide for you.
If you are still struggling perhaps you need extra help. Is there an older student who can be a study helper for you? Don't blame the teachers. Try to figure out why you just aren't getting it. Try to be friendly to one person in your classroom. Remember, it will take time but just put the Love of God on that person and make them feel very special, slowly you'll find that person warming up to your friendship and it will be reciprocated. Wow, I just wrote a novel. I'm praying for you, see you in heaven. Amy on the Farm
I need a christian perspective on this, ive fallen for my best friend, i need good advice, help me out?
im in a bad place spiritually, im more alone then ive ever been, so i cant loose my best friend, but for the past couple weeks ive been developing feelings for her, what in the world should i do?
my best friend is a delightful girl who had bf problems a little bit ago, theyre kinda taking a break/kinda back together now. this guy though is a pervert and hes going no where in life, i know i can be a better man for her, i already have a job and im in college to get a better one. shes was dating this guy for around 2 years so she was kind of planning on marrying him, but then they got in a fight and are on the break now.
should i tell her how i feel? she tried to set me up with one of her friends, i wouldnt mind, but its not what i want. i want to be the guy that can give her the best. should i tell her? would it just ruin our friendship? if i should tell her, how should i do it?I need a christian perspective on this, ive fallen for my best friend, i need good advice, help me out?
First of all get right with God. He should be your number one priority. Then tell her that you think she deserves better than the boyfriend she has. Then if it's the right thing to do and at a different time, tell her that you have something to tell her but you don't want to ruin your friendship and then tell her your feelings.I need a christian perspective on this, ive fallen for my best friend, i need good advice, help me out?
You want a Christian perspective? Ok. Stop playing one up on this guy. Begin there and maybe, just maybe, you will find your answer, alter boy.
How does it make a difference if its a christian or not.
Do you want help? Or Bible passages that will lead you nowhere.
Tell her how you feel, its the natural way, however, if she tried to get you with one of her friends, and has been with a guy for 2 years, she might not be interested, especially when you're her best friend.
so, uh, you're asking people who've had their sexuality repressed by christianity to give you love advice?
something's wrong with this picture.
You can tell her how you feel but if she doesn't feel the same way back - what then? Are you prepared for that? Nothing kills a good friendship faster than a hazardous relationship. Trust me.
If you don't talk to her about your feelings, you will always regret it. So ask the Lord for joy and confidence and wise speech, and tell her how you feel.
Carpe diem, Seize the day.
If she doesn't feel the same, that's okay! Then you will know where she stands. In that case, accept it, remain her good friend, and romantically move on to a girl who will love you totally.
But maybe God allowed this break with her old bf to open up a space for you? As in Esther -- ';God has raised you up for such a time as this';.
Do itt.
well, since i'm not Christian i guess my advise wouldn't be worth reading. **shrug** too bad. i had some pretty advise good to offer you. oh well.
Better to tell her than not to. And if it doesn't work our or if she says no, at least you may still be friends.
You need His peace. Pray.
Phillipians 4
6Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
If it is not for Peter, it is not for Peter.
your wanting to get her on the rebound. bad boy you!!!
You are better than he is? Judge not or you will be judged.
Yes you should tell her. You need to be prepared for any answer though - she might say no.
Tell her how you feel. You dont want to regret not telling her later
Christian perspective, eh?
OK. You're a sinner and you're going to go to hell.
Do her.
my best friend is a delightful girl who had bf problems a little bit ago, theyre kinda taking a break/kinda back together now. this guy though is a pervert and hes going no where in life, i know i can be a better man for her, i already have a job and im in college to get a better one. shes was dating this guy for around 2 years so she was kind of planning on marrying him, but then they got in a fight and are on the break now.
should i tell her how i feel? she tried to set me up with one of her friends, i wouldnt mind, but its not what i want. i want to be the guy that can give her the best. should i tell her? would it just ruin our friendship? if i should tell her, how should i do it?I need a christian perspective on this, ive fallen for my best friend, i need good advice, help me out?
First of all get right with God. He should be your number one priority. Then tell her that you think she deserves better than the boyfriend she has. Then if it's the right thing to do and at a different time, tell her that you have something to tell her but you don't want to ruin your friendship and then tell her your feelings.I need a christian perspective on this, ive fallen for my best friend, i need good advice, help me out?
You want a Christian perspective? Ok. Stop playing one up on this guy. Begin there and maybe, just maybe, you will find your answer, alter boy.
How does it make a difference if its a christian or not.
Do you want help? Or Bible passages that will lead you nowhere.
Tell her how you feel, its the natural way, however, if she tried to get you with one of her friends, and has been with a guy for 2 years, she might not be interested, especially when you're her best friend.
so, uh, you're asking people who've had their sexuality repressed by christianity to give you love advice?
something's wrong with this picture.
You can tell her how you feel but if she doesn't feel the same way back - what then? Are you prepared for that? Nothing kills a good friendship faster than a hazardous relationship. Trust me.
If you don't talk to her about your feelings, you will always regret it. So ask the Lord for joy and confidence and wise speech, and tell her how you feel.
Carpe diem, Seize the day.
If she doesn't feel the same, that's okay! Then you will know where she stands. In that case, accept it, remain her good friend, and romantically move on to a girl who will love you totally.
But maybe God allowed this break with her old bf to open up a space for you? As in Esther -- ';God has raised you up for such a time as this';.
Do itt.
well, since i'm not Christian i guess my advise wouldn't be worth reading. **shrug** too bad. i had some pretty advise good to offer you. oh well.
Better to tell her than not to. And if it doesn't work our or if she says no, at least you may still be friends.
You need His peace. Pray.
Phillipians 4
6Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
If it is not for Peter, it is not for Peter.
your wanting to get her on the rebound. bad boy you!!!
You are better than he is? Judge not or you will be judged.
Yes you should tell her. You need to be prepared for any answer though - she might say no.
Tell her how you feel. You dont want to regret not telling her later
Christian perspective, eh?
OK. You're a sinner and you're going to go to hell.
Do her.
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Married non-Christian (I wasn't either at the time) have converted, having problems, need advice?
Married a non-Christian, had no premarital counseling (due to not really thinking it was necessary since neither were attending a church....stupid but true). Been married 4 years, have 2 children. I have converted and joined a Church that does not allow divorce except for adultery, which there hasn't been (porn I've heard debated...which he did look at, but I don't know that porn is really adultery). Anyway, he's very controlling and verbally/emotionally abusive. He's cut me off from my friends and family, and makes up excuses for us not to go to church (he didn't join the church yet through baptism but he did go with me to church). My minister has told me that I picked him and I need to make every effort to make it work, which I feel that I'm doing, but my husband is mean, and controls my life to an extreme that I feel is too much. I have tried counseling but my husband will not attend with me, The minister (who does counseling) will only see me if it is couple's counseling, not just me, and has said that we need to stay together because I'm the believer and the verse in 1 Corinthians says only the unbeliever can be the one to leave if not yoked equally, which would allow the believer to remarry. I'm not looking for divorce, but I feel it's fast approaching, I'm really scared, and I can't talk to most people in my church about it because they feel it's wrong. Can someone give me an outside view please?Married non-Christian (I wasn't either at the time) have converted, having problems, need advice?
He has left you. He has broken his vows to love you and protect you, etc. He is now the danger you are to look out for.
You are alone.
You have made every effort.
Is this minister of yours looking forward to the service of burial for your body when this guy ups the abuse to death for you?
Porn is unfaithfulness. Does your minister look at porn? I would think he does if it's debatable . Does he abuse his family? I would think so if it is to be tolerated in anyone in his opinion
Time to leave this church and save yourself and the children.
Children you say...? Yes, because they are next. If you stay you teach them it's ok to be abused. Is that the lesson in life you want for them?Married non-Christian (I wasn't either at the time) have converted, having problems, need advice?
The apostle Paul says that if you have a husband/wife who doesn't bother you for you being christian, it's okay. Don't leave him/her; but if he makes you depart from the Lord, leave him. The Lord is the number 1. It's what the bible says. Check in Mathew and 1ºCo 7.
Back in the day when there were cavemen there was no such thing as marriage or divorce....People just f***ed eachothers brains out and reproduced like rabbits.
Were they sinning then?
Are you sinning now if you divorce your husband?
(well...I don't BELIEVE in sin...But don't you think God who you see as being an all knowing perfect and kind heart being would understand your situation? There...Case closed)
I think that only you should be the one in control of your life. No minister, no husband, no friends...nobody but you. It's a matter of what you believe in and what you feel in your heart is the right thing to do.
Having an abusive husband doesn't just harm you, it harms your children and while being a single mother is not easy it may be for the best. Remember, its not just you you should be thinking of now.
Sounds as though you could probably do better. And he certainly could.
You trapped yourself in this, and now you've locked the door yourself! You need a parent, not a husband.
Just dump the church and the guy. Later you could always go back or join a different church. No one or no thing should be that controlling. God will forgive. Sorry if this doesn't help.
I don't know. God has the ultimate advice. Pray and ask Him(:
contact new life (a Chrsitian counseling service), back when I could hear them on the radio they discussed issues like this.
http://www.newlife.com
Dump his ***. He's a jerk.
It's your life. Control it...
Make a decision and go through with it. If your religion doesn't allow you to divorce and you want to abide by that, then you're stuck. Make the best of it... it's one of the problems with a religious dogma...
As far as your yoked thing, you changed since your marriage. Your husband is still the same. Again, it was your choice... My wife and I have been unequally yoked for over 35 happy years and have two great grown children...
Happy New Year...
I am a devout Christian... and I completely and utterly disagree with your minister. Frankly, I think you would serve yourself best by finding a church that does not support abusive husbands. The fact is that abusive people very, very rarely change. There is likely nothing you can do to change him, leaving you with two options: leave or be a victim. The Bible also says that a man should give himself to his wife like Christ did to the Church. If your unbelieving husband is abusing and/or controlling you, then it seems to me like he DID leave your marriage already. Marriage is a loving covenant between two people, and he has already broken the covenant. Your marriage is already over, because he has skipped out on his end of the deal. The divorce will just make it legal. My advice? Get professional counseling outside your church, call an attorney, and consider finding yourself a more reasonable, more supportive church.
Good luck and God bless!
First of all, like so many people, including Ministers, they do not read the “entire” scripture or are only emphasizing one aspect of it.
The Bible never say’s that it is a “sin” to divorce. The part that it talks about that it is a sin unless for the reason of Adultery, is because divorce tears apart the commitment and trust of the marriage. However, the tearing apart of the commitment and trust, can also happen in many other ways. Physical abuse to you and other your kids. Incest or something you mentioned which was porn.
In other words, you can put all of these other things under the “label” of Adultery.
The Bible isn’t going to sit there and list everything that would be equal to Adultery, because there would be too many things to mention down through the ages.
What was the Bible going to say, “Thou shalt not lust to Internet Porn when it is invented around the late 1990’s”.
Also, if you truly want to stick to the “except for adultery” as in your husband sleeping with another woman, remember this, the Bible does not say that the “committing adultery” part has to happen within the bounds of the marriage.
God does not look at that piece of paper of being married as the only boundaries for committing adultery and or fornication. If he did, then why would he say to the woman at the well that you have had five husbands? It wasn’t that she had “five husband by Law”, she had “sex” with five guys which in God’s eye’s constituted a “marriage” and in turn “adultery”.
If you divorce your husband, wait until you know or at least a year or so, that you’re Ex has gotten hooked up with someone else and that he has most likely committed adultery with another woman. Then he ';has'; committed adultery to your marriage with him and then you are free to marry someone else.
This is what I did in my first marriage. My wife told me that she wanted a divorce and that she loved someone else. The physical proof of ';her adultery'; did not happen until about 3 months later when I knew they were living together. Even more proof came when she had a baby from him 8 months later.
So, first of all pray for the marriage, seek outside counseling from a different church that will help you and then if you feel you need to divorce him, then do it.
Then devote your life to the Lord, your kids and a career and wait for God’s guidance. God will show you when it is okay to remarry someone else, if that is what you want.
It is written to not divorce unless the unbeliever can't stand to live with the believer anymore. Let the unbeliever go.
Grounds for divorce is adulterer or physical abuse. Not so much verbal abuse that many unbelieving spouses do.
When I first recommitted to Christ, my husband started getting physically abusive. So I nipped it in the bud %26amp; called 911 when he slapped my face as I was looking at the phone.
That was the end of that.
But he is an alcoholic so is my worst persecutor when he is drunk, regarding my faith in Jesus Christ. So? I have learned to depend on Jesus %26amp; trust that what Gods Word says about me is to be believed above what negative comments come from my husband.
And I have prayed about this with others. The Pastor preached on it then. And so? My husband hasn't had an affair %26amp; doesn't physically abuse me. He does harass me with sleep deprivation by playing ungodly music loudly when I try to sleep. But he is much nicer today than when I first recommitted to Jesus Christ. And we have had some real quality times together (when he quit drinking for a while). So I can't let those horrible drunk times destroy the quality times we have shared in the past.
I stay with Him because the Lord leads me to. But if the Lord told me to leave, I would. So this would be a personal decision in any Christians life. But it is good to pray with others about it to have clear direction.
I would need to know if your willing to go against what your Church has told you if your religion wasn't a factor in your decision making I would say it sounds like you would have left. Aside from what your Church teaches, you need to do whats best for you and your children it may not be to stay with him. Ultimately its up to you God will not hold yours or your children's welfare against you. The people who run your Church may tho.
tell your equally controlling preacher to go f**k himself, get your kids and any money you can, get the hell out before he kills you. Go to the Salvation army or a police station and ask for the address of a women's shelter. Do not contact any members of your church. they will only tell your husband where you are. then, find a new church where women are treated like people, not property
Only God can turn this around. You need to commit to a season of praying for him. Love him unconditionally. Fast meals ...even if it has to do with feeding everyone but yourself.....There was a story of a man who was in his lower 50's - not saved - and his wife was saved %26amp; at one point - he refused to let her go out of the house to go to church - he told her - if you go out to church - I will lock and bolt the door.....she went anyway - later when she got back home - the doors werre bolted - she slept outside the door in a foyer.....when he opened the door the next morning - she greeted him with a warm smile %26amp; a hello %26amp; made his favorite breakfast...later on - he wound up going to church %26amp; getting saved - his name was Smith Wigglesworth-who wound up being a very powerful man of God....
Have both of you seen the movie Fireproof - it's about relationships - try having him watch that after you've prayed for him about this...it's changed some people after watching it....
your minster is wrong leave him seek another church. Like catholic church that's where I go I had a bad marriage in the passed a priest helped me I know a lot of people frown on catholic church but I learned differently about it I realized it is the true church and it has changed my life and my children too. good luck but I would leave him for sure.Even if I just stopped going to church is better then how you are living now. I will say a prayer for you.PS I am remarried now and very happy
Pornography is lust. Lust is adultery, and therefore is legitimate in God's eyes for divorce. But I wouldn't suggest divorce.
Constantly pray for him and show him the love of God through your actions. Also, try to get your children involved with God. He is more likely to convert if he sees three lives changed instead of just yours.prescription cream
He has left you. He has broken his vows to love you and protect you, etc. He is now the danger you are to look out for.
You are alone.
You have made every effort.
Is this minister of yours looking forward to the service of burial for your body when this guy ups the abuse to death for you?
Porn is unfaithfulness. Does your minister look at porn? I would think he does if it's debatable . Does he abuse his family? I would think so if it is to be tolerated in anyone in his opinion
Time to leave this church and save yourself and the children.
Children you say...? Yes, because they are next. If you stay you teach them it's ok to be abused. Is that the lesson in life you want for them?Married non-Christian (I wasn't either at the time) have converted, having problems, need advice?
The apostle Paul says that if you have a husband/wife who doesn't bother you for you being christian, it's okay. Don't leave him/her; but if he makes you depart from the Lord, leave him. The Lord is the number 1. It's what the bible says. Check in Mathew and 1ºCo 7.
Back in the day when there were cavemen there was no such thing as marriage or divorce....People just f***ed eachothers brains out and reproduced like rabbits.
Were they sinning then?
Are you sinning now if you divorce your husband?
(well...I don't BELIEVE in sin...But don't you think God who you see as being an all knowing perfect and kind heart being would understand your situation? There...Case closed)
I think that only you should be the one in control of your life. No minister, no husband, no friends...nobody but you. It's a matter of what you believe in and what you feel in your heart is the right thing to do.
Having an abusive husband doesn't just harm you, it harms your children and while being a single mother is not easy it may be for the best. Remember, its not just you you should be thinking of now.
Sounds as though you could probably do better. And he certainly could.
You trapped yourself in this, and now you've locked the door yourself! You need a parent, not a husband.
Just dump the church and the guy. Later you could always go back or join a different church. No one or no thing should be that controlling. God will forgive. Sorry if this doesn't help.
I don't know. God has the ultimate advice. Pray and ask Him(:
contact new life (a Chrsitian counseling service), back when I could hear them on the radio they discussed issues like this.
http://www.newlife.com
Dump his ***. He's a jerk.
It's your life. Control it...
Make a decision and go through with it. If your religion doesn't allow you to divorce and you want to abide by that, then you're stuck. Make the best of it... it's one of the problems with a religious dogma...
As far as your yoked thing, you changed since your marriage. Your husband is still the same. Again, it was your choice... My wife and I have been unequally yoked for over 35 happy years and have two great grown children...
Happy New Year...
I am a devout Christian... and I completely and utterly disagree with your minister. Frankly, I think you would serve yourself best by finding a church that does not support abusive husbands. The fact is that abusive people very, very rarely change. There is likely nothing you can do to change him, leaving you with two options: leave or be a victim. The Bible also says that a man should give himself to his wife like Christ did to the Church. If your unbelieving husband is abusing and/or controlling you, then it seems to me like he DID leave your marriage already. Marriage is a loving covenant between two people, and he has already broken the covenant. Your marriage is already over, because he has skipped out on his end of the deal. The divorce will just make it legal. My advice? Get professional counseling outside your church, call an attorney, and consider finding yourself a more reasonable, more supportive church.
Good luck and God bless!
First of all, like so many people, including Ministers, they do not read the “entire” scripture or are only emphasizing one aspect of it.
The Bible never say’s that it is a “sin” to divorce. The part that it talks about that it is a sin unless for the reason of Adultery, is because divorce tears apart the commitment and trust of the marriage. However, the tearing apart of the commitment and trust, can also happen in many other ways. Physical abuse to you and other your kids. Incest or something you mentioned which was porn.
In other words, you can put all of these other things under the “label” of Adultery.
The Bible isn’t going to sit there and list everything that would be equal to Adultery, because there would be too many things to mention down through the ages.
What was the Bible going to say, “Thou shalt not lust to Internet Porn when it is invented around the late 1990’s”.
Also, if you truly want to stick to the “except for adultery” as in your husband sleeping with another woman, remember this, the Bible does not say that the “committing adultery” part has to happen within the bounds of the marriage.
God does not look at that piece of paper of being married as the only boundaries for committing adultery and or fornication. If he did, then why would he say to the woman at the well that you have had five husbands? It wasn’t that she had “five husband by Law”, she had “sex” with five guys which in God’s eye’s constituted a “marriage” and in turn “adultery”.
If you divorce your husband, wait until you know or at least a year or so, that you’re Ex has gotten hooked up with someone else and that he has most likely committed adultery with another woman. Then he ';has'; committed adultery to your marriage with him and then you are free to marry someone else.
This is what I did in my first marriage. My wife told me that she wanted a divorce and that she loved someone else. The physical proof of ';her adultery'; did not happen until about 3 months later when I knew they were living together. Even more proof came when she had a baby from him 8 months later.
So, first of all pray for the marriage, seek outside counseling from a different church that will help you and then if you feel you need to divorce him, then do it.
Then devote your life to the Lord, your kids and a career and wait for God’s guidance. God will show you when it is okay to remarry someone else, if that is what you want.
It is written to not divorce unless the unbeliever can't stand to live with the believer anymore. Let the unbeliever go.
Grounds for divorce is adulterer or physical abuse. Not so much verbal abuse that many unbelieving spouses do.
When I first recommitted to Christ, my husband started getting physically abusive. So I nipped it in the bud %26amp; called 911 when he slapped my face as I was looking at the phone.
That was the end of that.
But he is an alcoholic so is my worst persecutor when he is drunk, regarding my faith in Jesus Christ. So? I have learned to depend on Jesus %26amp; trust that what Gods Word says about me is to be believed above what negative comments come from my husband.
And I have prayed about this with others. The Pastor preached on it then. And so? My husband hasn't had an affair %26amp; doesn't physically abuse me. He does harass me with sleep deprivation by playing ungodly music loudly when I try to sleep. But he is much nicer today than when I first recommitted to Jesus Christ. And we have had some real quality times together (when he quit drinking for a while). So I can't let those horrible drunk times destroy the quality times we have shared in the past.
I stay with Him because the Lord leads me to. But if the Lord told me to leave, I would. So this would be a personal decision in any Christians life. But it is good to pray with others about it to have clear direction.
I would need to know if your willing to go against what your Church has told you if your religion wasn't a factor in your decision making I would say it sounds like you would have left. Aside from what your Church teaches, you need to do whats best for you and your children it may not be to stay with him. Ultimately its up to you God will not hold yours or your children's welfare against you. The people who run your Church may tho.
tell your equally controlling preacher to go f**k himself, get your kids and any money you can, get the hell out before he kills you. Go to the Salvation army or a police station and ask for the address of a women's shelter. Do not contact any members of your church. they will only tell your husband where you are. then, find a new church where women are treated like people, not property
Only God can turn this around. You need to commit to a season of praying for him. Love him unconditionally. Fast meals ...even if it has to do with feeding everyone but yourself.....There was a story of a man who was in his lower 50's - not saved - and his wife was saved %26amp; at one point - he refused to let her go out of the house to go to church - he told her - if you go out to church - I will lock and bolt the door.....she went anyway - later when she got back home - the doors werre bolted - she slept outside the door in a foyer.....when he opened the door the next morning - she greeted him with a warm smile %26amp; a hello %26amp; made his favorite breakfast...later on - he wound up going to church %26amp; getting saved - his name was Smith Wigglesworth-who wound up being a very powerful man of God....
Have both of you seen the movie Fireproof - it's about relationships - try having him watch that after you've prayed for him about this...it's changed some people after watching it....
your minster is wrong leave him seek another church. Like catholic church that's where I go I had a bad marriage in the passed a priest helped me I know a lot of people frown on catholic church but I learned differently about it I realized it is the true church and it has changed my life and my children too. good luck but I would leave him for sure.Even if I just stopped going to church is better then how you are living now. I will say a prayer for you.PS I am remarried now and very happy
Pornography is lust. Lust is adultery, and therefore is legitimate in God's eyes for divorce. But I wouldn't suggest divorce.
Constantly pray for him and show him the love of God through your actions. Also, try to get your children involved with God. He is more likely to convert if he sees three lives changed instead of just yours.
What advice do you have for a 23 year old girl of Christian faith who has never dated? (repost)?
I'm 23 years old and I've never had a bf or dated before. I'm heavily into studies at the moment, and with my Christian faith, I know that I need to be patient and start waiting on God to allow things to happen naturally. How do you be patient in these circumstances? Sometimes I feel unwanted or that something must be wrong with me. I don't have time to date because I'm in graduate school and I'm also studying to get into medical school. Sometimes it saddens me that I have all of these goals that perhaps are pushing guys away from me.... How do I remain patient?What advice do you have for a 23 year old girl of Christian faith who has never dated? (repost)?
All that is wrong with you is that you are unavailable due to
your work load. In similar circumstances, I have heard of many couples getting married and the pull to achieve by one causes
the two to grow at different rates. Eventually they grow apart.
You are saving yourself the emotional roller coaster of an early
marriage that conflicts with your career goals. When you have
time for mating, it will happen naturally - unless you are too
up tight by then.What advice do you have for a 23 year old girl of Christian faith who has never dated? (repost)?
Keep being patient, hon, because the best guys are the ones worth waiting for -- and especially if you're going into med school-- you're going to need to stay focused. Then, you will meet a fantastically brilliant fellow med student, and that's who you'll probably marry and have a wonderful life with.
There's nothing wrong with you at all.
It is very good that you are into your studies, but you do need to start interacting with guys. God is not ganna make a beautiful man come to your door the moment you graduate. you have to go out there and find him your self. If you like to remain patient, really ask your self how important your studies are to you. Is this the road you really want to take?? Don't be too hard on your self and live your life. You are only young and 23 once in a life time.
My prediction for your life:-
1.. You will continue on as you have always done, repressing your desires
2.. One night you will get drunk, stoned, laid and tattooed
3.. You will then spend the next years agonizing over this night and not actually learn anything from it. It will just have the effect of somehow reinforcing all the repression.
You should stop depending on ';when god allow things to happen';. I think it would be good for you to take control of your life, focus on school yes.....however that has nothing to do with being single or being unwanted or unable to date.
There's time for everything, forget about what god wants, and find time for friends and for dating etc.
it's not that bad, don't be patient i myself am a fallen catholic, i believe that if you want somethiong dont wait on god to give it to you, because if there is a god he likes seing us sad. if you want it go get it, don't be sleezy or slutty just go somewhere where you feel comforatable and casually approach a guy that you like,
After your studies are over you will have more time for romance. I think in medical school you will meet someone also becoming a Dr. and the two of you will hit it off. It is coming on down the line a little further. Remember there are guys in the same spot you are. Thinking exactly like you are. They are asking themselves when will I ever have time for dating. You will get together some day.
God helps those who help themselves. Maybe you should join some groups where men will have some sort of common interest with you like a church group or a study group. Or if you attend church start talking to some people after the service. Maybe you will meet someone that way. As you seem so dedicated to your faith(nothing wrong with that) try to find someone who shares your beliefs as it is really hard when they don't.
Don't listen to any of these people. I would suggest a christian dating site or just finding someone at church. There are not very many devout christians around your age so they are pretty hard to come by. I dont know the name of a christian dating site, but im sure there are some. If not, e-harmony could probably match you up with someone of the same faith and values. Good luck girlie :)
Pray as far as patience.
Get your head in your studies and also get yourself in physical shape.
You CAN date, but make sure that the guy is into you and you share similar VALUES. Make your education and career your priority. People really shouldn't get married until age 30 because then you've matured and have your education completed with your career started.
Don't worry. There is no lack of men. I wouldn't recommend waiting past 32. If you want children, you'll want to think about the health and age in regard to your eggs.
I wish you all the best! Huge hugs!
KitKat : )
It's hard but it's the path you have chosen. I also went to graduate school and it is very difficult to have a 'significant other'. Once you are out of school and live in the real world, things get much easier. I wish someone had told me this back then because in my student days, I was also a dateless wonder.
Giz
Don't worry. Just keep putting God first and He'll send someone for you at His time. He probably knows that if He sends a guy your way right now that it will take your attention off of your goals. Just try to be patient and pray about it. Good luck!
you dont need to be patient just try it out because if you never try and just wait for a guy to come along you will never know if he is the right one for you. Date a guy a two so you make sure that you get a man that is good for you.
you are still so young! it is better to wait for the right one then to rush into something that might not be right for you in 10 years... if you are feeling impatient though you could try going on Christian dating sites and chats. There you will find people who have the same goals and values as you. You sound like you have so many things going for you... dont worry about a guy right now!
That's not going to put any (decent) guy off. Its not an issue. Kelly Copeland was talking about waiting for your ';assigned'; partner. There are so many awful men. Why dont you tell God that you are ready now, it will happen.
...prayer, luv. Connecting with the right church can be important.
Staying away from bad influences can also help. Movies and tv can influence any Christian into losing focus on what the Lord has for us to do.
your love for Jesus is so pure you should remain chaste instead of debasing yourself with men who will engage in sex which is inherently dirty and sinful.
It is God's timetable, not mankinds. Be grateful and patient.
if guys only knew you were a virgin than they would be all over you unless you are like really ugly or fat.
Start wearing a purity ring; you'll have to beat them off ... with a stick.
~
Good God. Get a life, girl. Mr. Right isn't going to walk into your dorm room and propose. Doctors need love too.
Is there something wrong with you? Yes. Your blind faith and Patience has given you a dull loveless life. Things happen to people who make them happen. Get out there and start communicating with people (guys). Do not bring up the subject of religion. What a turn off. Get your nose out of those books for a while and go outside and sit in the sun and contemplate what your life is going to be like in the future if you keep going down this path your on. Can you not see that you have been blindly disregarding life all around you, for the sake of following some religion ? You are wasting your life on your god.
Forget being patient......go out and grab life by the horns.
If you have a goal in life, and that goal is most important to you, imagine the results of that every time your thoughts lead you astray from your work. There is perhaps no way to remain patient, but there is a way to keep yourself focused. It's advice I could stand to take myself.
More to the point, though, you can't rely on God to give you everything. That's just not how life works. If that future you envision has that special someone in it, then seek him out. Get involved with things and find people who resonate with you. If you don't have time to do that, then again, it's a matter of priorities and staying focused.
I would say pray about it. I guess you understand to be patient, and god will provide. By the sounds of it, you sound a little anxious, or lonely. If you would consider to start dating, just pray about it. A little prayer can go a long ways. It is not a sin to ask for a companion. God's always listening. And, you sound like u have a very busy lifestyle, good job on the studies. If you want to, make time for yourself. Try not to work too hard. I know this sounds a little too much cause u always have to be doing something, but just take it easy and relax. I would say be patient, but saying it is not the same as doing it... Just pray about it. And you'll find someone when u least expected.
All that is wrong with you is that you are unavailable due to
your work load. In similar circumstances, I have heard of many couples getting married and the pull to achieve by one causes
the two to grow at different rates. Eventually they grow apart.
You are saving yourself the emotional roller coaster of an early
marriage that conflicts with your career goals. When you have
time for mating, it will happen naturally - unless you are too
up tight by then.What advice do you have for a 23 year old girl of Christian faith who has never dated? (repost)?
Keep being patient, hon, because the best guys are the ones worth waiting for -- and especially if you're going into med school-- you're going to need to stay focused. Then, you will meet a fantastically brilliant fellow med student, and that's who you'll probably marry and have a wonderful life with.
There's nothing wrong with you at all.
It is very good that you are into your studies, but you do need to start interacting with guys. God is not ganna make a beautiful man come to your door the moment you graduate. you have to go out there and find him your self. If you like to remain patient, really ask your self how important your studies are to you. Is this the road you really want to take?? Don't be too hard on your self and live your life. You are only young and 23 once in a life time.
My prediction for your life:-
1.. You will continue on as you have always done, repressing your desires
2.. One night you will get drunk, stoned, laid and tattooed
3.. You will then spend the next years agonizing over this night and not actually learn anything from it. It will just have the effect of somehow reinforcing all the repression.
You should stop depending on ';when god allow things to happen';. I think it would be good for you to take control of your life, focus on school yes.....however that has nothing to do with being single or being unwanted or unable to date.
There's time for everything, forget about what god wants, and find time for friends and for dating etc.
it's not that bad, don't be patient i myself am a fallen catholic, i believe that if you want somethiong dont wait on god to give it to you, because if there is a god he likes seing us sad. if you want it go get it, don't be sleezy or slutty just go somewhere where you feel comforatable and casually approach a guy that you like,
After your studies are over you will have more time for romance. I think in medical school you will meet someone also becoming a Dr. and the two of you will hit it off. It is coming on down the line a little further. Remember there are guys in the same spot you are. Thinking exactly like you are. They are asking themselves when will I ever have time for dating. You will get together some day.
God helps those who help themselves. Maybe you should join some groups where men will have some sort of common interest with you like a church group or a study group. Or if you attend church start talking to some people after the service. Maybe you will meet someone that way. As you seem so dedicated to your faith(nothing wrong with that) try to find someone who shares your beliefs as it is really hard when they don't.
Don't listen to any of these people. I would suggest a christian dating site or just finding someone at church. There are not very many devout christians around your age so they are pretty hard to come by. I dont know the name of a christian dating site, but im sure there are some. If not, e-harmony could probably match you up with someone of the same faith and values. Good luck girlie :)
Pray as far as patience.
Get your head in your studies and also get yourself in physical shape.
You CAN date, but make sure that the guy is into you and you share similar VALUES. Make your education and career your priority. People really shouldn't get married until age 30 because then you've matured and have your education completed with your career started.
Don't worry. There is no lack of men. I wouldn't recommend waiting past 32. If you want children, you'll want to think about the health and age in regard to your eggs.
I wish you all the best! Huge hugs!
KitKat : )
It's hard but it's the path you have chosen. I also went to graduate school and it is very difficult to have a 'significant other'. Once you are out of school and live in the real world, things get much easier. I wish someone had told me this back then because in my student days, I was also a dateless wonder.
Giz
Don't worry. Just keep putting God first and He'll send someone for you at His time. He probably knows that if He sends a guy your way right now that it will take your attention off of your goals. Just try to be patient and pray about it. Good luck!
you dont need to be patient just try it out because if you never try and just wait for a guy to come along you will never know if he is the right one for you. Date a guy a two so you make sure that you get a man that is good for you.
you are still so young! it is better to wait for the right one then to rush into something that might not be right for you in 10 years... if you are feeling impatient though you could try going on Christian dating sites and chats. There you will find people who have the same goals and values as you. You sound like you have so many things going for you... dont worry about a guy right now!
That's not going to put any (decent) guy off. Its not an issue. Kelly Copeland was talking about waiting for your ';assigned'; partner. There are so many awful men. Why dont you tell God that you are ready now, it will happen.
...prayer, luv. Connecting with the right church can be important.
Staying away from bad influences can also help. Movies and tv can influence any Christian into losing focus on what the Lord has for us to do.
your love for Jesus is so pure you should remain chaste instead of debasing yourself with men who will engage in sex which is inherently dirty and sinful.
It is God's timetable, not mankinds. Be grateful and patient.
if guys only knew you were a virgin than they would be all over you unless you are like really ugly or fat.
Start wearing a purity ring; you'll have to beat them off ... with a stick.
~
Good God. Get a life, girl. Mr. Right isn't going to walk into your dorm room and propose. Doctors need love too.
Is there something wrong with you? Yes. Your blind faith and Patience has given you a dull loveless life. Things happen to people who make them happen. Get out there and start communicating with people (guys). Do not bring up the subject of religion. What a turn off. Get your nose out of those books for a while and go outside and sit in the sun and contemplate what your life is going to be like in the future if you keep going down this path your on. Can you not see that you have been blindly disregarding life all around you, for the sake of following some religion ? You are wasting your life on your god.
Forget being patient......go out and grab life by the horns.
If you have a goal in life, and that goal is most important to you, imagine the results of that every time your thoughts lead you astray from your work. There is perhaps no way to remain patient, but there is a way to keep yourself focused. It's advice I could stand to take myself.
More to the point, though, you can't rely on God to give you everything. That's just not how life works. If that future you envision has that special someone in it, then seek him out. Get involved with things and find people who resonate with you. If you don't have time to do that, then again, it's a matter of priorities and staying focused.
I would say pray about it. I guess you understand to be patient, and god will provide. By the sounds of it, you sound a little anxious, or lonely. If you would consider to start dating, just pray about it. A little prayer can go a long ways. It is not a sin to ask for a companion. God's always listening. And, you sound like u have a very busy lifestyle, good job on the studies. If you want to, make time for yourself. Try not to work too hard. I know this sounds a little too much cause u always have to be doing something, but just take it easy and relax. I would say be patient, but saying it is not the same as doing it... Just pray about it. And you'll find someone when u least expected.
What advice do you have for a 23 year old girl of Christian faith who has never dated?
I'm 23 years old and I've never had a bf or dated before. I'm heavily into studies at the moment, and with my Christian faith, I know that I need to be patient and start waiting on God to allow things to happen naturally. How do you be patient in these circumstances? Sometimes I feel unwanted or that something must be wrong with me. I don't have time to date because I'm in graduate school and I'm also studying to get into medical school. Sometimes it saddens me that I have all of these goals that perhaps are pushing guys away from me.... Help?What advice do you have for a 23 year old girl of Christian faith who has never dated?
Your Asian , Right ?
Many Asians put study first in their early life , if you are 23 , I would guess you are almost finished your studies . Why not finish them off %26amp; then look for a BF or if you want one now , why not look at your class mates who have similar goals as you.Just be careful the wrong BF could drag your mind off your studies %26amp; it would be a shame to fail so close to the finish.
If you are not Asian then the same thing applies.
I am sure you are a beautiful person %26amp; will find the right boy , just take your time.
If you want a friend then you are welcome to email meWhat advice do you have for a 23 year old girl of Christian faith who has never dated?
I'm not asian, but thank-you for the wonderful answer.
Well, ';stop waiting and get yourself a date before you're over the hill'; comes to mind immediately. If you don't have time to date and you're heavily into studies, that implies that your non-dating is a choice. Why then do you feel unwanted? How would you even KNOW whether or not you're wanted unless you put yourself out there and make yourself available to date?
...and there's your problem right there ';... waiting on god....';.
To do what exacly? Have you no sense as to what you want and what you don't want? Can't you tell between an azz hole and one who is not? Where's your judgement in the matter? Oh that's right.. your ';waiting on an invisible entity to supply the goods..... '; ...good luck with that.
Don't worry dear, im 18 and have never had a boyfriend either, in a way though i think its Gods way of protecting me, i have very very very high standards for guys so maybe thats why, i really could care less about the whole dating thing, i figure if God has a man for me he will bring him to me and i won't have to go out chasing guys, God will bring you the right person when the time is right. Just focus on your studies now, relationships can cause alot of stress and extra worries that will interfere with school.
God has called some for special purposes and teaches us that only some who are specially gifted to be single at least for a while and that its so they can serve Him in a special way without the constraints of family. It may be for a short time or for life but its a special gift. Also those who trust in God have a promise that He will not only care for them but also give them the desires of their heart.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
yes relationships are not worth it and u cant stop the real one .. if its the real deal it will go smoothly with the goals you have and make you go forward and not stagnate or lose ground .. and u wont have to try to find the right one either it will come to you .. my best advice is stay focused on what you have going on coz it sounds good to me :) .. life isnt passing you by your on top of it at the moment ..
It sounds to me that you have made a lot of correct decisions. Both of my sons are adults, both in college and neither date. They wish to prepare a home to present to their brides and trust that God will lead them to their brides.
Be patient and God will lead.
Congrats on getting into medical school and good luck in all you do! but on to your question: God is not a matchmaker. If you want a bf, then you have to go out and look for one. God will put him in your path, but you have to walk the path to meet him.
My advice is twofold. First, you have chosen the correct priority, education. Second, do not let society and american culture make you feel inferior because you are not ';doing the dating scene'; the way peer pressure says we should. God has given life to you to make your own decisions. he will bless our decisions if we ask, but He will not make them for us. You,ve plenty of time for dating and romance, get your life together first. Thanks for sharing and Godspeed on your journey.
First don't date a man who is not a christian and not a virgin. Second wait for confirmation from God when you find someone who appeals to you. God will lead you if you will listen.
one has to decide do i want to be this medical professional with possibly no spouse.
Should I date now or wait to after I reach my goal.
You should ask god what he wants you to do.
It depends what your objective is. But if someone asks you out, accept the date, for the practice. It's just a date. One date is not going to destroy your academic career. Be honest with the guy.
You need to study the bible for guidance.
I recommend reading Ezekiel 23:19-21
lighten up and enjoy life, not saying you don't, but spend more time just hanging with friends... don't think you have to ';play the dating game';... just be a real friend and don't turn down time to enjoy the simple things with someone.
Ask God to give you the right boyfriend and have faith! God Bless! Good Luck! That special someone will come when God wants them to.
Have you considered a dating service or a matchmaker?
Are there no eligible young men at your church?
JUST BE YOURSELF;
SPREAD YOUR LOVE TO OTHERS;
AND YOU WILL GET LOVE BACK TO YOU
don't allow your feelings to over ride your sense .
get a dildo
GOD WILL THROW A MAN DOWN FOR YOU FROM HEAVEN...lol....be ready to catch it...and remember to thank god!
Continue to get your life in order and the person who said get a dildo is just that. Ignore him/her. You should wait on the guy of your dream so that you can do things the right way. If you do that God will bless you more than ever. I wish I could have saved myself for marriage but the person I thought was going to be my future wife decided to cheat on me. So get your life in order and everything else will fall in place.
Your Asian , Right ?
Many Asians put study first in their early life , if you are 23 , I would guess you are almost finished your studies . Why not finish them off %26amp; then look for a BF or if you want one now , why not look at your class mates who have similar goals as you.Just be careful the wrong BF could drag your mind off your studies %26amp; it would be a shame to fail so close to the finish.
If you are not Asian then the same thing applies.
I am sure you are a beautiful person %26amp; will find the right boy , just take your time.
If you want a friend then you are welcome to email meWhat advice do you have for a 23 year old girl of Christian faith who has never dated?
I'm not asian, but thank-you for the wonderful answer.
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Well, ';stop waiting and get yourself a date before you're over the hill'; comes to mind immediately. If you don't have time to date and you're heavily into studies, that implies that your non-dating is a choice. Why then do you feel unwanted? How would you even KNOW whether or not you're wanted unless you put yourself out there and make yourself available to date?
...and there's your problem right there ';... waiting on god....';.
To do what exacly? Have you no sense as to what you want and what you don't want? Can't you tell between an azz hole and one who is not? Where's your judgement in the matter? Oh that's right.. your ';waiting on an invisible entity to supply the goods..... '; ...good luck with that.
Don't worry dear, im 18 and have never had a boyfriend either, in a way though i think its Gods way of protecting me, i have very very very high standards for guys so maybe thats why, i really could care less about the whole dating thing, i figure if God has a man for me he will bring him to me and i won't have to go out chasing guys, God will bring you the right person when the time is right. Just focus on your studies now, relationships can cause alot of stress and extra worries that will interfere with school.
God has called some for special purposes and teaches us that only some who are specially gifted to be single at least for a while and that its so they can serve Him in a special way without the constraints of family. It may be for a short time or for life but its a special gift. Also those who trust in God have a promise that He will not only care for them but also give them the desires of their heart.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
yes relationships are not worth it and u cant stop the real one .. if its the real deal it will go smoothly with the goals you have and make you go forward and not stagnate or lose ground .. and u wont have to try to find the right one either it will come to you .. my best advice is stay focused on what you have going on coz it sounds good to me :) .. life isnt passing you by your on top of it at the moment ..
It sounds to me that you have made a lot of correct decisions. Both of my sons are adults, both in college and neither date. They wish to prepare a home to present to their brides and trust that God will lead them to their brides.
Be patient and God will lead.
Congrats on getting into medical school and good luck in all you do! but on to your question: God is not a matchmaker. If you want a bf, then you have to go out and look for one. God will put him in your path, but you have to walk the path to meet him.
My advice is twofold. First, you have chosen the correct priority, education. Second, do not let society and american culture make you feel inferior because you are not ';doing the dating scene'; the way peer pressure says we should. God has given life to you to make your own decisions. he will bless our decisions if we ask, but He will not make them for us. You,ve plenty of time for dating and romance, get your life together first. Thanks for sharing and Godspeed on your journey.
First don't date a man who is not a christian and not a virgin. Second wait for confirmation from God when you find someone who appeals to you. God will lead you if you will listen.
one has to decide do i want to be this medical professional with possibly no spouse.
Should I date now or wait to after I reach my goal.
You should ask god what he wants you to do.
It depends what your objective is. But if someone asks you out, accept the date, for the practice. It's just a date. One date is not going to destroy your academic career. Be honest with the guy.
You need to study the bible for guidance.
I recommend reading Ezekiel 23:19-21
lighten up and enjoy life, not saying you don't, but spend more time just hanging with friends... don't think you have to ';play the dating game';... just be a real friend and don't turn down time to enjoy the simple things with someone.
Ask God to give you the right boyfriend and have faith! God Bless! Good Luck! That special someone will come when God wants them to.
Have you considered a dating service or a matchmaker?
Are there no eligible young men at your church?
JUST BE YOURSELF;
SPREAD YOUR LOVE TO OTHERS;
AND YOU WILL GET LOVE BACK TO YOU
don't allow your feelings to over ride your sense .
get a dildo
GOD WILL THROW A MAN DOWN FOR YOU FROM HEAVEN...lol....be ready to catch it...and remember to thank god!
Continue to get your life in order and the person who said get a dildo is just that. Ignore him/her. You should wait on the guy of your dream so that you can do things the right way. If you do that God will bless you more than ever. I wish I could have saved myself for marriage but the person I thought was going to be my future wife decided to cheat on me. So get your life in order and everything else will fall in place.
I am a Christian and believe in God, but I feel I don't love Him enough; advice?
I mean, I don't have time at all to go to church, but I pray; I believe, but I don't feel anything special inside of me when I think of Jesus...why?I am a Christian and believe in God, but I feel I don't love Him enough; advice?
I'm a Christian too and relate to what you're saying. My relationship with God sort of ebbs and flows ... there have been times when I've been very involved in church, going regularly, voluteering and doing Bible study and there have been other times when I've been excited about other things.
The best advice I can give is that if you really want a stronger relationship with God, read your Bible, find a good Bible-based church in your area and get involved in something at church that excites you -- I used to do be on my church's tech team and it was really fun -- I go to a really big church and everything they do is very professional, so doing the audio-visual stuff was just like it would be doing it in one of Hollywood's productions -- just more wholesomeI am a Christian and believe in God, but I feel I don't love Him enough; advice?
try worshiping cows (like indians) - give it a try
you may get equally or more passionate
If you belive then you will properly love God.
I used to fell like that but I just started to give it a bit more and now I am a full beliver!
Ask for God's grace to help you love Him better. Through His grace, all is possible.
I don't think anyone feels they love God enough. And it is something we all worry about just as we wonder if we're good enough to get into Heaven.
I would advise you to make time for church tho. There are plenty around with various times of worship. So it isn't impossible. Drop something from your life that you are making a priority and an excuse not to worship in His house. It will help you to be with other Christians and may help you with whatever it is you think you should feel when thinking of Jesus.
';In this is love, not that we loved Him but He loved us and gave Himself for us.'; (John's epistles)
God is love and first we need to receive His love to be able to feel that we love Him. Read your Bible, pray that God will show you what is so special about Jesus - that you will understand the depths of His love for you.
Maybe you should try to go to a church and have friends who also believe. A spark that is away from the fireplace cools off. Get close to the fire - get close to christians. Let God do something special in your life.
Just keep plowing along. personally, I think people need to attend Church for this very reason. There's something about being with like minded people and having conversations about faith that help bring what it seems you're looking for. Seeing the work of God in the faces of others is awesome! Remember, ';where two or more are gathered in my name, there I am also.';
And don't stress over ';feeling'; something too much. Gods love is about doing, not being.
I think that鈥檚 called living a lie to be honest and I am not Christian. You should find a ';belief system'; or ';idea system'; that does it for you and not what others say because you have to live your life not them.
On the other hand you could just be an impassive person, which is why you feel nothing.
do your own thing, I see no clear evidence that there was ever meant to be a church. You have free will, use it.
I'm a Christian too and relate to what you're saying. My relationship with God sort of ebbs and flows ... there have been times when I've been very involved in church, going regularly, voluteering and doing Bible study and there have been other times when I've been excited about other things.
The best advice I can give is that if you really want a stronger relationship with God, read your Bible, find a good Bible-based church in your area and get involved in something at church that excites you -- I used to do be on my church's tech team and it was really fun -- I go to a really big church and everything they do is very professional, so doing the audio-visual stuff was just like it would be doing it in one of Hollywood's productions -- just more wholesomeI am a Christian and believe in God, but I feel I don't love Him enough; advice?
try worshiping cows (like indians) - give it a try
you may get equally or more passionate
If you belive then you will properly love God.
I used to fell like that but I just started to give it a bit more and now I am a full beliver!
Ask for God's grace to help you love Him better. Through His grace, all is possible.
I don't think anyone feels they love God enough. And it is something we all worry about just as we wonder if we're good enough to get into Heaven.
I would advise you to make time for church tho. There are plenty around with various times of worship. So it isn't impossible. Drop something from your life that you are making a priority and an excuse not to worship in His house. It will help you to be with other Christians and may help you with whatever it is you think you should feel when thinking of Jesus.
';In this is love, not that we loved Him but He loved us and gave Himself for us.'; (John's epistles)
God is love and first we need to receive His love to be able to feel that we love Him. Read your Bible, pray that God will show you what is so special about Jesus - that you will understand the depths of His love for you.
Maybe you should try to go to a church and have friends who also believe. A spark that is away from the fireplace cools off. Get close to the fire - get close to christians. Let God do something special in your life.
Just keep plowing along. personally, I think people need to attend Church for this very reason. There's something about being with like minded people and having conversations about faith that help bring what it seems you're looking for. Seeing the work of God in the faces of others is awesome! Remember, ';where two or more are gathered in my name, there I am also.';
And don't stress over ';feeling'; something too much. Gods love is about doing, not being.
I think that鈥檚 called living a lie to be honest and I am not Christian. You should find a ';belief system'; or ';idea system'; that does it for you and not what others say because you have to live your life not them.
On the other hand you could just be an impassive person, which is why you feel nothing.
do your own thing, I see no clear evidence that there was ever meant to be a church. You have free will, use it.
Christian anti-gays: Do you ever consult a gay guy for fashion advice?
Queer eye for the christian guy! It would be a hit on primetime tv.Christian anti-gays: Do you ever consult a gay guy for fashion advice?
Geez, how many times must we explain this. By default, Christians are not anti-gay. Our belief that homosexuality is a sin does not make one anti-gay.
Regarding consulting a gay guy for fashion advice? Yes, but not because they were gay. But because they were a friend and I valued their opinion.
Peace.
Edit: Mr. Klown - you seem quite bigoted. You assume all Christians are anti-gay. You assume all gay men have a good fashion sense. You assume all straight men believe gay men have a good fashion sense. Might be time for some self-reflection.
Edit 2: Klowny, saying one particular group ';tends'; toward something is a slippery slope towards prejudice, don't you think?
Peace.Christian anti-gays: Do you ever consult a gay guy for fashion advice?
Hmmm... I am under the impression that ALL peoples are my Brothers and Sisters, no matter what. We have all sinned, so who am I to say that what another person does is any worse than what I have already done? Let me tell you, I make Paul look good. FACT! God bless everyone!
Do I? No. Would I? If I thought I needed it; if I had one as a friend.
Thankfully, most women I know have a reasonable sense of fashion (my wife included). Lord knows I didn't!
I'm not Anti-Gay but Anti-Gay behavior rather, But No, Nor to have my hair cut or my house decorated . I'm not a very fashionable or trendy person and I'm ok with that. God bless %26amp; Merry CHRISTmas !
No. I can pick out my own shirts and ties . . . . and if I have any trouble, I can just get what is in the catalog.
Dan in Miami
Don't let Apologetic fool you if his wife has any sense of fashion she would not allow him out of the house with his Brown shoes, black belt and blue slacks.
Christian and yes I do. Friends will tell me ';I look soo awesome';--my male friend will shoot me straight each %26amp; every time. He is not so ';straight';, I would not have him any other way.
I definately would. And note to Avenger, not all women are fashion savvy, that's quite the old time stereotype.
You have to admit they have great fashion taste but I like 6ofus answer the best.
No, but I'll start now.
Tell me what I should be wearing.
This is so childish
No...
No, flamboyant and campy isn't my style.
They got my last account banned, so no!
Geez, how many times must we explain this. By default, Christians are not anti-gay. Our belief that homosexuality is a sin does not make one anti-gay.
Regarding consulting a gay guy for fashion advice? Yes, but not because they were gay. But because they were a friend and I valued their opinion.
Peace.
Edit: Mr. Klown - you seem quite bigoted. You assume all Christians are anti-gay. You assume all gay men have a good fashion sense. You assume all straight men believe gay men have a good fashion sense. Might be time for some self-reflection.
Edit 2: Klowny, saying one particular group ';tends'; toward something is a slippery slope towards prejudice, don't you think?
Peace.Christian anti-gays: Do you ever consult a gay guy for fashion advice?
Hmmm... I am under the impression that ALL peoples are my Brothers and Sisters, no matter what. We have all sinned, so who am I to say that what another person does is any worse than what I have already done? Let me tell you, I make Paul look good. FACT! God bless everyone!
Do I? No. Would I? If I thought I needed it; if I had one as a friend.
Thankfully, most women I know have a reasonable sense of fashion (my wife included). Lord knows I didn't!
I'm not Anti-Gay but Anti-Gay behavior rather, But No, Nor to have my hair cut or my house decorated . I'm not a very fashionable or trendy person and I'm ok with that. God bless %26amp; Merry CHRISTmas !
No. I can pick out my own shirts and ties . . . . and if I have any trouble, I can just get what is in the catalog.
Dan in Miami
Don't let Apologetic fool you if his wife has any sense of fashion she would not allow him out of the house with his Brown shoes, black belt and blue slacks.
Christian and yes I do. Friends will tell me ';I look soo awesome';--my male friend will shoot me straight each %26amp; every time. He is not so ';straight';, I would not have him any other way.
I definately would. And note to Avenger, not all women are fashion savvy, that's quite the old time stereotype.
You have to admit they have great fashion taste but I like 6ofus answer the best.
No, but I'll start now.
Tell me what I should be wearing.
This is so childish
No...
No, flamboyant and campy isn't my style.
They got my last account banned, so no!
I'm a christian and live in a small town. it's hard to find a girl my age. Any advice?
34/m/louisiana. i love God, Sports, And moviesI'm a christian and live in a small town. it's hard to find a girl my age. Any advice?
Make a list of the attributes you want in a girl friend, only 10 in number. Do you want her to love the Lord? What job field do you want her to be in? etc.
It should be from #1 Spiritual to #10 hobbies with everything else in between.
Present this list to the Lord in prayer and ask Him to lead you to find the girl that He has for you. And leave it in His hands. I did this and God orchestrated events for me to meet my husband, who had also made a list. God is so good.I'm a christian and live in a small town. it's hard to find a girl my age. Any advice?
Go to church, obviously.
Also attend community functions and groups where good clean activities are the norm.
Volunteer at the hospital, Red Cross, library, or schools in your area.
Join a bowling league, community ball team, or Relay for Life team.
In other words, get out there and meet people......of all kinds and ages. That nice old man you help across the street may have a pretty grandaughter waiting on the other side. :-)
Look up christian chat rooms or christian dating sites. there are a lot more girls out there then u think. i did this and i found a lot of guys my age in my own town and only an hour or two away.
just wait and God will lead you to the right person!
yes i thank so
you should comfirm your e-mail address so when you send a girl a message she can respond ;) and.... you should get yahoo messenger LOL so that she can chat with you sometime : )
Make a list of the attributes you want in a girl friend, only 10 in number. Do you want her to love the Lord? What job field do you want her to be in? etc.
It should be from #1 Spiritual to #10 hobbies with everything else in between.
Present this list to the Lord in prayer and ask Him to lead you to find the girl that He has for you. And leave it in His hands. I did this and God orchestrated events for me to meet my husband, who had also made a list. God is so good.I'm a christian and live in a small town. it's hard to find a girl my age. Any advice?
Go to church, obviously.
Also attend community functions and groups where good clean activities are the norm.
Volunteer at the hospital, Red Cross, library, or schools in your area.
Join a bowling league, community ball team, or Relay for Life team.
In other words, get out there and meet people......of all kinds and ages. That nice old man you help across the street may have a pretty grandaughter waiting on the other side. :-)
Look up christian chat rooms or christian dating sites. there are a lot more girls out there then u think. i did this and i found a lot of guys my age in my own town and only an hour or two away.
just wait and God will lead you to the right person!
yes i thank so
you should comfirm your e-mail address so when you send a girl a message she can respond ;) and.... you should get yahoo messenger LOL so that she can chat with you sometime : )
I need some Christian advice?
So last school year I had a crush on this girl I liked in my class. We started as acquantinces until we flirted a lot with each other. So I spent many days wondering whether she liked me. I prayed for God to give me a sign if she likes me, and he did! One day, she made it so obvious she liked me! So I was happy, and started thinking we might end up together. But then school ended, and we lost contact with each other. So I now Ive been really confused about all this. I cant seem to figure if he's telling me to move on from her, or wait for her, as I'll probably see her next school year. What should I do?? Im really confused??I need some Christian advice?
alright first of all i am not trying to be mean but that definitely was not god answering a prayer like that. god only answers prayers that are according to his will and not things that are against it. what you should do is pray for gods will in your life and whatever it is it will happen as long as you continue in his word and obey. Jesus said that ';if you love me then you will obey me';. do you love him? obey him!I need some Christian advice?
Continue seeking God, He must be your first love. Don't let her distract you from drawing near to Him, or it will cause you much problems.
';School'; year?
Don't worry about any long-term relationships at this point.
you already asked this
There's lots of nice girls in the world.
Keep praying about it
You want the Physic Section,... (sigh).
goes to show your so called god is a load of boll^x ,showed you a sign my ars^
God provides direction but gives you the choice.
What do you want? Take that to God and see what he says.
Mat 16:4 A wicked and adulterous generation seeketh after a sign; and there shall no sign be given unto it, but the sign of the prophet Jonas. And he left them, and departed.
You don't need God's personal intervention- you just need the common sense He gave us!!
How OLD are you? High School? Then, don't even get so involved with one girl right now. My gosh- you need to concentrate on your college first- girls complicate everything. You're TOO YOUNG to be exclusive just yet.
Your tastes and maturity will change vastly from High School to your early 20's. The girls you look at now- you will say then- OH my gosh so glad I didn't get stuck with HER!
Believe me. I'm telling you the truth. High School- your hormones are doing all the talking and you MUST learn to overcome them with your brains or you are doomed to regrets.
If you are in college- well- IF you see her next term- and she still talks to you- you have a chance, to see if you two are on the same wave-length.
maybe she liked you anyway and god had nothing to do with it. you need relationship advice not religious advice. you must learn to differentiate between the two otherwise you will have a sad life just blaming god when things go wrong or praising when things go right. YOU make things happen.
ok you were so happy when SHE (not god) showed you that she liked you that you forgot to get her number before school ended, well that was silly wasn't it. now look up her number in the phone directory, call her and start to learn about all the wonders of sinning
Be careful.
Not all signs we invoke come from God, per se.
We may fabricate them ourselves to fill that void with hope.
Or it may be a bad sign.
For example, I was conflicted about a guy I was seeing who I wanted to date more seriously.
I was alone at night at my car, home from the grocery store. I was unloading my groceries when I saw a red fox in my yard after having prayed for a sign moments before.
Turns out, the guy I was dating turned out to be sly, cunning fox in the sense of he wasn't interested in a real relationship and would always hurt my feelings when I asked where we stood.
BUT a week after seeing the fox, I was on a date with a new guy and I broke my ring finger at a karaoke bar.
Just last month, I found a receipt for an engagement ring he bought me!!!prescription cream
alright first of all i am not trying to be mean but that definitely was not god answering a prayer like that. god only answers prayers that are according to his will and not things that are against it. what you should do is pray for gods will in your life and whatever it is it will happen as long as you continue in his word and obey. Jesus said that ';if you love me then you will obey me';. do you love him? obey him!I need some Christian advice?
Continue seeking God, He must be your first love. Don't let her distract you from drawing near to Him, or it will cause you much problems.
';School'; year?
Don't worry about any long-term relationships at this point.
you already asked this
There's lots of nice girls in the world.
Keep praying about it
You want the Physic Section,... (sigh).
goes to show your so called god is a load of boll^x ,showed you a sign my ars^
God provides direction but gives you the choice.
What do you want? Take that to God and see what he says.
Mat 16:4 A wicked and adulterous generation seeketh after a sign; and there shall no sign be given unto it, but the sign of the prophet Jonas. And he left them, and departed.
You don't need God's personal intervention- you just need the common sense He gave us!!
How OLD are you? High School? Then, don't even get so involved with one girl right now. My gosh- you need to concentrate on your college first- girls complicate everything. You're TOO YOUNG to be exclusive just yet.
Your tastes and maturity will change vastly from High School to your early 20's. The girls you look at now- you will say then- OH my gosh so glad I didn't get stuck with HER!
Believe me. I'm telling you the truth. High School- your hormones are doing all the talking and you MUST learn to overcome them with your brains or you are doomed to regrets.
If you are in college- well- IF you see her next term- and she still talks to you- you have a chance, to see if you two are on the same wave-length.
maybe she liked you anyway and god had nothing to do with it. you need relationship advice not religious advice. you must learn to differentiate between the two otherwise you will have a sad life just blaming god when things go wrong or praising when things go right. YOU make things happen.
ok you were so happy when SHE (not god) showed you that she liked you that you forgot to get her number before school ended, well that was silly wasn't it. now look up her number in the phone directory, call her and start to learn about all the wonders of sinning
Be careful.
Not all signs we invoke come from God, per se.
We may fabricate them ourselves to fill that void with hope.
Or it may be a bad sign.
For example, I was conflicted about a guy I was seeing who I wanted to date more seriously.
I was alone at night at my car, home from the grocery store. I was unloading my groceries when I saw a red fox in my yard after having prayed for a sign moments before.
Turns out, the guy I was dating turned out to be sly, cunning fox in the sense of he wasn't interested in a real relationship and would always hurt my feelings when I asked where we stood.
BUT a week after seeing the fox, I was on a date with a new guy and I broke my ring finger at a karaoke bar.
Just last month, I found a receipt for an engagement ring he bought me!!!
I need Christian advice.?
my bf %26amp; I have been 2gether 4 a while %26amp; we r both Christians. but recently i've let him ';touch me';, u know w/ his hands in my pants. anyway, we've never had sex %26amp; don't plan 2 until we're married. we've never even seen each other naked or even in underwear or underwear %26amp; bra 4 me or anything like that. we didn't even plan 2 go this far but i guess it was out of curiousity and human desire that this happened. i was wondering if it's wrong 2 do what we're doing? if so, is there any turning back now? is it possible 2 stop all 2gether? it's not that it doesn't feel good, that's a natural human thing, but i'm starting 2 feel a little worried. i didn't think anything of it until just the other day. please help. i don't want my relationship w/ God 2 suffer.I need Christian advice.?
Alright hunny, I am Christian too...I am glad that you yourself saw that it could be wrong and if you are worried then it is wrong. Touching is equally as bad because its sexual. It is very possible to stop all together. There is nothing better then waiting impatienty to make love with ';the one'; on your wedding night. If you really care...then you should stop. Kissing is as far as it should go. You guys can express your sexuality by emotions not physically pleasing eachother! Good Luck hunny! :)I need Christian advice.?
to deny your impulses is to deny the very thing that makes you human. if you do those things for love, and are true to eachother i dont see a problem. just make sure you respect eachothers boundries you know?
then ask jesus
Okay. It will only go as far as you guys let it!! I am a 22 year old virgin and waiting. I know how difficult it is. If you think it may go further than what you want then i would suggest you guys be around people when you guys are together. Never alone!!! Everyone who decided to wait for marriage has urges! You just have to try hard not to act on them. If you feel your relationship with God is going to suffer then pray about it. Um...im going to be in the same position as you with my guy soon, i just hope nothing ';bad'; happens!
I think you already know the answer to your question. You are just afraid that what you already know you are realizing what you are doing is wrong.
Yes, what is happening is wrong in the eyes of the church.
You need to be married before another man touches you in your ';certain places';.
No one ever ';plans'; to ';go this far'; as you say. Stuff like that has never been planned and never will be. It is always on the spur of the moment / heat of the moment.
The church says you should confess your sins to God or to a holy man - priest, minister, etc. and repent of your sins.
Depending on your religion - baptism may also be involved after you confess and repent.
Also the turning away from such activities is also preached by the church. You cannot continue to let him touch you anymore. Depending on your age, it may even be illegal.
If you are under 18 or 21, this kind of stuff is extremely illegal.
There are serious consequences for this kind of stuff under the state and federal laws for persons under 18 or 21.
Alright hunny, I am Christian too...I am glad that you yourself saw that it could be wrong and if you are worried then it is wrong. Touching is equally as bad because its sexual. It is very possible to stop all together. There is nothing better then waiting impatienty to make love with ';the one'; on your wedding night. If you really care...then you should stop. Kissing is as far as it should go. You guys can express your sexuality by emotions not physically pleasing eachother! Good Luck hunny! :)I need Christian advice.?
to deny your impulses is to deny the very thing that makes you human. if you do those things for love, and are true to eachother i dont see a problem. just make sure you respect eachothers boundries you know?
then ask jesus
Okay. It will only go as far as you guys let it!! I am a 22 year old virgin and waiting. I know how difficult it is. If you think it may go further than what you want then i would suggest you guys be around people when you guys are together. Never alone!!! Everyone who decided to wait for marriage has urges! You just have to try hard not to act on them. If you feel your relationship with God is going to suffer then pray about it. Um...im going to be in the same position as you with my guy soon, i just hope nothing ';bad'; happens!
I think you already know the answer to your question. You are just afraid that what you already know you are realizing what you are doing is wrong.
Yes, what is happening is wrong in the eyes of the church.
You need to be married before another man touches you in your ';certain places';.
No one ever ';plans'; to ';go this far'; as you say. Stuff like that has never been planned and never will be. It is always on the spur of the moment / heat of the moment.
The church says you should confess your sins to God or to a holy man - priest, minister, etc. and repent of your sins.
Depending on your religion - baptism may also be involved after you confess and repent.
Also the turning away from such activities is also preached by the church. You cannot continue to let him touch you anymore. Depending on your age, it may even be illegal.
If you are under 18 or 21, this kind of stuff is extremely illegal.
There are serious consequences for this kind of stuff under the state and federal laws for persons under 18 or 21.
Please help, your advice! I really enjoy sex, does that make me a sinful Christian?
If you have follow my posts... what happened is that I have decided to confront my girlfriend that I have been having sex with her best friend. Her best friend is a very devout Chrsitian girl and we have lots in common. My girlfriend does not understand this concept and I have attempted to educate her on the meaning of being a good Christian.
My dilemma is that I really enjoy having sex with this girl. Should I make a clean break and leave my girlfriend and be with this girl. I believe I might have sinned but it is with a Christian girl not a non-believer, Christ will understand this concept.Please help, your advice! I really enjoy sex, does that make me a sinful Christian?
of course christ will understand. like me i only kill people with someone else who believes in god. a sin is a sin, dont justify it and say christ will understandPlease help, your advice! I really enjoy sex, does that make me a sinful Christian?
If you are a Christian, premarital sex is a sin.
It does not matter with whom you are doing it, nor how much you enjoy it.
Christ reportedly got through his life without indulging. I'm guessing that if the dogma you are concerned about has any truth to it, he's not going to let it slide.
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no, it makes you a horny one.
You are here to learn how to love unconditionally. This does not mean having sex with as many cute girls as possible at the same time.
You are going to need to be honest at some point and stop using one of these girls as a sex toy. This is not a sin because God intended for you to learn by doing.
I really don't think God is going to be angry with you if you take a few more days to make up your mind about what the right thing to do is.
I suggest you pray to God and ask him to help you overcome this difficulty you are having choosing between these two young ladies.
Just ask him to wait a couple of weeks before he helps you.
Love and blessings Don
yeah I can see you're really intelligent so I'll make it nice and clear
try understanding the part in Ephesians 4 where it talks about exactly that subject:
17So I tell you this, and insist on it in the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their thinking. 18They are darkened in their understanding and separated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardening of their hearts. 19Having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, with a continual lust for more.
20You, however, did not come to know Christ that way. 21Surely you heard of him and were taught in him in accordance with the truth that is in Jesus. 22You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; 23to be made new in the attitude of your minds; 24and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.
PaulCyp has it right on the money
Of course not. Posting it on Yahoo shows you're simply
another @sshole!
what?????? do u think ur relationship will ever be blessed? not only have u sinned- u helped the best friend sin- and thats ok?? christ understands??? my friend - everyone sins, everyone falls short of the glory of god thats why he sent his son for our sins however___ god does look at our heart and our intent%26gt; in this area even for my self i have to lean not unto my own understanding. because the bible says we are forgiven but it also says we will be judged. repent will a true heart with true motives.( forgiveness) remember we are christians beacuse we are sinners. thank god for christ!!!!!!!! and for the record___ u r not a bad christian for loving sex-- he created it for us to enjoy--- but he did bring with it a covenant that we must obey-
Sex is dirty if it is done in sin. When two are married in the site of God, it is not sex...it is love making. God designed it for the good. Satan comes to take all that God gave us for good and use it for sin. Yes, it is a sin if it is sex you desire and not being right with God. It also defiles this womans soul because you are using her as an object for your pleasure and not respecting her as a wife and making it right with her soul with God to. It is sinful.If you respect God, her and yourself then you must live for Gods ways and not for your own selfish fulfillments.
Okay...let me get this straight. You are having sex with your girlfriends best friend, and you consider yourself and this best friend to be good Christians, but not your girlfriend???
You are an A$SWIPE!
Yes, definitely break up with her because she can do so much better than both of you. JERK!
It isn't a sin if you let Jesus have some too.
Contrary to popular belief, He does get erections.
No, Christ will not understand this. Sex outside the marriage is wrong, just as wrong as homesexual sex. Having sex with a Christian is deluted and sinful and destroys your testemony as a Christian. If you cannot be abstinate, you are not spiritual or a christian.
don't get mad at me I am not Christian, but I know what the bible says.
no sex until marriage!!
oh my goodness you really are looking for an excuse for your behaviour and it isnt going to wash
it doesnt matter who is Christian and who is not ..... you are
and your behaviour is sinful
i am not a Christian so i am answering you from that point of view
you have sex outside of marriage ... sinful
you have an affair behind your girlfriends back ... sinful
but you know what , i dont believe in sin
but dont try to excuse your behaviour
Selfishness is not particularly a spiritually healthy trait.
Let me get this straight ... Your girlfriend doesn't understand what it means to be a Christian, while you and her best friend have been committing fornication behind her back, in direct violation of the teaching of Christ. I'd say your girlfriend would benefit greatly by your getting out of her life. And you would benefit greatly from repenting and trying to live your life as a Christian. It isn't up to Christ to understand and approve your concepts. He surely does understand them, but He surely doesn't approve of them. It is your duty before God to understand and accept His concepts, and to live by them.
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It seems to me that even the athiest above recognized the sin in your behavior and actions, so if it's that obvious even to a non believer it must be obvious to you.
There is no excuse or justification for deliberate sin. By experience , I know first hand that if you continue to sin God, the Holy Spirit will withdraw and you will be left to deal with all the unpleasant consequences of those sins until you repent, which means ';to turn away from';. You cannot defile the Temple of the Holy Spirit and expect Him to be subjected to it. Fornication is sin, whether it's with a believer or a non beleiver. With a believer it's worse, because you are now both accountable.Not only that, as a Christian, what kind of example have you given to your non christian girlfriend? You have shown her that Christian boys can't be trusted and arent't faithful. Yet you as a christian are to imitate Christ and one of His traits that all of us rely on is that He is faithful and true to us. I would say that you talk the Christian talk but have yet to learn the christian walk. As for the consequences, just so that you know, one sin leads to another and another and each sin takes you further and further away from the truth. The devil will only decieve you if you are already decieving yourself.
Sorry if I sound harsh in this reply, but the truth is harsh sometimes and I do it in the love of Christ not wanting you or the girls to suffer some terrible consequenses.
Yes it does make you sinful. People who are guilty of adultery should be stoned to death as according to the Bible.
You are implying that this girl's feelings are less than that of someone who is Christian. This is both unethical and cruel.
My dilemma is that I really enjoy having sex with this girl. Should I make a clean break and leave my girlfriend and be with this girl. I believe I might have sinned but it is with a Christian girl not a non-believer, Christ will understand this concept.Please help, your advice! I really enjoy sex, does that make me a sinful Christian?
of course christ will understand. like me i only kill people with someone else who believes in god. a sin is a sin, dont justify it and say christ will understandPlease help, your advice! I really enjoy sex, does that make me a sinful Christian?
If you are a Christian, premarital sex is a sin.
It does not matter with whom you are doing it, nor how much you enjoy it.
Christ reportedly got through his life without indulging. I'm guessing that if the dogma you are concerned about has any truth to it, he's not going to let it slide.
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no, it makes you a horny one.
You are here to learn how to love unconditionally. This does not mean having sex with as many cute girls as possible at the same time.
You are going to need to be honest at some point and stop using one of these girls as a sex toy. This is not a sin because God intended for you to learn by doing.
I really don't think God is going to be angry with you if you take a few more days to make up your mind about what the right thing to do is.
I suggest you pray to God and ask him to help you overcome this difficulty you are having choosing between these two young ladies.
Just ask him to wait a couple of weeks before he helps you.
Love and blessings Don
yeah I can see you're really intelligent so I'll make it nice and clear
try understanding the part in Ephesians 4 where it talks about exactly that subject:
17So I tell you this, and insist on it in the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their thinking. 18They are darkened in their understanding and separated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardening of their hearts. 19Having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, with a continual lust for more.
20You, however, did not come to know Christ that way. 21Surely you heard of him and were taught in him in accordance with the truth that is in Jesus. 22You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; 23to be made new in the attitude of your minds; 24and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.
PaulCyp has it right on the money
Of course not. Posting it on Yahoo shows you're simply
another @sshole!
what?????? do u think ur relationship will ever be blessed? not only have u sinned- u helped the best friend sin- and thats ok?? christ understands??? my friend - everyone sins, everyone falls short of the glory of god thats why he sent his son for our sins however___ god does look at our heart and our intent%26gt; in this area even for my self i have to lean not unto my own understanding. because the bible says we are forgiven but it also says we will be judged. repent will a true heart with true motives.( forgiveness) remember we are christians beacuse we are sinners. thank god for christ!!!!!!!! and for the record___ u r not a bad christian for loving sex-- he created it for us to enjoy--- but he did bring with it a covenant that we must obey-
Sex is dirty if it is done in sin. When two are married in the site of God, it is not sex...it is love making. God designed it for the good. Satan comes to take all that God gave us for good and use it for sin. Yes, it is a sin if it is sex you desire and not being right with God. It also defiles this womans soul because you are using her as an object for your pleasure and not respecting her as a wife and making it right with her soul with God to. It is sinful.If you respect God, her and yourself then you must live for Gods ways and not for your own selfish fulfillments.
Okay...let me get this straight. You are having sex with your girlfriends best friend, and you consider yourself and this best friend to be good Christians, but not your girlfriend???
You are an A$SWIPE!
Yes, definitely break up with her because she can do so much better than both of you. JERK!
It isn't a sin if you let Jesus have some too.
Contrary to popular belief, He does get erections.
No, Christ will not understand this. Sex outside the marriage is wrong, just as wrong as homesexual sex. Having sex with a Christian is deluted and sinful and destroys your testemony as a Christian. If you cannot be abstinate, you are not spiritual or a christian.
don't get mad at me I am not Christian, but I know what the bible says.
no sex until marriage!!
oh my goodness you really are looking for an excuse for your behaviour and it isnt going to wash
it doesnt matter who is Christian and who is not ..... you are
and your behaviour is sinful
i am not a Christian so i am answering you from that point of view
you have sex outside of marriage ... sinful
you have an affair behind your girlfriends back ... sinful
but you know what , i dont believe in sin
but dont try to excuse your behaviour
Selfishness is not particularly a spiritually healthy trait.
Let me get this straight ... Your girlfriend doesn't understand what it means to be a Christian, while you and her best friend have been committing fornication behind her back, in direct violation of the teaching of Christ. I'd say your girlfriend would benefit greatly by your getting out of her life. And you would benefit greatly from repenting and trying to live your life as a Christian. It isn't up to Christ to understand and approve your concepts. He surely does understand them, but He surely doesn't approve of them. It is your duty before God to understand and accept His concepts, and to live by them.
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It seems to me that even the athiest above recognized the sin in your behavior and actions, so if it's that obvious even to a non believer it must be obvious to you.
There is no excuse or justification for deliberate sin. By experience , I know first hand that if you continue to sin God, the Holy Spirit will withdraw and you will be left to deal with all the unpleasant consequences of those sins until you repent, which means ';to turn away from';. You cannot defile the Temple of the Holy Spirit and expect Him to be subjected to it. Fornication is sin, whether it's with a believer or a non beleiver. With a believer it's worse, because you are now both accountable.Not only that, as a Christian, what kind of example have you given to your non christian girlfriend? You have shown her that Christian boys can't be trusted and arent't faithful. Yet you as a christian are to imitate Christ and one of His traits that all of us rely on is that He is faithful and true to us. I would say that you talk the Christian talk but have yet to learn the christian walk. As for the consequences, just so that you know, one sin leads to another and another and each sin takes you further and further away from the truth. The devil will only decieve you if you are already decieving yourself.
Sorry if I sound harsh in this reply, but the truth is harsh sometimes and I do it in the love of Christ not wanting you or the girls to suffer some terrible consequenses.
Yes it does make you sinful. People who are guilty of adultery should be stoned to death as according to the Bible.
You are implying that this girl's feelings are less than that of someone who is Christian. This is both unethical and cruel.
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