All they do is say how I'm this HORRIBLE person with no qualities, can't do anything, am Sh9t, won't amount to anything, a sinner, a bad person, etc....and mind you, I'm no terrorist, or criminal or even did anything really that bad in life, I'm just another guy, yet they claim to be my friends and tell me all of that stuff, meanwhile one of them used to be a drug dealer and sex addict, and is now cleaned up and the other one is pretty near white tr@sh.
I befriended them because of Christianity, but instead of showing me God's love, etc, they instead tell me all about surrendering myself to God, how I'm sh9t, how I'm nothing, how God is everything, and what not. They cite and quote scripture pretty well but they're pretty controlling, self-righteous, and ';look down'; on me.
one of them was like ';I don't give a sh9t how you feel! surrender to the lord!'; These people really don't give a rats a99 about me, I personally think they've just experienced their own life hardsihps and now look to God as an easy way out, and that's that.
How should we deal with other Christians that want to spew hatred, control and ';you're gonna burn'; at us, instead of filling us with love, compassion, kindness and what not?
I mean they literally HATE rational thought and think it's all the devil.
Writing books, producing movies, working and thinking about things that aren't somehow including ';God'; in it,...is just a sin, and you need to repent, and if not, you're going to have to face up to it on judgement day.
I mean that's all pretty d2mn harsh, and mean.These friends of mine claim to be Christian, yet feeds me negativity/control. Advice?
Dear Brad,
First off, thank you for your question. I definatly understand how you feel. Early on in my walk with Christ, I too felt the same way you do about those who profess Christ yet seem not to even follow his teachings.
But I have found that in every situation in our lives, we attract people, places and things into our lives based upon our own thoughts, feelings, and actions.
When dealing with hateful Christians, the first thing you need to ask yourself is what is it about their and actions that I have a problem with? Try to think about it in an objective way, without any emotional attachment to the situation.
Then ask yourself, What is it about my own thoughts that attract such critizism. Again think about it without any emotional attachment.
Then ask yourself three simple question: (The way you answer the questions is not as important as asking them.)
Can I accept this feeling?
Can I let go of this feeling?
When?
It is very important to understand that it is your thoughts, emotions, and feelings that you project on the world that attracts to yourself the circumstances you are in.
You said that you managed to combat poverty, being kicked out of your parents house, homophobia, drug addiction and all of those other things by myself, before I even knew God.
That is wonderful news. You already understand the law as it is. You did those things because you made the mental decision to do them and then you acted upon it. It is not up to religion to help you financially, emotionally or intellectually. It is up to you to do these things.
GOD has made us in his own image able, to create as GOD does. We have been given the power of free will, and the ability to create in our lives whatever we so desire.
As for those who say we are nothing without GOD. They are right in one sense. We are nothing without GOD, because we were created by GOD and only by GOD do we continue to exist. By GOD鈥檚 will alone, do we exist or not. There is no reason to fear, because there is no power outside of GOD nor any power greater than GOD. Therefore, we are all held closely in the heart of GOD. Because of this, we can only be do or have, because of GOD.
Let those who wish to remain in hate and fear continue to do so. You must make the decision to follow Christ the way GOD intended, with love, mercy, and forgiveness. If your friends, refuse to be the light of Christ in your life, then you be the light of Christ in theirs. Understand that you can influence others, but never let other influence you. If you would like, you can visit www.savedfw.com to download a free ebook on the very subject we are talking about.
And always remember this, it is not what other people say or do to you that matters, it is what you say and do to others that matters. That includes yourself.These friends of mine claim to be Christian, yet feeds me negativity/control. Advice?
Better to go on alone than with poisonous relationships. At least alone, you'll have room and the ability to cultivate good friends. Poisonous people and relationships will consume all your time, energy, and space. Best to distance yourself and go on.
Redundant (but necessary) advice:
Get yourself some new friends.
Why all the hate, Christians?!
Do you see where we're going with this?
You REALLY might want to consider finding other ';friends';, since these apparently don't fit the bill.
you are generalizing and assuming everyone is the same which isnt true...you can find friends more like yourself but see friends...TIRH...
TROLL ALERT
Your ';friends'; are giving you conflict and hatred, not unlike some of the answers here that rail against Christians (as though what you describe is Christian).
One can wear the label ';Christian'; and do it poorly. Jesus teaches us to love one another as we would be loved. If this sounds completely incompatible with what you are describing, that's because it is.
In other words, this isn't Christianity whatsoever. Nor is it friendship. Both of these terms are (like most anything else in this world) easily abused and used by people who don't understand a thing about them. None of this has anything to do with Christianity, religion in general or any such thing. Do NOT make the mistake of believing this behavior is representative of God because it is in DIRECT conflict with what we are commanded to do.
It doesn't matter what I wear, if I'm not authentically what I claim then I'm something else altogether - along with a deceiver of myself.
I encourage you to find a church that is populated with authentic Christians.
God bless you.
Just avoid such negative people. ( and consider how he was raised. Not all christians are negative ..nor are all atheists. )
Please go and get yourself some decent friends who know the meaning of love and friendship.
Remember, Jesus loves you. Not.
You whine a lot. You should be on the Oprah Show.
Religion is like a vampire, they suck out your blood and make you feel dizzy.
Ever heard of the Falcon Punch?
sounds like you need new friends to me..
Those are not the sort of people who make good friends. Just get out of there.
I invite you to visit my site... just one old guy and an amateur site... no hassles... if you got a question get in touch... just go to the contact page.
http://www.mikesfaith.com
Distance yourself from these mind control cults.
There are positive and negative people in all walks of like not just religious people. This sounds to me as as one of those churches that push salvation by works instead of grace. And I'm not saying one is wrong and the other is right, but it seems to me they are being poorly deciples.
In short get friends a new church and be the change you want to see.
It sounds to me like you're realizing the insanity of religion first-hand. Christianity loves the desperate, broken-down people with addictions and criminal backgrounds. They just gobble them up and give them a new addiction - God! An illusion.
It also sounds to me like you're too smart to go along with all of this nonsense.
I recommend that if you're searching for God, simply do it on your own without a third party in between. You came along way without religion, so you should already know that it's neither necessary nor actually helpful for someone with an inquisitive mind. It's only a distraction, a diversion from discovering the truth independently.
Abandon these so-called friends, and their religion too. That's my advice.
With all respect to your question not all Christians are the same. There are some believers who only read a handful of the bible, and then feel they have the bible knowledge to lead, making mistakes out of pride and causing people to lose confidence in Christianity. Now my question is this? . . do you believe in the bible? If so then you need to find Bible studies. . you can find them on the web for free, bookstores, and other places. A person can say all that they want to try and convince you, but if your mind and heart are made up then it dosn't matter what they say. If you are serious to learn truth, then take a leap of faith and pray about it with a sincere heart. What do you have to lose?? Another thing to remember is that Jesus was not only recognized by the bible, but by history as well. Thousands of people witnessed him do miracles that were never done before. At the age of 12 he was teaching to adults in the temples. Jesus claimed to be the Son of God and was killed because of this. In that time people feared talking about Jesus because they could be thrown in Jail, tortured, or killed. But they did anyway because they seen the things he had done. Now put yourself in their shoes a moment. . would you have testified to the things he had done knowing that you are putting yourself in harm. If you didn't see him do these things would you have testified to your own demise? Probably not. . that is why i believe this is a great reason for the truth of Jesus.
To judge your friendships remember this quote from scripture.. . You will know them by their own fruits. If they are putting you down instead of trying to lift you up and help your spirituality, then they are not practicing the Love of God.
But I don't know them! maybe their intentions are for you, but they are not expressing themselves in the positive manner they should be.
Heres a great website to check out http://www.christianityoasis.com/Keyword鈥?/a> God Bless You and I hope you are lead in the right direction to hapiness.
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